It is ok to date your ex girlfriends mates?

[Captain]

Reason I ask is I've recently started talking to my ex's mate who she has known for about 4 years, they go out drinking regularly and get on like best mates.

The girl in question seems to think its wrong that we talk all the time, I've asked her to meet up but atm she's a bit against the idea so im taking it slow.

As I see it, me and my ex are over, and she's nothing more than a mutual friend now between me and her mate, so technically there's nothing stopping us.

What are your thoughts?

 

[Maccy]

My current girlfriend is best friends with my ex. I kid you not.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

She's clearly against it so it doesn't matter what we think.

 

[Linkex]

There's nothing wrong with it between you and you're ex. It's up to the other girl if its acceptable within her friendship with your ex.

 

[Random Guy]

It is as long as the lady in question is okay with it...

 

[Unicorn]

Yeah! Completley fine aslong as girl you want to date is fine with it

 

[The Halk]

Kick her back door in.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

I've just remembered that the OP is the guy who was recently dumped and was devastated. In light of this I strongly suggest you stay away from your ex's friends and get someone not connected to her unless you're specifically looking for ~~~ DRAMA ~~~

 

[antijoke]

It may be OK to them both now, but it won't be OK in a few months.

 

[dowie]

Go for it - though if she's apprehensive about even meeting up with you as friends due to the ex then you might well struggle to date her.

 

[Muffin`]

My current girlfriend is best friends with my ex. I kid you not.

 

[Maccy]

Nope, it's not worthy of a fat hairy bloke smoking a pipe.

 

[tidusjar]

I've just remembered that the OP is the guy who was recently dumped and was devastated. In light of this I strongly suggest you stay away from your ex's friends and get someone not connected to her unless you're specifically looking for ~~~ DRAMA ~~~

 

[The Halk]

I've just remembered that the OP is the guy who was recently dumped and was devastated. In light of this I strongly suggest you stay away from your ex's friends and get someone not connected to her unless you're specifically looking for ~~~ DRAMA ~~~

Isn't it more likely he's posting this thread so he can cherry pick they "Yeah go for it!" responses it to justify something he's already trying to do?

Also, OP - take pics and send to your ex. That'll really get the jealousy/hurt going, assuming that's what you're after.

 

[knowlesy]

I dated my ex's best mate.....didnt go so well for the first week till my ex got a new hubby

 

[rogan]

A good friend of mines dating his ex's twin, and they've been dating for over a year, so best friend can't be that bad..

 

[Fire_fly]

Might as well try, but your ex has probably told her an awful lot more about you than you wish her to know at this early point in the relationship.

 

[pingwing]

If your ex is over it then there's no reason not too.

How ever, pro tip, if she's not (or being unreasonable about it) its really best not to drug the hole and make things difficult.

 

[DampCat]

It doesnt bother me if you date her, no. Date whoever you want mate.

Sounds like she's not interested though.

 

[BlackCoat2k10]

I dated my ex's best mate a couple years back. MY ex was fine about it but then voiced her feelings to me and the girl I was dating, it made the girl I was dating feel very awkward. Put it this way, it did not last long and since then I have just cut all ties with that Ex. Miss her from time to time (first love etc..) but I am more than happy with my current girlfriend!

My advice, have fun but don't put too much into it as if the Ex pops up and is against it... you will loose!