Has anyone ever had a serious fall out with their family?

Not that relevant but I don't really speak to any of my family except my dad's side and my mum now. My sister and brother are ******* nightmares and they are pretty much out of the picture altogether. There's no way I'll ever speak to my sister again in this lifetime.
 
Richie said:
The solution to this is for you both to stop acting like kids....
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Well since the first time I now just leave the room and I tell him so when he starts acting up.

But like I said, 27 years of peace before our first bust up and only 2 arguments. I'd say say that's amazing behaviour between siblings, especially as adults where our persona's are fully fledged and where it's way more volatile to get into trouble by having differing viewpoints.
 
I had a falling out with my mum due to her being very controlling. I ended up moving out and don't speak to her too often which is fine for me as I am a busy guy any way.
 
M-150 said:
My step daughter was really getting on my nerves. Her crime? Being a teenager. Her banging about the kitchen at midnight or just going into the fridge to raid the thing was really getting to be too much for me. And she always seemed to be in loo when I needed it most. Not least of all, my wife is never in "the mood" with someone moving about the house.

When she started college last year I saw an opportunity to get her out and into a student dorm. I began to air my grievances with her on just about everything I had kept bottled up inside me. 2 months later she was out of the house! Better for us, better for her.
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I presume you don't have children of your own? You come across as having a seriously negative attitude towards your step daughter, certainly not how most fathers would speak of their own child. Or is that the issue?
 
Yes midnight raiding, unless someone is unreasonably loud when they do it(my brother could make it sound like the house was coming down when he tried to tip toe around the house) is barely anything to complain about... but then you also say just her raiding the fridge... or otherwise known as making food to most people... got to be too much for you? Then you got rid of her the first chance you could.

Then you did the good thing of keeping it bottled up inside and proceded to unload seemingly completely unreasonable reasons for not liking her before probably making her feel like you were kicking her out. To sum up, you didn't like her making food, shouted at her, was happy to see the back of her.

Her crime was actually not being YOUR kid and its comes across like you resented her AND didn't do a good job hiding it.
 
AmyS said:
I presume you don't have children of your own? You come across as having a seriously negative attitude towards your step daughter, certainly not how most fathers would speak of their own child. Or is that the issue?
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You quote someone who writes 2 sentences to claim they appear to have "serious" issues.

I think you're overreacting.
 
esoteric said:
I've not been at odds with my Mum in a long time, last time we were it was over something some so retarded. The room my PC is in connects to the kitchen and there is no partitioning wall and 1 Sunday she was out here peeling potato's and cooking Sunday Roast, then she put on her mp3 player and started singing really loud I couldn't hear my PC even with headphones on, and my brother whose PC is next to mine, I couldn't even hear him to talk to him, so I asked her to lower her volume and she moaned and complained, she then carried on and gradually got louder and then I asked her to stop. And then shiz hit the fan, she threw down the utensils and stropped into the front room. She came out 30mins later and started screaming at me about how disrespectful I am and how nobody gives a crap about her, so I unloaded on her about how she was being disrespectful to come out here in the first place and started being obcessively loud in the first place and when asked to stop carried on anyway, I said I am not and was not unfair and that I won't back down and let her have her way. She then threw all the dinner away as to make a point and stropped into the front room again, 5 mins later she came out again declaring that anyone who doesn't want to live with her can leave, "There is the front door" she said. I don't remember how the matter was resolved, but always when there is an issue with my Mum, after the argument is over she reflects on it and see's her error's. After 28'ish years of dominating Dad who was submissive she struggles coping when someone challenges her.

The other person in this house, my brother, I have came to blows with once in 2010 and almost again in 2012 and just 2 weeks ago. I remember these times because we have never fought like this before. My problem with him is he doesn't give a **** about anyone and is the most disrespectful person I have ever known, he even called our Dad who was bed-ridden dying on cancer lazy. To get in an argument with him is the worst, he will lie and twist facts, and the biggest way to make me see red is to lie about me where others can hear, and that's what he did to me in 2010 when he started an argument, and when other people hot involved he got the first word in, lied, and then everyone was looking at me like I'm the biggest ******** going. So we came to blows and I beat him up, damn near crippled my hand doing so too. So given that you'd think he'd know to not push my buttons but he still does, and did 2 years later when we got into an argument and he started stretching the truth, I remember that one started with Gregg's sausage rolls, lmao, and escalated into a file I copied to his PC before he was home, he downloaded when he got home and was like "duurrrr, I already got this you thick ****", (recall above where I mentioned he is really disrespectful). And 2 weeks ago he started an argument about me using voice activation on Mumble. Normally I use P2T but with Cubeworld my button didn't work so I switched and have used it ever since. So about a month after that he just opened up out of no where about how I am being disrespectful and invading his privacy by using voice activation because people on my Mumble can hear him. Now I agree that that is a fair point, but he's expressed nothing about it in 6 weeks and since that argument he's not mentioned it at all despite my still using voice activation, what he did was just bitch about me in front of an audience again and wasn't actually displaying a legitimate concern.

