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lol :P, that's not going to happen, after last night and a few spilled secrets, it seems my "mate" was anything but "reliable" and did not know... as you put it.."how to smash her right". ;)
Anyway, i appreciated everyone's views on it.

Yeah, the guy was so crap that they lasted 6 years. She's buttering you up, and if you're at the point where you are already talking behind your "mates" back about his sexual performances, then I predict a bit of trouble in the future. To be honest, it makes you both sound like prats.
 
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Yeah, the guy was so crap that they lasted 6 years. She's buttering you up mate, and if you're at the point where you are already talking behind your "mates" back about his sexual performances, then I predict a bit of trouble in the future. To be honest, it makes you both sound a like prats.

maybe hes asking all the time and shes just telling him what he wants to hear.

am i better than **** was
 
Girl I know pretty well finished with her ex and started dating his best mate.
Didn't go down well and the guys no longer speak. However, they are now married and expecting their first kid.
 
ah out of order, wtf u doing

remind me not to be your friend

I love it when people on the internet say this to other people they don't know, as if they are some shining example of the kind of friend you wish you could have. :p
 
Thats a dick move to be honest. You just dont date your friends ex's - plenty of others out there.

why not? are your friends incapable of moving on from past relationships ? do they stay single hoping one day this ex will want to get back together ?

seems to be a low 20's and under thing its wrong.
people almost 30 and over are emotionally mature enough to be able to handle it.
 
I've been with my wife for 17 years, before that she was a mate's girlfriend. He was our bestman. It can be handled well and work out fine. (Thankfully he has a tiny ginger penis.)
 
I thought it was interesting that you described their relationship as on off for 6 years.

Maybe your mate was thinking this is just the off part of the cycle.

Not an easy one this situation.

Good luck.
 
Thats a dick move to be honest. You just dont date your friends ex's - plenty of others out there.

I hear this all the time as well, but to be fair, there aren't that many attractive, nice, single woman that tick most of a person's subjective tick boxes.

If one of those rarities happens to be the mate of an ex, I wouldn't throw the chance away.

There are plenty of shags in the sea, not so many mermaids to take home to meet the parents. :p
 
wow I didn't expect so many replies so fast, heading out soon and will be my last response tonight lol.

to ark -In a nutshell yes, taking this example it had been off and on for 6 years so there is obviously feelings there and the chance of going back. If theres any doubt that your friend may still have feelings then you should stay away. If its abundantly clear they don't and can admit they don't (Which is hard) then IMO you can by all means go for it!

Hell, I even asked my friend if it was ok to get with his long time g/f after they split, (2 year relationship) and they had split for 3 but we were still all kind of friends and then I thought about the exact same thing with roles reversed and I wouldn't be happy, like I said mainly coz there are so many other people out there.

I am 23 this year.


Krooton -Granted krooton, if they are the "one" I wouldn't throw the chances away either but in most my experiences it was quite obvious they weren't :P

edit - richdog - You can but if they dont approve of it then its a **** move imo - especially if its long term and had been on and off. Any other ex's then thats likely fine in my book.

Still I believe there are plenty others out there so why risk ruining friendships.

EDIT- those who quoted please remove my stary **** - I didnt realise it was swearing until I read it back.
 
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Hiya guys,
Not really looking for advice as my minds made up, but i'm just wondering on what other people think of it.
Basically the story is I've been single now for around 2 months, I've got a close mate that split up with him missus around 6 months ago after 6 years on and off, he's been with a few girls since then while she's been dating also. I've always fancied her, she feels the same about me.
Last Sunday we went to see Ross noble together and really hit it off.
Nothing happened at all other than a kiss, i really do like her a lot, she's funny, caring and utterly beautiful.
Today I've told said friend what happened as i felt he needed to know, he's not taken it to great tbh, starting arguing so i told him to leave until we both calmed down.
I feel that I've done nothing wrong, i never wanted to hurt him at all, like i said he's a really good mate but seeing as he's moved on now, i really didn't think it would bother him so much as to leaving saying either i keep seeing said girl, or stop seeing her and keep him as a mate.
Like i said i'm not after any advice, just on what other people think of it?
Thoughts?

david


It's a no go area. Especially if they split less than a year ago after a 6 year relationship.
 
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