Moral Dilemma !

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:30

As title the good people of OCUK !

So, I have a moral pickle, it's nothing to do with me so im not sure.

IN SHORT:

I know a couple, i'm not mates with them but acquaintances. The female is pretty good mates with a good friend of mine but I don't know her that well but I know she is a lovely person. Her fella is a snake, and I have seen him out numerous times cheating on her, A LOT. Now it turns out he FB msg's me saying am I in the club tonight and tells everyone he is looking for me in the club - I know why, cuz I saw him cheating AGAIN on her.........now im not scared of him or anything so im indifferent to it, he can't threaten me or anything (well he can try but it won't achieve anything).

But I lost my rag and simply replied to his fb msg with:

00:41
Snake man:
Alright mate are you doing the photography at **the club** tonight?

01:06
Combat Squirrel:
Yeah and I know what ur going say, my advice to you would be to stop cheating on ur mrs u cheating ****, now don't talk to me again.

Now, i'm not going to reply to any more messages from him, nor am I thinking of running to his Mrs, but I have turned a blind eye to his antics numerous times in the past year and a half, and now he is trying to get me to keep his little secret its encroaching on me, OBVIOUSLY I have said don't talk to me again..............

Am I doing the right thing by keeping out the way? Or do I send his mrs a nice photo or 3 of him cheating on her with 3 different women (that I Happen to have) It's sucky she is getting played as she has a heart of gold, I also have confirmation he slept with one of these 3 girls.

Over to you OCUK GD Police !

PS: His FB profile has no rel status on it, her's has 'in rel with snake man', im willing to bet all their mutual friends can see they are in a rel and to public/non mutual friends he hides his rel status !! pff git.

Monkeynut · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:33

Snake Man said:
Alright mate are you doing the photography at **the club** tonight?

This is hardly warranting what you sent him, surely? Not aggressive or rude. I think you've put your foot in it personally.

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:37

Monkeynut said:
This is hardly warranting what you sent him, surely? Not aggressive or rude. I think you've put your foot in it personally.

Yeah but its not the 1st time he has begged me not to say anything, and I dont want to keep his stupid little secrets.............im not gonna run and tell her i just told him do one and not talk to me again, and I think it does warrant being as rude as I like, because he is hardly being a nice guy.........he lost my respect doing what he does.

Like I say he can't really do much to me, so I'm not worried about him

[FnG]magnolia · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:38

How long have you wanted to have sex with the woman for?

Hades · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:40

Over the top I think. FB is too open to absolutely everyone. If I felt unhappy about what someone was doing I would take them to one side and tell them. If their behaviour didn't change then I would consider telling their partner. But I wouldn't announce it to the world.

Life isn't black and white and when you make judgements on someone you only know a limited part of the story. Not condoning this persons behaviour at all but simply saying I would handle it differently.

EDIT: Ignore my reply I think this guy has hit the nail on the head...

[FnG]magnolia;25040452 said:
How long have you wanted to have sex with the woman for?

Jambo · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:44

Absolutely none of your business. Not sure why you sent the message you did.......

[FnG]magnolia;25040452 said:
How long have you wanted to have sex with the woman for?

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:47

[FnG]magnolia;25040452 said:
How long have you wanted to have sex with the woman for?

You have got to love the assumptions made on OCUK, happens every time

Answer: NEVER - I'm with the woman I want to marry

Not any woman on Earth will do for me other than my gf I am happy to say, took many years to find her but I am super happy now

Hades said:
Over the top I think. FB is too open to absolutely everyone. If I felt unhappy about what someone was doing I would take them to one side and tell them. If their behaviour didn't change then I would consider telling their partner. But I wouldn't announce it to the world.

Life isn't black and white and when you make judgements on someone you only know a limited part of the story. Not condoning this persons behaviour at all but simply saying I would handle it differently.

EDIT: Ignore my reply I think this guy has hit the nail on the head...

Yeah im not going to tell her but I dont want to get involved in his web of lies basically (answering your 1st part)

Hades · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:54

If you're really close friends with her (in a platonic way) then take her to one side. But honestly, if you're just aquaintencies then my advice is to keep out of it. Like I said, life isn't black and white. <-- old git talking here

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:55

Hades said:
If you're really close friends with her (in a platonic way) then take her to one side. But honestly, if you're just aquaintencies then my advice is to keep out of it. Like I said, life isn't black and white. <-- old git talking here

Fair enough, I just sent him this message to follow up what I wrote above:

"Oh don't worry I wont tell anyone your lies, I just really don't want to get involved and I really don't condone what you are doing, just keep out my way."

least he knows I guess

[FnG]magnolia · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:57

You should break up with your fiancee, fight the guy who's doing the cheating and propose to the other woman who you want to have sex with.

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:59

[FnG]magnolia;25040481 said:
You should break up with your fiancee, fight the guy who's doing the cheating and propose to the other woman who you want to have sex with.

Says your in Auckland, must be the blood going to your head

haha

Hades · 2 Oct 2013 at 01:59

Mags is totally on fire tonight and I have no argument against his reasoning.

I'm looking for a "point well made" GIF but I'm too drunk to even get up from my seat so I've no chance of finding and uploading a decent GIF right now.

Zefan · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:00

Combat squirrel said:
Now, i'm not going to reply to any more messages from him, nor am I thinking of running to his Mrs,

OK.

Combat squirrel said:
do I send his mrs a nice photo or 3 of him cheating on her with 3 different women (that I Happen to have)

OK.

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:02

Yeah but the fail is, it's all wrong !! lol, honestly I have zero interest in her, I just don't like seeing people getting screwed over, as it's happened to me in the past and its well bad!

It's a weird world we live in, 99% of people don't get involved in anything because they fear the reprocutions to them, even if they are doing the right thing

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:03

Zefan said:
OK.

OK.

OK

Ha, clearly I wrote this while pondering what to do, I have decided in the past few moments

, to just like, leave him to it, but let him know I think he is a ****

Zefan · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:06

Wait a minute, wait a minute...

You know, this is - excuse me - a damn terrible thread. I've read I can't tell you how many rubbish threads in my life and this, this is one of the worst.

Hades · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:08

My advice above isn't borne of not wanting to get involved (I've most definitely got involved in issues in the past even to my own personal risk). No, it's borne of 44 years of life experience. I'm an old git now and my views have changed.

By all means stand up for principles but:

1) She probably knows and has her eyes closed.
2) He won't care.
3) I bet both of them have been in similar relationships before.

By all means take some action but that action should, in my opinion, be to have a quiet discussion with her. Blasting out to the Facebook world can't achieve anything but the wrong result imho.

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:08

Zefan said:
Wait a minute, wait a minute...

You know, this is - excuse me - a damn terrible thread. I've read I can't tell you how many rubbish threads in my life and this, this is one of the worst.

Would you like some entertainment? perhaps some gifs? perhaps we could tell this story in gif form ?

[FnG]magnolia · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:09

Combat squirrel said:
lol, honestly I have zero interest in her

Zefan · 2 Oct 2013 at 02:10

I have no bandwidth for GIFs

You post a link to this thread on your Facebook, and invite her to a relationship at the same time. If she accepts, go silent and change the status to "It's complicated".