We are a fine family and 99.999% of the day, every day, is full of laughter and fun in each others company. Just the odd occasion we step into the twilight zone. And this is why we still live together. I am 29, my bro is 32 and Mum is 62.

What you shouldn't do is let someone else's opinion make your own, which is a big problem in today's society, like M-150 saying you should move out because you are 26, and the impression I got from him is you should have moved out years ago. My problem with that is why should you? if you like your family and enjoy their company and the alternative is living by yourself in a 1 bedroom flat, why move out?

If that isn't your conditions at home and you cannot find a resolution then yes of course move out when and if you can, or find a hostel to go to for a few a days and let the reality for everyone sink in, then reach out and reconnect, with everyone knowing what the alternative is if everyone carries on this way.

Best of luck to you, Buckeejit.
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Your mum Is probably annoyed as to why she is still cooking dinner for you and your brother when you are in your thirties, so much fail its unreal, move out already.
 
AmyS said:
I presume you don't have children of your own?
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I have 4 children of my own thank you very much.


AmyS said:
You come across as having a seriously negative attitude towards your step daughter, certainly not how most fathers would speak of their own child. Or is that the issue?
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It seems to me that you stayed for the adverts but missed the film. :rolleyes:
 
drunkenmaster said:
Yes midnight raiding, unless someone is unreasonably loud when they do it(my brother could make it sound like the house was coming down when he tried to tip toe around the house) is barely anything to complain about... but then you also say just her raiding the fridge... or otherwise known as making food to most people... got to be too much for you? Then you got rid of her the first chance you could.

Then you did the good thing of keeping it bottled up inside and proceded to unload seemingly completely unreasonable reasons for not liking her before probably making her feel like you were kicking her out. To sum up, you didn't like her making food, shouted at her, was happy to see the back of her.

Her crime was actually not being YOUR kid and its comes across like you resented her AND didn't do a good job hiding it.
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Slice it as you like. When it is time to leave the nest and flap your wings (but you are spoiled or too lazy to do it) then a shove is necessary. "Bottling it up" is my poetically crude way of saying "excess tolerance" and the rest of your personal comments are way off the mark but I can't be bothered to put you right. Carry on.
 
My mother was tbh a royal pain in the arse when I was younger, especially after my step dad & her divorced. Won't go into the details, but I ended up moving out at 19.

We now however have a great relationship. I'm 33 now and live a fair way from her too ;)
 
Lord-Jaffa said:
Your mum Is probably annoyed as to why she is still cooking dinner for you and your brother when you are in your thirties, so much fail its unreal, move out already.
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My Mum cooks for the family once a week, and that's the Roast dinner. I'm sorry your family is so dysfunctional you can't all get together and have a meal, so much fail.
 
My relationship with my folks was and is fine.

However a good friend same age always disowned his folks because he hated his dad after his dad 'kicked him out' He lost contact with his sister though and he had no beef with her. Now he has at best several months to live after reaching the end of his hodgekins lymphoma battle and he regrets all the wasted time not speaking to his mum and sister.

I was lucky as I say. My father died last year but we were very close so I have many good memories to retreat to if I'm feeling down or missing him.
 
Not spoken to my father in years. Worthless weak man. Chose alcohol over his family and refused to get help. His line was 'I accept you for your faults, you can accept me for mine'. We grew up, everyone got away from him and now he's suffering heavy depressing due to it all. He still refuses to acknowledge his past errors and until he does, I'll only be at his funeral to **** on his coffin.
 
PEACE is the A to Z of life, as I see it.

How and if you get on with your parents is secondary. Unfortunate in the case it does not work but secondary all the same. If an offspring or parent gives you too much grief, cut them loose. Move out ... leave town .... immigrate ... whatever. Leave them behind.

Life is a wonderful thing. Don't miss it!
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