opinion on bf/gf cheating....

helpimcrap said:
Hi guys - i'm having a discussion with a rather opinionated lady who thinks i am a right **** apparently.

Reason being:-

I once split up with a girlfriend because i considered cheating (never have - never will!) and because of that i thought i can't really be in love and she deserves better.

Apparently 'thinking' about it is as bad as actually doing it!? WTF.....

I'd like opinions on this - particularly off any girls please....
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It depends what you mean by 'considered cheating' is it you just saw a girl that you liked and thought 'I'd like a piece of that', or did you get yourself in to a position whereby you could have cheated if you wanted to? If its the latter then its an entirely different proposition as there is intent as opposed to the former where there isn't.
 
Kristoph said:
Don't start picking on the girls of the forum.
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I don't think that 'thought cheating' is the same as cheating. I think you're right, if you're considering cheating then you can't be with the right person.

When you said you never cheated... Did you break up with the girl to then get with the other one? That sort of makes a difference to me but I'm not sure why.
 
RomanNose said:
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Made me chuckle...

It depends what you mean. Because in my mind there's a difference.

So are you just thinking 'ooh she's hot, I wouldn't mind' kind of thing, knowing that it wouldn't happen because you're not single, but if you were, well yeah... - kind of in the same way you might think this about a celebrity/model

Or are you thinking 'if she said to me right now, "I want you now" I'd do it, despite being in a relationship..

Because the first is normal, the second is more borderline, but again I think everyone probably has weak moments, however haven't personally had the second moments :)

kd
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helpimcrap said:
Hi guys - i'm having a discussion with a rather opinionated lady who thinks i am a right **** apparently.

Reason being:-

I once split up with a girlfriend because i considered cheating (never have - never will!) and because of that i thought i can't really be in love and she deserves better.

Apparently 'thinking' about it is as bad as actually doing it!? WTF.....

I'd like opinions on this - particularly off any girls please....
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Did you just 'consider it' or did you really really want to but exercised self restraint?
If it was the former then the point might be held that you are a cold mofo. :p
If it was the latter, then breaking up was probably the right thing to do. On the other hand, why did you get together in the first place, and for how long?

To my mind, everybody thinks what that nice looking bit of fluff would be like to roll with - grass is always greener and all of that - that doesn't make you a cheater, that just makes you human. Casting a roving eye and a casual thought 'what if?' is not the same as constantly wanting to be with someone else... or actually getting it on.

However, women's feelings (hormones) trump any male logic.
 
Ah, I await the words of the "once a cheat always a cheat herpy derp" crew :p

Thought cheating, just lol

It's not what you think, it's your actions that define you.

I learnt that lesson from ****ing Dumbledoor for christ's sake!
 
If you are going to do something with the girl, then do it before breaking up. No point shooting yourself in the foot if it doesn't work out or is just a one night thing.
 
helpimcrap said:
I'd like opinions on this
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Nothing wrong with what you done. There's not much you can do about lusting for someone else, it just happens, it's about having respect for your partner to end it before something does happen. That woman is being silly.

Ahleckz said:
If you are going to do something with the girl, then do it before breaking up. No point shooting yourself in the foot if it doesn't work out or is just a one night thing.
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It's this type of mentality that is very distasteful. Ignore this man, he's from Glasgow.
 
sniffy said:
Nothing wrong with what you done. There's not much you can do about lusting for someone else, it just happens, it's about having respect for your partner to end it before something does happen. That woman is being silly.



It's this type of mentality that is very distasteful. Ignore this man, he's from Glasgow.
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He's not, plus I don't see where I live has anything to do with this discussion. You're just a small minded bigot, right?
 
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Its cheating in my opinion when you kiss, fondle, touch, smash pasty with another person.

I can forgive a drunken snog/fondle I reckon but not full on smashing.

Everyone thinks about sleeping with other people whilst with someone its just how it is, you can look, think about but not touch. One sanctuary we have is our imaginations. however...

if you are planning to and will follow through with the pasty smash then yes, break up with that person because its obvious your not that into them but only if you literally know 100 percent your going there...

best case in this scenario is fap test!

If you still want them/like them after a fap then its got to be done as a lot of the time its just your thinking with your penis.
 
Eww, why do boys have to deal with themselves anyway? Any boyfriend of mine has been told he can't do this. It's disrespectful to me to show that I'm not enough for him or he has to go and watch 'those films'. And that's another thing - no BF of mine has been allowed to watch that stuff, it's disgusting and misogynistic.
 
Nitefly said:
Ah, I await the words of the "once a cheat always a cheat herpy derp" crew :p

Thought cheating, just lol

It's not what you think, it's your actions that define you.

I learnt that lesson from ****ing Dumbledoor for christ's sake!
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Isn't that from Spiderman... Mary Jane says it to Peter Parker....

kd
 
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