Whatever happened to a firm manly handshake?

Capn' $qu!ff said:
It's another type of body language a strong firm handshake is a sign of confidence in ones self or confidence in the proposal you've recieved whereas a weak handshake is a sign of weakness or lack of interest in the business at hand!
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You do realise a lot of "body language" stuff is load of old rubbish, including what you've said above.

I knew a girl once that was convinced that 'body language' dictated that when someone sits cross legged between two people, the direction their overlapping knee faced was the person they preferred.
 
RationalGaze said:
Handshaking is bizarre, I wish we'd get rid of this weird custom. What's wrong with just saying hi? Why do we have to briefly hold eachother's hands? And it gets really weird when you meet some women and they want to shake your hand.
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+ BEEP BOOP I AM A ROBOT AND CANNOT COMPUTE HOW SOCIAL NORMS WORK +

+ BEEP BOOP WOMEN SHOULD NEVER SHAKE THE HAND OF A MAN BECAUSE IT IS WEIRD AND FRIGHTENING FOR ME +

+ BEEP BOOP I AM NOT BIZARRE, HANDSHAKING IS BIZARRE +
 
Skidder said:
Take it from the internet, you are almost certainly a defective and unemployable individual if you don't have an opinion on this. A handshake gives away a lot, as does eye contact and body language when you meet people.

(I met some prospective clients yesterday and one of them had a firmer shake than me so I wrestled him to the ground and skull ****** him. Didn't get the work but you win some, you lose some.)
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Brilliant hahahaha!

I try not judge on handshakes but an uncomfortable weak feeble little hand resting in your palm just doesn't give you any confidence.
I hate it when you go to shake someone's hand and its like a dead unmoving small animal has been placed in your hands!
 
estebanrey said:
You do realise a lot of "body language" stuff is load of old rubbish, including what you've said above.

I knew a girl once that was convinced that 'body language' dictated that when someone sits cross legged between two people, the direction their overlapping knee faced was the person they preferred.
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O rly?

I spend a fair chunk of my time these days in meetings with new clients and there is definitely a very obvious correlation between how firm a handshake is and how difficult a client they will be to please.

Shouldn't take advantage I guess, but those who I deem 'weaker' from the handshake are usually less likely to kick up a fuss when I put their work back to accommodate someone with a more aggressive handshake.

In reality I'm sure those with the weaker handshake are nicer people IRL but I'm in business and need to service my mortgage.
 
[FnG]magnolia;22674188 said:
+ BEEP BOOP I AM A ROBOT AND CANNOT COMPUTE HOW SOCIAL NORMS WORK +

+ BEEP BOOP WOMEN SHOULD NEVER SHAKE THE HAND OF A MAN BECAUSE IT IS WEIRD AND FRIGHTENING FOR ME +

+ BEEP BOOP I AM NOT BIZARRE, HANDSHAKING IS BIZARRE +
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Oh one one one oh one one!
 
If you are making business decisions based on the firmness of someone's handshake I'd be seriously worried if I were your bank manager.

For a start, it's not uncommon knowledge what you are saying so surely a lot of the people you meet deliberately give a firm handshake knowing it gives a better impression. And if they're deliberately doing it then the 'body language' bit becomes irrelevant.
 
[FnG]magnolia;22674188 said:
+ BEEP BOOP I AM A ROBOT AND CANNOT COMPUTE HOW SOCIAL NORMS WORK +

+ BEEP BOOP WOMEN SHOULD NEVER SHAKE THE HAND OF A MAN BECAUSE IT IS WEIRD AND FRIGHTENING FOR ME +

+ BEEP BOOP I AM NOT BIZARRE, HANDSHAKING IS BIZARRE +
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Haha!

Actually I am questioning the norms which most people accept blindly, for I am a unique free thinking rebel whom no-one really understands. Of course I shake people's hands, otherwise people will get confused when they first meet me and I don't follow their expected protocol. Also, I ensure I shake it very firmly because the internet told me that they will think I am confident then. And when I'm hiring and a candidate presents a weak handshake, I immediately dismiss any thought of hiring them, regardless of what they say in the interview.
 
estebanrey said:
If you are making business decisions based on the firmness of someone's handshake I'd be seriously worried if I were your bank manager.

For a start, it's not uncommon knowledge what you are saying so surely a lot of the people you meet deliberately give a firm handshake knowing it gives a better impression. And if they're deliberately doing it then the 'body language' bit becomes irrelevant.
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I'm not making business decisions, I'm simply prioritising work, based on, amongst other things, the perception of how docile someone is. I will sell to everyone and anyone, but if you shout louder chances are you'll get your delivery ahead of captain mouse.

Over 500% growth in six years keeps the bank manager very happy, especially during a 'recession'.
 
I love handshakes. Not only can I break their hand but show them I mean business at the same time.
Women love it as well when you dominant their hand in a handshake, nothing turns them on more in the workplace.
 
grimm said:
I agree.

It also goes both ways, I'v had a handshake from people who appear to want to break your hand at the same time :)
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Not sure what it is with Scottish people, but they all seem to want to break your hand in a handshake! :D
 
It's all homoerotic touching by men who don't wash their hands anyway, just say "hello", I don't see the point in you fondling my palm as well.
 
I happen to prefer limp handshakes. Those ones where you dont even come close to "scissoring" the thumbs, you just grab each other's fingers limply and briefly.

Firm handshakes seem like they are trying to hard, they want to impress you, salesmen do it a lot.
 
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