Thanks dad

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Sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how tough it is.

This is something I've been thinking a lot about recently, as my dad's been recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. 12 months...
http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showpost.php?p=19986917&postcount=57

Well, he didn't make it anywhere near 12months thanks to a metastasized tumour in his brain. Now I dont need to imagine :(

I'm glad he got past xmas - it was a 'good' family time. He got worse quite quickly afterwards, so I'm happy for small mercies that it wasn't drawn-out.

I'd recently told him that I loved him, and our last contact was a big hug, so I have no regrets - may you all be as 'fortunate'.

I've been fielding phone calls and doing this and that. Putting on a face and being there for mum, who is destroyed, and my younger bro. He only started a placement yesterday, poor sod.

I guess it (all this) was all gonna come out sooner or later :(

The life that I have
Is all that I have
And the life that I have
Is yours

The love that I have
Of the life that I have
Is yours and yours and yours

A sleep I shall have
A rest I shall have
Yet death will be but a pause

For the peace of my years
In the long green grass
Will be yours and yours
And yours

Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you planned
Only remember me;

You understand it will be late to counsel then or pray
Yet if you should forget me for a while and afterwards remember,
Do not grieve
For if the darkness and corruption
Leave a vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

Thanks for everything dad.


ps, can anyone find the (best) dad song that was mentioned here a while back - I cant seem to find it.
 
Jesus H Christ dude - There's nothing I can say/type that will in any way make you feel any better :(

I am truly sorry for your loss, remember the good times - you know it's what he would have wanted.
 
So sorry for your loss. I know too well what it is like to loose a loved one. Never easy. Never gets any easier. Just always remember the good times you had with your Dad, he is always with you. You only have to close your eyes and you can see him and hear him.

Condolences to your family.
 
Sorry for your loss Amleto - it sounds like you had a great relationship with your Dad.

I've fielded similar calls and felt like i had to keep the family togther - it can be a blessed distraction but don't be surprised if you get side swiped later on with the emotion of it all. And if you do make sure you take time out for yourself...

Condolences to you and yours...
 
i'm very sorry to hear about your loss, i today lost a family member and its very tough but i can't imagine losing someone as close as you have, brings a tear to your eye when you see someone so deidicated to their family and it shows from this post how much you loved each other, now is the time to look to the future but never forget the no doubt amazing memories :-)

take care... and sorry again :-)
 
If nothing else, be consoled thtat i was going to bdo something drastic tonighnt, which in lighto f your horor has stopped me form doing.

Sray safe. L)
 
That's a lovely post, I could only hope for such composure.

So sorry to hear about your dad.
 
My dad was given 3 months in the end, it was 5 years after being diagnosed though. I never accepted it which looking back was a big mistake.

It gets bit easier but there's part of it I'll never get over. Watching someone die in front of you is pretty horrific, especially someone you've know all your life. Sounds like you got to spent some time with your dad whilst he was with you so you should be thankful for that :)
 
Sorry for your loss, It's nice that you had some time together as a family just before the end.

I only wish that I could have seen my mum more before she passed away to at least have some form of goodbye.

Stay strong, but try not to over burden yourself otherwise you will burn yourself out.
 
So sorry to hear of your loss and so pleased to hear that you are happy with the time you last spent with him, that's such a rare thing.
 
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