dad tried to commit suicide

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I know this is silly plastering it all over the internet, but I need somewhere 'anonymous' where I can vent.

He split up with his girlfriend of 10 years a couple of months ago, done everything to try and get her back and he hasn't been himself since they split. He has hounded her with letters, phonecalls, emails, etc.. and she just ignores them.

He usually rings me from work a few times a day but today he never rung me once, he lives with me and he came home today, had a shower, went downstairs and took 30odd tablets, if I hadn't have gone downstairs he would have gone to sleep and never woke up again.

We are both private people and don't talk about our feelings, if he survives I don't know how I can look him in the eyes again. I am not ashamed of him but how do you deal with something like that.

I don't mean to be selfish but I don't want to be looking after him and checking on him every 5 minutes to see if he has done something stupid.

I don't expect answers just needed somewhere to vent.
 
Try and get him to talk about it, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable doing so. Once it is out in the open things won't seem so bad.
 
I hope he pulls round, he must have been at a real low. Coming from someone that's been in his position sort of previously, it's not a nice place to be, he needs someone to talk to, whether it's you, or a professional.

I hope he pulls round and if he does, I recommend you keep him living with you, and assist him in getting help, I hate to be blunt, however if you don't, he wont last much longer.
 
I know what the answer will be, "because i love her".

I think he expects that when she hears she will come running back.

I don't know what I can do or say to help him. He wont talk to anyone including me.

*edit* I want him to live with me, I have no intention of getting him to move out.
 
TheLegendOfMart said:
I know what the answer will be, "because i love her".

I think he expects that when she hears she will come running back.

I don't know what I can do or say to help him. He wont talk to anyone including me.

*edit* I want him to live with me, I have no intention of getting him to move out.
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That's good to hear, he needs you, now more than ever, he might not talk, but with counseling, even if he just sits in silence for an hour it'll be a step forward. But for now, all that matters is him being on the road to recovery and also him seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, how ever dim it is ;)
 
TheLegendOfMart said:
How do I get him to talk to a counsellor, if he won't talk to me I don't think he will even go to one.
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Convince him, if he thinks it's really that bad and it wont change anything, what's the hurt in trying? The hospital staff will agree and will try and convince him too.
 
10 Years ago is a long time, and therefore there's most likely an underlying reason and the key is to dig that out, however a lot of tears will have to be shed till that comes out, but again, this is where a professional comes in, even something as simple as having routine in your day helps, keeping busy, keeps your mind off things. I assume he's in hospital and therefore I'd talk to someone who does it day in day out.
 
I think that's part of the problem, he does 4 days on 4 days off in shifts. On his days off he has nothing to do apart from sit and think.

We don't share any common interests and we are not chatty people so I don't know what I can do to help.
 
In that case, a new hobby would be great, a change of scenery, something they didn't do together. I mean taking his mind off of it doesn't fix the problem completely but it helps get him into a better place.

Edit @Sam that was a good shout, there's some forums out there as well and they are great, you can only guide him though, some of it he has to do himself
 
I feel for you both. The only advice I can offer is to remind him that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Time does heal.
 
Let him know how much you would miss him if he went.
Tell him you love him and will help him however you can.

Now is not a time to bottle it up, get over the macho masculinity and talk like his life depends on it, because it does.
 
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