Mrs just left me..

[Cupra]

You have been played bra, shes a gold digger, used you for what she wanted, now shes getting rid and someone else is tapping it for sure, ignore the bitch and go rag some fresh meat

This made me lol.

 

[ikillbears]

Neither, move on. FACT.

 

[Kamwah]

I feel sorry for her starfish.

 

[iamtheoneneo]

some girls are dicks ... end of! actually MOST girls are dicks especially at that age.
Its unfortunate that you seemed to have paid the price with both your wallet and heart but you do have to get over this.

Its tough and its really ******, but you have the positive about uni life ahead of you and now its time to make friends, go to socials and get out there a bit.

This probably wont be the last time someone leaves you, it just happens, you can either better yourself or wallow in self pitty. Like i said have a good emotional moment or two, eat subway and malteasers, get some man films on the go to take you mind off things and slowly you will move on.

its friday tomorrow, not a student night I know but a good opportunity to see if a few peps want to go for a few drinks!

 

[Captain]

Needing time apart in a relationship is never a good sign.

The worst thing you can do is sit and wait to hear the words your hoping for, but in reality that hardly ever happens.

The best thing you can do in your situation is carry on as normal. If she stays somewhere else, just go about your life as you would normally.

Leave her be, if she tries to make contact with you, hear what she has to say but stick to what you want.

If she is acting like this now, who's to say you get back together and it happens again?

You'll be kicking yourself for going through it again.

 

[fendi]

ChocolateStarfishRammer - you could meet another person and fall in love this year. Job done.

If you were older you would have realised this already. Life is too short.

 

[JBod]

not rag week by chance is it?


give it a few days and see if she gets in touch. don't go out smashing the first bit of pasty you can lay your hands on, give things a bit of time to cool off and see where the land lies before you go dipping your wick

"WE WERE ON A BREAK!"

 

[MrKeeno]

M8 you are far too young to be worrying about this crap. Trust me, if I could go back in time and meet my young self I would bitch slap some sense into me. I got tied down far too young when I should have been out exploring the world.

It will be tough for a few weeks but look at it as an opportunity to do some stuff only a single free person can do.

 

[Sherbs]

4 page letter, more than most get.

 

[Assassin_012]

there's plenty of fish in the sea....really, there are

or...

start a new relationship with a girl she knows, she'll start fighting to get you back

 

[KingBrian]

I would just put her behind you tbh..

 

[ChocolateStarfishRammer]

Screw it.. Lets tell you lot all! ...... Conversation from tonight..... Really the first one since the letter....... Copy - Paste

Me: 9pm
Hope your ok. Night xx

Mrs: 10pm
Hope your okay too! X

..........................................................

Mrs: 1:30am
You awake?

Me:
Yeah

Mrs:
I don't know what to do anymore, I'm just so sad

Me:
After the last 24hrs, me too. But I don't know what to do or say unless we talk. I don't know where we stand or what untill then. I just wish you spoke to me before going to this.

Mrs:
I just wanted time on my own to think things through in my head... There is no easy way of telling you that, I thought it was just a phase I was going through a while ago... I don't know when I will feel ready to talk, talking isn't my strong point... Wish things would just go away

Me:
Maybe not, but I'd like to think I atleast deserve being told face to face. I want to talk, and I'd like to tomorrow night.

Mrs:
I couldn't do it! I need to pop in to pick my portfolio up so can do after boot camp 8:40?

Me:
Yeah ok, See you tomorrow.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

Sever. Sever now. You'll go through a tortuous time until you distance yourself.

You will of course ignore this advice but at least I tried. And read that link I posted earlier - your case is absolutely text book.

 

[chief barker]

Start ramming someone else's starfish ASAP.

If the OP is still in tonight (Friday) and reading these forums he should be rammed.

FFS get out there and fill your boots.

 

[ChocolateStarfishRammer]

Sever. Sever now. You'll go through a tortuous time until you distance yourself.

You will of course ignore this advice but at least I tried. And read that link I posted earlier - your case is absolutely text book.

I agree with everything you have said and posted. And fully understand it all and everything in the link from earlier. If anything, the best advice in this thread..... And yet, We both know its inevitable ill go against it. Urhhhg

Either way.. Im going to go to bed. a crate of beer and a few Vodka cokes are not going to agree with me at 6am for work... New day tomorrow and all that..........

 

[Viper²]

Sever. Sever now. You'll go through a tortuous time until you distance yourself.

You will of course ignore this advice but at least I tried. And read that link I posted earlier - your case is absolutely text book.

OP, listen to this man.

 

[Number_25]

Wow, that really sucks mate.

I don't have any advice for you, but hang in there mate - good things will come.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

I agree with everything you have said and posted. And fully understand it all and everything in the link from earlier. If anything, the best advice in this thread..... And yet, We both know its inevitable ill go against it. Urhhhg

Either way.. Im going to go to bed. a crate of beer and a few Vodka cokes are not going to agree with me at 6am for work... New day tomorrow and all that..........

Lushka16’s Breakup Megathread Theorem: Every one of you will invariably cherry-pick, feel a compulsion to ignore or otherwise neglect most or all of the fantastic advice detailed below, assuming it doesn’t apply to you.

Minimaul’s Megathread Corollary: You are not a special *********. You are not the exception to the rule. You are not the anecdote that proves the rule wrong. You are not in a Jennifer Aniston movie. You are not a movie with an acceptable ending for the whole audience. This is life.

 

[AHarvey]

I've not read most of the thread, just skimmed over it as I know what GD relationship advice is like.

Have you actually split up? It sounds like she's simple a little confused, and spending the rest of your life with someone can do that. Give her some time, let her decide. Make it obvious that you're there but don't force the 'we must talk' on her. It may work out, it may not, only time will tell. If you do split, it's better now than 5, 10, 15 years down the line when you might have kids and a mortgage. She could have faked it, not said anything and just gone along with it. It takes a lot of courage to make a stand after several years together and say, hang on, this might not be right.

I know it doesn't feel like that to you, but if it is the end, then it really is the best thing for both of you.

My last, and best piece of advice. Don't hate. If you've had several years together you're going to have lots of memories, some crappy, some amazing. You've shaped each other and hopefully made each other better people. Don't let the ending ruin the journey, that's what wrecks lives, just remember the happy times and move on

edit: also ignore anyone telling you to smash a pasty, go out and pound everything in sight etc.

 

[kwerk]

As the saying goes... dont put the ***** on a pedestal. You define you, not some woman.

Man up, sever ties, get in shape, get a haircut, buy some clothes...

Move on.