Dilemma - To homewreck or not to homewreck
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So you dont mind if snog your future GF then?
Rubbish, generic throwaway rubbish.
I was a serial cheater until I met my wife. I haven't cheated in all the time we have been together, 1993.
"Once a cheater always a cheater"
This thread sounds like an episode of Oprah.
People do actually change, thankfully. Probably getting this attitude because it's a women and not a man doing the cheating.
Thanks one and all for the responses. I think it was helpful just to get it all out and sort the facts in my mind. Some hilarious posts there, but also some which clearly betray having been cheated on which has brought home the repurcussions of what is happening.
In my mind, she is confused about what to do. I think her feelings for me are genuine but she is hesitating on leaving her boyfriend, possibly for emotional reasons but also quite possibly because it is difficult to detach from a situation like that (especially when you live together).
I can't in all good conscience ignore her, so I guess it will be option d for me. If I was in her boyfs shoes, I guess I would be devastated if my gf had feelings for someone else, but then again what can you do - you can't help who you fall in love with. Saying that, if something does happen and he wants to smack me then I'll give him one for free.
p.s. omg is she HAWT! Well, at least I think so. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that.
Been here - the girl in the relationship - i was tempted to cheat but I didn't but there was a guy who I could have and, looking back, should have got with and thrown the then BF to the way side.
BF @ the time was a very very heavy drinker and used to be quiet aggressive with it
Guy who I should have left him for, was everything I needed at the time, but (for what ever stupid reason) I couldn't leave current BF
Some girls cheat cause they are unhappy in a relationship and wont face facts and end the relationship, some girls cheat cause they cant keep their legs together...once a cheater doesn't always mean, always the cheater!
OP: just be there for her - if you like her so much this shouldn't be a problem. Say you think you want more but you don't want to push her. And leave it there - try not to keep kissing her tho
Could be seen the other way round too - if she didnt contact him it could be because she felt it would be wrong on her bf, which from the OP's posts it sounds like she has at least a little bit of morals. THis off course does not excuse any kissing etc that has already happened...it sounds like she is really confused.
Although she's the one that needs to make the decision. Also I actually can't stand people that make a move on a girl when they know they have a boyfriend, no respect whatsoever.
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Hey op you know what?
No offence but your a right Div.
Simply put that guy probabaly loves his girlfriend, shes off maybe bored of her relationship but cant have the moral decency to break up with him. Messing around with you and i dont care what your bloody reasons are im 21 mate and even I know its wrong. You should think with your head and not your bell end. You knew he was in the next room but you kissed her anyway?
Forget about her you need to think about the way your behaving too. End of the day you will have hurt this guy and thats not cool man. He doesnt deserve this does he? if she had any respect for the guy or you then she would leave him before this happend, casual flirting? i dont necesarily have any issues with that but you kissed her and you allowed it and thats to far.
I have messed around a lot in my time and i have made many mistakes doing things like this when i was younger. I know how it feels to be the bell end who does it and let me tell you after the nice feeling of getting off with this bird has passed you will realise that she could have easily of just done that to you and it will be in your mind for a long time..
If i was that guy and i found out you did it KNOWINGLY in the next room with my girlfriend i would love to attempt to demolish you, and if you do go off with his bird and he finds out you better be expecting some not so nice drama. If you had not known and it was all my girlfriends doing then i would be angry towards my gf not you because how were you to know? but in this case you DID.
Face it forget the way shes being if your even considering it your being a absoloute mug, 1 for hurting this guy 2 for not using ur bloody head this stuff is not a joke mate you come on here with this post as if its something minor your doing.
Be a decent man.
Btw if you don't like what i say then tough I say it how it is. I have been with my gf for three years and ive done all that nonsense and honestly if that was me in the other room omg you have no idea mate....No respect.
No offence but your a right Div.
Simply put that guy probabaly loves his girlfriend, shes off maybe bored of her relationship but cant have the moral decency to break up with him. Messing around with you and i dont care what your bloody reasons are im 21 mate and even I know its wrong. You should think with your head and not your bell end. You knew he was in the next room but you kissed her anyway?
Forget about her you need to think about the way your behaving too. End of the day you will have hurt this guy and thats not cool man. He doesnt deserve this does he? if she had any respect for the guy or you then she would leave him before this happend, casual flirting? i dont necesarily have any issues with that but you kissed her and you allowed it and thats to far.
I have messed around a lot in my time and i have made many mistakes doing things like this when i was younger. I know how it feels to be the bell end who does it and let me tell you after the nice feeling of getting off with this bird has passed you will realise that she could have easily of just done that to you and it will be in your mind for a long time..
If i was that guy and i found out you did it KNOWINGLY in the next room with my girlfriend i would love to attempt to demolish you, and if you do go off with his bird and he finds out you better be expecting some not so nice drama. If you had not known and it was all my girlfriends doing then i would be angry towards my gf not you because how were you to know? but in this case you DID.
Face it forget the way shes being if your even considering it your being a absoloute mug, 1 for hurting this guy 2 for not using ur bloody head this stuff is not a joke mate you come on here with this post as if its something minor your doing.
Be a decent man.
Btw if you don't like what i say then tough I say it how it is. I have been with my gf for three years and ive done all that nonsense and honestly if that was me in the other room omg you have no idea mate....No respect.
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Lulz
Where is your bro code? You may not be friends but you have to work with him?! Could result in tension at work and dismissal?
You should feel awful, she is off the market and if she is that into you then you need to say leave your boyfriend for me. She won't though as she is just loving a bit of attention from you and wants to string you along.
Best option is to forget about her to save all three of your a lot of trouble. If you keep this kissing thing going on or end up smashing her then you are really not a great person and also quite weak!
You should feel awful, she is off the market and if she is that into you then you need to say leave your boyfriend for me. She won't though as she is just loving a bit of attention from you and wants to string you along.
Best option is to forget about her to save all three of your a lot of trouble. If you keep this kissing thing going on or end up smashing her then you are really not a great person and also quite weak!
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