How do you meet new people?
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If your a nice guy, people will come to you and want to be "your" friend. Rather than you chasing them
Join a badminton club, most of them are friendly.
Disagree with the first part of this. For example I'm a really nice guy and no-one notices me. The only conversations I have with people are ones I start and they tend to be infrequent, short and awkward. I guess I don't have the "friendly" body language or some such crap. Meh.
I agree with the second part though. Also badminton clubs are full of girls who are crap at badminton, so unless you're also crap then they will be impressed with your skills (I assume you have basic badminton experience from school when you were younger. This'll be enough to be better than most of the people there). Girls just go to these clubs to stand still near the net and gently toss the shuttle back and forth while gossiping, and getting no exercise whatsoever.
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Open front door > Say moo to someone.
[FnG]magnolia;21375068 said:
As a regular LAN goer I'd like to point out that not everyone who goes to them is really strange....
Just a large amount of them!
I've met some really good friends through playing games, going to Silverstone for the F1 for the second year on the trot with a group of them
You do get some odd interets but on the other hand most people can sustain a conversation about some more in depth than celebrity and pop music gossip
Me too! U a beige over coat man or black?
I'm a beige man with knee high socks and Jesus sandals that's how I role....
Newsflash: You are not the only person looking for friends.
Joining your local rambling group is a good way to get started. They're a friendly bunch, generally speaking, and you'll have plenty of time to chat with different people while out and about since there is nothing else to do. If you're anywhere near a major city, there should be a group for young people (i.e. under 40) nearby. Even if there isn't, it'd be worth hanging out with the old fogies to practice your talking and listening skills (if you were a master at both already, you wouldn't have this problem).
http://www.ramblers.org.uk/areas_groups/areas_and_groups
I think this is a better option than trying to chat people up at the gym or whatever because almost everyone on a walk is there to meet people and they invariably end at a pub.
Being nice is not enough, most people are nice when you first meet them, you should instead try to give off a positive fun vibe, be slightly more energetic than those around you and people will naturally be attracted to you, this isn't some mumbo jumbo, if you get in a happy/positive state your body language and speech patterns follow, its hard to fake a smile or good body language, feeling it is the only way to truly act it, bonus is you feel better anyway.
do what that kid from home alone done, recreate a party in your house twice a week with blow up dolls and cardboard cut outs on model trains going round tracks to give the impression that your house is a hip happening pad, people passing will take serious note and eventually droves of new hip happening people will flock to your house and bingo, new friends..
i personally prefer a life of solitude
i personally prefer a life of solitude
I occasionally go to 'Skeptics in the Pub'. It's just a get together every month or so, where an invited speaker will come along and talk about a subject and you all get involved. There'll probably be one in your city, check Facebook. Whilst I haven't been enough times to make any friends, I know someone who has made some friends out of it. Good to do if you enjoy debating things, over a few beers. Not all the get together's have to be physical.
It's pretty geeky, my girlfriend thinks I'm a right saddo whenever I go but they are enjoyable.
No one from the Glasgow meet wanted to be my friend.
It's pretty geeky, my girlfriend thinks I'm a right saddo whenever I go but they are enjoyable.
No one from the Glasgow meet wanted to be my friend.
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I'm in the same boat OP, only I moved country. Met some English people and went out with them quite a few times, but I had to kind of force myself to get along with them as they wernt the sort of people I'd normally mix with. After a few months we ended up getting in trouble with police and chucked out of a hotel so I abandoned that idea and now im forever alone again!
forever alone is the best way, you do what you want when you want, with who you wa... wait...
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Just take up alcoholism (functional alcoholism obviously) & start speaking to yourself.
You'll never be lonely.
I also joined the no friends brigade after moving away with the GF.
You'll never be lonely.
I also joined the no friends brigade after moving away with the GF.