How do you defeat the temptation of women - other than the wife?
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I think most of you are being a little assuming that I was the one willing to cheat.
I have been going out with my girlfriend for around a year, and she is one of the kindest, loveliest people I know - so I will not be cheating anytime soon.
In my job, you see cheating all the time (and which I assume happens in most peoples lifes). A lovely one that sticks in my mind is that we were going to be away for 6 months. A colleague had just had a baby with his newly married wife. He then goes out at every stop around the world to sample each countries prostitutes - this was totally bizarre to me, and couldn't really understand it.
To be honest if I did end up cheating, she would know - I am a bad liar!
I have been going out with my girlfriend for around a year, and she is one of the kindest, loveliest people I know - so I will not be cheating anytime soon.
In my job, you see cheating all the time (and which I assume happens in most peoples lifes). A lovely one that sticks in my mind is that we were going to be away for 6 months. A colleague had just had a baby with his newly married wife. He then goes out at every stop around the world to sample each countries prostitutes - this was totally bizarre to me, and couldn't really understand it.
To be honest if I did end up cheating, she would know - I am a bad liar!
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Its this morality thing again, someone somewhere decided for everyone how a marraige or in general life SHOULD be and taught everyone else a very narrow definition of how we should do things. It would seem(from experience, my own and every family I know, every friend who has the same stories) that MOST people can't follow this supposedly ideal life which is get married, be happy, never be with anyone else.... but why?
Can someone explain why we can't find someone we enjoy spending time with... and also enjoy spending time with other people. You can find your perfect life partner, but still be attracted to other women and want to have sex with them, but come back and have sex, talk, have kids and go bowling with the woman who you spend most of your time with?
Why cling yourself to one person, insist the only way you can "love" that person is denying any and all new connections with other people. Some people will do that, will only ever enjoy being with their wife, won't be tempted, thats fine. Many other people will get bored, cheat, lie, and break up under bad terms all because you agreed to something there was no need to agree to in the first place.
Its essentially a game of expectations, if you get together with someone and pretend that its normal to find someone and never want any change in your life, then if/when that change happens you get disappointed and usually angry. If people simply got together with the HOPE they might be together forever, but the expecation they will enjoy anything from a short to very long time together but are likely to drift apart, then if/when it happens its not a huge deal. You decide to move apart on a friendly basis, stay friends.
Kids don't get messed up by parents splitting, but HOW they split and how they act afterwards, divorced parents who argue and can't be in the same room generally end up crap parents, sensible people who move apart, divorce but are fine tend to have little to no problem with their kids.
Should you dip your wick in someone else, not if you've made a promise you won't to your other half. Its wrong to agree to do something and then cheat, its sensible to not make the agreement in the first place.
Women are essentially asking for this to happen by pretending their goal in life is to be married, often "encourage" their partners into commitment, rather than just be happy together till you don't want to be together anymore.
Women know, absolutely KNOW that most marraiges don't work, that a huge portion if not the majority of men and women cheat, yet insist on getting married.
Marraige is stupidly flawed, you can't possibly know how you'll feel about someone next year, let alone 10 or 50 years from now, making unrealistic expectations hurts everyone, frequently, for no reason at all.
Can someone explain why we can't find someone we enjoy spending time with... and also enjoy spending time with other people. You can find your perfect life partner, but still be attracted to other women and want to have sex with them, but come back and have sex, talk, have kids and go bowling with the woman who you spend most of your time with?
Why cling yourself to one person, insist the only way you can "love" that person is denying any and all new connections with other people. Some people will do that, will only ever enjoy being with their wife, won't be tempted, thats fine. Many other people will get bored, cheat, lie, and break up under bad terms all because you agreed to something there was no need to agree to in the first place.
Its essentially a game of expectations, if you get together with someone and pretend that its normal to find someone and never want any change in your life, then if/when that change happens you get disappointed and usually angry. If people simply got together with the HOPE they might be together forever, but the expecation they will enjoy anything from a short to very long time together but are likely to drift apart, then if/when it happens its not a huge deal. You decide to move apart on a friendly basis, stay friends.
Kids don't get messed up by parents splitting, but HOW they split and how they act afterwards, divorced parents who argue and can't be in the same room generally end up crap parents, sensible people who move apart, divorce but are fine tend to have little to no problem with their kids.
Should you dip your wick in someone else, not if you've made a promise you won't to your other half. Its wrong to agree to do something and then cheat, its sensible to not make the agreement in the first place.
Women are essentially asking for this to happen by pretending their goal in life is to be married, often "encourage" their partners into commitment, rather than just be happy together till you don't want to be together anymore.
Women know, absolutely KNOW that most marraiges don't work, that a huge portion if not the majority of men and women cheat, yet insist on getting married.
Marraige is stupidly flawed, you can't possibly know how you'll feel about someone next year, let alone 10 or 50 years from now, making unrealistic expectations hurts everyone, frequently, for no reason at all.
Half of you lot sound like you live in a fairy tale world where everything is black and white. Sometimes relationships have ups and downs, people break up and people do cheat etc. Ultimately everyone can only do what their heart is telling them to do. If you find yourself at a stressful crossroads, things may go pear shaped, sadly. Humans are human. Obviously, try to be a good one!
I think that's silly.
I think that's silly.
This has always worked for me.
Does your missus share your PC? Are you gonna clear this thread from your history?
That's not a bad suggestion actually - good point.
How did the OP manage to learn English overnight?
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The number of marriages in England and Wales that end in divorce has fallen to 42%, down from 45% in 2005, according to figures published by the Office for National Statistics.
That means nearly 1 in 2 posters will be cheating or getting cheated on sometime in the future.
That means nearly 1 in 2 posters will be cheating or getting cheated on sometime in the future.
Not all divorces are caused by cheating!
How did the OP manage to learn English overnight?
the miracle of being sober again is my guess
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This is my girlfriend, there are many others like her, but this one is mine..
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Okay so you don't agree with marriage, bully for you.
Now, as to the OP, will you be honest and true to the woman you are with, or do you hump anyone at any opportunity?
As that's the OP, not if you think marriage is a lifelong scared institution.
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I know more people who have cheated on their partner than have stayed loyal. I do agree that its wired into us as men to go forth and impregnate.
When I ask people I know who have cheated "why did you do it?" (other than to get jiggy with it) most could not give any specific reasoning. Most if not all get caught and most if not all regret it.
When I ask people I know who have cheated "why did you do it?" (other than to get jiggy with it) most could not give any specific reasoning. Most if not all get caught and most if not all regret it.