Short version:
Bloke has been on the dole. Getting very depressed and wants to do something about it. Would like to hear other life experiences from other forum or family members.
Long version:
I've been on the dole for the past 3 years. My last job was on a temporary basis and with the end of that coming up, and the birth of my first baby, i became a stay at home dad helping my mrs look after the baby. I've done literally nothing with my life in the last 3 years except stay at home. The relationship between my and my mrs is at breaking point. It would do us the world of good to be apart more and get out of each others pocket.
Now my kid is starting play school in january, it's going to get real boring not having him around. There is also the money problems. I'm living off my overdraft which is limited to £1750. It regularly goes over that limit which costs £22 a time. I get charged £15 per month for the privilege of the overdraft plus another £20 interest, so the fees start mounting pretty quickly, especially when i go over the limit twice which results in £80 some months coming out my bank just in charges. This plus a £1300 balance with a minimum payment of £40pm on my credit card, i just cannot sustain this level of debt for any longer.
There is also the depression. I'm a changed person inside. I've worked most my adult life. I want all the nice things back in my life. Get my car back on the road (S14) and do the things i did when i actually had money.
The thing is, i'm petrified at the thought of going back to work. The whole thought of job interviews, application forms, first day at work trying not to mess anything up is a terrifying thought for me. I can see why people stay out of work. It's a scary process of quitting the easy life and starting work. I guess they are also happy sitting around all day just getting by in life, they don't have the drive to start work again. Most people around my estate are druggie dole dossers waiting outside the jobcentre for their giro's with their kestrel super in one hand, a spliff in the other and a staffy on a choker chain. I don't want to be like them, but the sad truth is, i am. I'm choosing not to work. I'm perfectly healthy but i'm a lazy bum. I'm no better than them because of it.
My upbringing as a child was that of any other normal kid. Both parents worked, niether smoked or drank. All my childhood mates are in full time work with their own houses and nice cars and here's me, a dole dossing nobody with no money. My biggest piece of advice for anyone in a similar position to myself is, surround yourself with decent mates. It gives you the drive to be like them. I can only imagine if all my mates were like the dossers i described. I highly doubt i would even be writing this if they were like that.
Point of this thread? Nothing really. Just needed to vent i suppose and get it off my chest. It would be nice if you all shared your similar stories so i don't feel so damn low all the time. Cue the next 40 replies of 'OKAYYY' and then hopefully a few of you can share your stories
Bloke has been on the dole. Getting very depressed and wants to do something about it. Would like to hear other life experiences from other forum or family members.
Long version:
I've been on the dole for the past 3 years. My last job was on a temporary basis and with the end of that coming up, and the birth of my first baby, i became a stay at home dad helping my mrs look after the baby. I've done literally nothing with my life in the last 3 years except stay at home. The relationship between my and my mrs is at breaking point. It would do us the world of good to be apart more and get out of each others pocket.
Now my kid is starting play school in january, it's going to get real boring not having him around. There is also the money problems. I'm living off my overdraft which is limited to £1750. It regularly goes over that limit which costs £22 a time. I get charged £15 per month for the privilege of the overdraft plus another £20 interest, so the fees start mounting pretty quickly, especially when i go over the limit twice which results in £80 some months coming out my bank just in charges. This plus a £1300 balance with a minimum payment of £40pm on my credit card, i just cannot sustain this level of debt for any longer.
There is also the depression. I'm a changed person inside. I've worked most my adult life. I want all the nice things back in my life. Get my car back on the road (S14) and do the things i did when i actually had money.
The thing is, i'm petrified at the thought of going back to work. The whole thought of job interviews, application forms, first day at work trying not to mess anything up is a terrifying thought for me. I can see why people stay out of work. It's a scary process of quitting the easy life and starting work. I guess they are also happy sitting around all day just getting by in life, they don't have the drive to start work again. Most people around my estate are druggie dole dossers waiting outside the jobcentre for their giro's with their kestrel super in one hand, a spliff in the other and a staffy on a choker chain. I don't want to be like them, but the sad truth is, i am. I'm choosing not to work. I'm perfectly healthy but i'm a lazy bum. I'm no better than them because of it.
My upbringing as a child was that of any other normal kid. Both parents worked, niether smoked or drank. All my childhood mates are in full time work with their own houses and nice cars and here's me, a dole dossing nobody with no money. My biggest piece of advice for anyone in a similar position to myself is, surround yourself with decent mates. It gives you the drive to be like them. I can only imagine if all my mates were like the dossers i described. I highly doubt i would even be writing this if they were like that.
Point of this thread? Nothing really. Just needed to vent i suppose and get it off my chest. It would be nice if you all shared your similar stories so i don't feel so damn low all the time. Cue the next 40 replies of 'OKAYYY' and then hopefully a few of you can share your stories
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