How much do you care what other people think?

Hedge · 11 Jul 2013 at 12:42

Do you let what other people think affect your decisions in life?

Like what you wear, what you buy, who you go out with etc?

Personally I think I do sometimes.

I might like certain clothes or styles but I'd not dare buy them because people might think I look crap.

I want to get my teeth straightened eventually through a mix of vanity and other people's perceptions.

There are lots of times I base decision on the response of my peers I guess.

So how about you?

rotters · 11 Jul 2013 at 12:44

Yes I take other people's opinions far too seriously at times and its definitely to my deficit.

Hedge · 11 Jul 2013 at 12:45

Like right now, I'm thinking how crap the format of my OP is.

I blame this phone I'm posting on. So leave me alone

Admiral Huddy · 11 Jul 2013 at 12:45

I used to but as I got older very less so. The only persons opinion that matters to me is my wife but she accepts me for who am.

edit lol @Hedge

Gilly · 11 Jul 2013 at 12:45

I take opinions and thoughts into account when I make decisions, but I don't really mind what people think of me.

Certainly not for what I wear, etc.

Theophany · 11 Jul 2013 at 12:47

I think not caring about what other people think is a privilege that comes with age. I have to care what my boss, my clients, my peers etc think of me at least to some degree because they will all impact me in some way.

Devrij · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:00

Theophany said:
I think not caring about what other people think is a privilege that comes with age. I have to care what my boss, my clients, my peers etc think of me at least to some degree because they will all impact me in some way.

This is about right.

When I was younger I used to care so much about what people thought, that I cultivated an image that showed how little I cared about what they thought. Now I just do what I want. Certainly I still care what my peers think of me, but not enough to modify my actions, beliefs, or clothing!

oulton · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:02

When I was younger before the age of 15 I cared way too much what other people thought of me, like many kids do at that age I suppose.

After that I kind of found my core and started caring only about the opinions of those people I deemed important, and I became 100% happier and cooler also

elmarko · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:03

Consciously or sub-consciously?, as on a conscious level I'd like to think I'm quite good as resisting the social norms & pressures & act in such a way which is true to myself.

On a sub-concious level my behaviour is most likely being altered by others social expectations & perceptions far more than I'm aware of.

Some really interesting videos on conformity & group-think - highlighting how much our actual perceptions are changed by the views/attitudes of others.

Freefaller · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:09

Certain people I care about what they have to say about me. As they know me, and their opinion or critique or compliment is one that is more important to me.

As for strangers? Not really, but I try and treat people as to how I expect to be treated, so in general I seldom have any problems.

We judge, that's what we as humans do. We evaluate our peers and make both a conscious and subconscious decision on them.

We all have our own standards and opinions and experiences that help to forge what we make of the world.

It depends how much you fold to peer pressure. I'd like to think I'm fairly confident and strong in my own personality not to have it bother me too much or let others make decisions for me. However, sometimes, you do duck out or keep a low profile so that you do not stand out.

J-FRO · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:21

Depends where you are in life I guess.

Admiral Huddy · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:22

J-FRO said:
Depends where you are in life I guess.

How do you mean?

StriderX · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:24

I only care what i think, anything else is just noise.

smelly_legend · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:33

Admiral Huddy said:
How do you mean?

Maybe he means how one feels at the time i.e how strong one might feel/resistant to insults/opinion.

I'm often in the boat where I dwell on opinion too much, thus act like a fanny and try to worry less about it.

alex20000 · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:35

I do sometimes. But I don't really care if anyone insults me or anything like that.

James J · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:39

I only care about what people think of me when it comes to my career. everything else doesnt factorbin at all

Quinnaay · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:40

I care, mainly about my image etc. Im not scared to wear different clothes or try to be slightly different though.

Edrof · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:41

Less as time goes on, it has to be said.

Frxn · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:51

I would say everyone does to a certain extent, but as others have said as you get older you care less.

ObixConstant · 11 Jul 2013 at 13:57

I did when I was at school way too much, now not at all.