Promiscuous girls/women

In the same boat as the OP in terms of 'waiting for the right one' I've had plenty of opportunity to get my end away but doing it with any old person simply doesn't appeal to me, whether it's good experience or not. I would also be inclined to think slightly less of someone (in terms of a potential relationship with that person) if they had slept with a large number of people, not because I believe everyone should have the same ideals as me but because I believe it makes it easier to be in a long lasting relationship if you do.

For some context the last person I dated for a while had slept with a previous partner and my previous girlfriend of six months had a child. My standards are my own, I don't feel the need to impose them on other people.
 
Find one you like and does what she's told (and cooks) and never let her go!

8 years later, we're engaged lol

****ty girls are fine if you like that itchy crotch thing they got going on, not to mention the hotdog/hallways thing
 
I think it's a hormone thing. I mean us lads are driven by the idea of getting our end away, and girls are the same. It's a physical need I think, if you are normal. Ultimately for them the idea is that they get their vagina full of sperm. Obviously net result, baby. The gratification is present regardless of any perceived( or not ) maternal instinct. Or paternal, obviously. I think the issue of female promiscuity is of particular interest in our times. There will have always been slappers, but what's happening in society today is a bit different. Anyone heard of Beatle mania? Thousands of young girls wanting to break free from (the doctrine of the past. i.e Don't sleep around, you'll be known as a slapper)- "shame on our family". It's all part of our modern humanist times. That's not to say that everything about our modern humanist times is great. We've got problems with under age pregnancy, single parent families, broken homes etc. Can you lay the blame of all of that at the door of the rise of female promiscuity? I think there is a bit more to it than that. I've done some serious humping in my time and I consider myself to be an extremely moral person. Potentially, why should a woman be any different to me in that respect. Because the baby pops out of her and not me? No. There is more contraception out there than you could shake a stick at. The social problems come when peoples own desire exceeds any consideration for the consequences of their actions, and that is male or female. Peoples sensibilities with regard to the sexual activity( past or present ), of their partners will always vary. From bondage swingers to hermit prudes. There's probably more likelihood of errant pregnancies in the heat of the moment from a hermit prude, who rips his jonny to pieces in his hurry to get it on.
 
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Hikari Kisugi said:
It is when the other person is waiting until marriage before they have sex, it is pretty damn fundamental.
It isnt in every relationship, but it clearly is for this man.

I dont understand people attacking someone as he wants to wait until he s married, and is hoping for someone whomisnt overly promiscious to be his one.
Yet he is being ravaged and slaughtered in this thread.

Its his own bloody opinion and business, not yours.
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I agree.

I think the OP is being silly and reducing his own chance of happiness for some arbritrary rules he's made up, but that is indeed his business. He's gone out of his way to make it clear that he doesn't want other people to follow his rules, so he's certainly not trying to impose them on other people.

I've never even thought to ask anyone I've been with how many people they've had sex with before. I don't see any relevance. Even if it's a monogamous relationship, I wasn't going out with them before I was going out with them (obviously), so why should I care if they've had sex with 5 other people or 50?

But I won't demand that the OP arranges his private life the same way that I do.
 
The__Malteser said:
EDIT: @Nersuy. I know a guy on another forum who had this wish (can you call it that) to have sex with a mature woman. He went on a dating website, renowned with this sort of stuff (the name has got to do with a sea animal :P) and he said that she was so loose, that he literally felt nothing, and it was one of the worst times ever. I knew I had to put tightness in there somewhere eh?! :P
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You know this probably has more to do with childbirth rather than number of sexual partners?
 
RDM said:
You know this probably has more to do with childbirth rather than number of sexual partners?
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The whole bucket-**** analogy has always irked me. How can someone who has been with one guy, buy had sex 100 times with him, be less loose than someone who has had 50 one night stands?

As for the the actual OP, I've never understood 2 aspects of waiting until marriage.

1. Would suck to be together for years, then get married, and then discover that you aren't sexually compatible (some people just aren't).

2. If you met the (almost) perfect women, say you were both 32, and she had slept with 6 people over the 14 years of sexual activity (all long term relationships), would you really dismiss her for that? Remember, perfect in every other aspect other than this arbitrary number.
 
krooton said:
The whole bucket-**** analogy has always irked me. How can someone who has been with one guy, buy had sex 100 times with him, be less loose than someone who has had 50 one night stands?
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It is just another example of the general mysoginy surrounding sex.
 
krooton said:
slept with 6 people
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Sleeping with more than none people drastically increases the odds of them having slept with someone who can function normally, thus making me absolutely useless in comparison.

Seriously though I think the pressure has always been on guys to perform, women don't seem to be blamed when it doesn't go well, and the more partners a woman has had before the more pressure a guy feels under.
 
Hikari Kisugi said:
Celebrate in the new house?
You'll have to christen every room you know :)
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Would love to, except the mortgage company is holding things up because they're not happy with how the insurance is "worded" but thats another rather annoying story lol.

But yeah, christening every room in the house is on the "To Do List"
 
krooton said:
The whole bucket-**** analogy has always irked me. How can someone who has been with one guy, buy had sex 100 times with him, be less loose than someone who has had 50 one night stands?

As for the the actual OP, I've never understood 2 aspects of waiting until marriage.

1. Would suck to be together for years, then get married, and then discover that you aren't sexually compatible (some people just aren't).

2. If you met the (almost) perfect women, say you were both 32, and she had slept with 6 people over the 14 years of sexual activity (all long term relationships), would you really dismiss her for that? Remember, perfect in every other aspect other than this arbitrary number.
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1- I'm not the sodding OP haha.
2- If I was 32 eg in a decade, then yes things would be different. Slightly different even now at my age though.

And as I've said ad nauseum (I just wanted a chance to use that phrase :D) I've a realist and don't insist of purely virginal, as if you read my previous messages, I've said it a lot of times.


LocalNative said:
I have a lot of girl mates that have no problem sleeping around with men. They simply don't view sex as a huge moral deal. I don't see a problem with it. If you wanna wait, great. If you don't, great.

What is the big deal :p
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There is no big deal. Ironically enough, I the so called draconian Catholic have caught far more flak than I've given.

I don't care what people do with their lives in terms of sexual partners and the like. I'm looking for one girl out of the 3,000,000,000 on this planet. :)
 
I think the "number" question/topic/discussion should never be a subject that a couple get on to, it only serves to provide the relationship with a whole load of trust issues. And that's taken from personal experience.

In terms of sleeping around a bit, I don't think it's a bad thing so long as (as i've said above) it doesn't become a topic you get into with your partner. Experience can be a major deal breaker in the bedroom though. If your partner is relatively experienced and you're not, thus you not being able to press all the buttons correctly, then bedroom (or elsewhere ;) ) antics could become a bit of an issue. But if you're both relatively inexperienced then you could get to enjoy all the fun of experimenting the basics that you didn't get to do when you were younger.
 
How are you going to know if she's being fulfilled if you lack the experience and the balls to ask her? If she is experienced she will understand and should be more than able to help you as it will improve the relationship.
 
J-FRO said:
I think the "number" question/topic/discussion should never be a subject that a couple get on to, it only serves to provide the relationship with a whole load of trust issues. And that's taken from personal experience.
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Unless, like me and my other half, the number is 1-1
 
Pate said:
There is no big deal. Ironically enough, I the so called draconian Catholic have caught far more flak than I've given.

I don't care what people do with their lives in terms of sexual partners and the like. I'm looking for one girl out of the 3,000,000,000 on this planet. :)
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That wasn't addressed towards you, but good on you for waiting :p
 
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