What are your thoughts on being a father one day?

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In all my years of OCUK, i don't recall a thread about this specific topic so i thought it would be interesting to see what everyone thought. I have only mentioned guys because women by nature are quite maternal.

So i met my nephew for the first time yesterday. He is aged 3 and a half months and in all my lifetime, 23 years, is probably the most direct contact i have had with a baby. It was quite daunting for me as i am not overly bothered/interested in children in the slightest. :o

It was very surreal feeling knowing that in 18 years time, my nephew will be on his way to work/university/whatever and having a life of his own. I also think it is amazing that in this day and age, we can capture so much of a baby's progression....photos, social networking, videos etc. I would have loved to have seen videos of myself aged 3 and a half months. :)

So what are your thoughts on being a father one day?

Are you a father now and did you always want to be one?

For me...i think i'm too selfish and i don't want to be tied down. Fatherhood doesn't appeal to me in the slightest and being an uncle is perfectly okay. Perhaps this will change but i personally think it won't.
 
I was almost a father at 21 but lost it, I couldn't wait to be a father and still can't now, never knew I could love something so much I had never seen before.
 
I have no desire to be a dad. And I hate being an uncle to small kids. It gets tiresome quick. Sod doing that everyday with one or several of my own.
 
OhEsEcks said:
I have no desire to be a dad. And I hate being an uncle to small kids. It gets tiresome quick. Sod doing that everyday with one or several of my own.
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My thoughts exactly.

To be blunt, i am more interested in the uncle part when my nephew grows up to around 8 or so...anything before that and i am not overly interested.

I am interested in the communication part - talking about things and interacting. Perhaps 8 is too old, i'm not sure. Either way you get what i mean.
 
Don't think it will ever be for me, i couldn't bring them up anywhere near as good as the excellent quality that my parents did, it wouldn't be fair on them. Plus i would have to find a women silly enough to put up with me. I am an uncle to 6 and i quite like that, was a bit strange at first but all has come together now and they all seem to have taken to me so far.

My nephews are extremely intelligent, i can have some pretty high level discussions with them about all sorts, such as science, computers, games, they amaze me with their knowledge.
 
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Being a father is the most amazing thing to ever happen to me.

Its hard, scary tireing, stressful, rarely get any sleep. But is is the most amazing journey.

Its hard to explain to anyone. I think you understand once you have one. Its a life changer.
 
If the circumstances are right, then it would be amazing. Being a dad is essentially completing one of life's greatest achievements.
 
I really look forward to it. Obviously young kids are hard work, but what else is life for, really?
 
I hate kids and at the moment, could quite happily not ever have kids.

I am sure my girlfriend will convince me otherwise though....
 
SideWinder said:
Is this a view you have had all your life or something you realised later on?
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Always. I don't really know what more you can want really than a bunch of people to share your life with and love.

Sure you will be tied down in many regards but at that stage in your life I think it becomes irrelevant, because having your own family and providing for them trumps it.
 
I would like to be a father one day, for sure, but I can't really see it happening before the age of 30.

I don't really understand people who say they are never going to have children. It's almost like failing our sole aim as human beings. Also, why wouldn't you want to create life with someone you love? I imagine it to be an amazing feeling seeing your children grow up.
 
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