I think we might need an official ***OcUK Wife Swapping/Dogging Thread*** now.
Do you ever feel like forcing your interests/hobbies on friends/family?
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I think we might need an official ***OcUK Wife Swapping/Dogging Thread*** now.
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To be honest i'm more disappointed at GD that there isn't a thread already.
Ive judged the op already and find him to be quite a bore lmfao
Cheeky sod
I talk about loads of stuff. Windows, news on tech such as steamOS, AMD, nvidia, apple, android, XBMC, speakers, projectors, AV receivers, engine management and tuning, cameras, film releases, games releases.Bleedin hell. This is all blokey stuff. Stuff that blokes love. I think i must have mad moments of intense interest on coming and passing hobbies. Like i'll be interested in one hobby and talk loads about it, then move onto the next. It probably comes across as overwhelming to them and they lose interest.
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If you know that they are not interested then why ask? I have friends that aren't interested in PC hardware so I don't talk to them about, what's the point of forcing a conversation about something they don't want to talk about?
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Photography, it's hard to force your camera gear on people, that's personal. What you can share are the photographs.
Cars, that's also personal too, and to force it on people, like make them take rides in it, or even look at it for more than 2 seconds is just showing off.
Home cinema...I have a half decent home cinema too, and I do like to enjoy it with others but I bought it for me as my local cinema sucks. I watch movies with friends if they come over but also its not something I would make my friend sit through a movie just to experience it. I mean we've all been to the cinema and experienced surround sound before.
Cooking, it's both personal and a group thing, depends what you are making. Not evenone loves all foods and a lot of the food are best when fresh so it's not heat up next day in a microwave. Unless you make ice cream
Cars, that's also personal too, and to force it on people, like make them take rides in it, or even look at it for more than 2 seconds is just showing off.
Home cinema...I have a half decent home cinema too, and I do like to enjoy it with others but I bought it for me as my local cinema sucks. I watch movies with friends if they come over but also its not something I would make my friend sit through a movie just to experience it. I mean we've all been to the cinema and experienced surround sound before.
Cooking, it's both personal and a group thing, depends what you are making. Not evenone loves all foods and a lot of the food are best when fresh so it's not heat up next day in a microwave. Unless you make ice cream
I find it really creepy when you meet someone that is overly passionate about their interest (weird one or not) and even after you tell them you are not interested they carry on regardless. Like a desperate sales pitch.
Also the inappropriate ones were the present company dictates it isn't appropriate to talk about, lets say, the casualty numbers of the Battle of the Somme, yet they still harp on about....
In fact i think these kind of people are socially retarded in some way.. (oooh don't go there)
edit: Dogging thread sounds good, i know some nice car parks and lay-bys round the Romford area.
Also the inappropriate ones were the present company dictates it isn't appropriate to talk about, lets say, the casualty numbers of the Battle of the Somme, yet they still harp on about....
In fact i think these kind of people are socially retarded in some way.. (oooh don't go there)
edit: Dogging thread sounds good, i know some nice car parks and lay-bys round the Romford area.
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Only music interests, I hang out with friends who have similar interests except they hate my music taste. I try to "convert" them by playing albums in the car but it doesn't work, they will like one song off a album usually though.
Family I don't bother them with my interests except mention a band I like at the moment or some tv series I'm watching/movie I just watched.
Family I don't bother them with my interests except mention a band I like at the moment or some tv series I'm watching/movie I just watched.
You're right. I guess my thought process is, "this is too awesome to miss, you've absolutely got to see this, because you will want it" hoping they will buy something similar and i get them into the same hobby as me. I honestly don't see it personally as "mine's better than yours". It's just that i want them to experience what i am experiencing because it's just so great.
Granted, they've all got mid spec gaming pc's, and one of them had a car comparable to mine in terms of performance and looks, and i know it might sound crazy, but i want all my friends to all have the same hobbies as me, and not split between the pack so to speak.
Admittedly, not all my friends have seen all the stuff i've got in person, just the odd picture here and there. Certain sets of circumstances with certain friends have bought it about like this.
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you fit my description of weird pretty much spot on in some respects hahah 
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It's understandable to want to share the things that you enjoy and get other people involved, I tried myself with PC gaming (managed to convert one mind). The problem is coming in too technical right from the off and badgering them even though they still show no interest.
I’ve given up with seeing that glazed/bored look on people’s faces so only occasionally bring my interests into a conversion and then don’t go into very much detail. That is left for those that are interested in or share my hobbies.
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I guess you have to be one of the best in your field to really get people interested.
You like running? Talking to someone who doesn't run wouldn't interest them. If however you have just won the Olympics…that's a different story, I bet they would want all kind of details.
You like ameture drama? Most people won't care, unless you land a role in the blockbuster or wins a Oscar. Then it's not so much of a "hobby" is it.
But back to the real world and something more closer to home.
You say like Photography? Like I said, most people who are not into photography don't care for the gear, some would even think a £300 camera can get the same photos you can with a £5,000 DSLR. However, if you take a really impressive photographs, something they would want themselves, then you may get them to be interested in more of it, perhaps even buy a print from you.
You say you like cars, we all see nice cars everyday on the street, if you live or work in an affluent area then you won't even blink twice upon seeing an Aston Martin, so if one of your friends owns a BMW 3 series or something, it's just "another car". To make the average person who isn't interested in cars to take an interest, you need something special, different and not something you see everyday. Go get a Ferrari Enzo, then I bet all your friends will take an interest in your "hobby".
You say you like PC gaming…I wouldn't bother, all they are hearing is that you are good with computers and you will be their unpaid, all hours, IT support.
You like running? Talking to someone who doesn't run wouldn't interest them. If however you have just won the Olympics…that's a different story, I bet they would want all kind of details.
You like ameture drama? Most people won't care, unless you land a role in the blockbuster or wins a Oscar. Then it's not so much of a "hobby" is it.
But back to the real world and something more closer to home.
You say like Photography? Like I said, most people who are not into photography don't care for the gear, some would even think a £300 camera can get the same photos you can with a £5,000 DSLR. However, if you take a really impressive photographs, something they would want themselves, then you may get them to be interested in more of it, perhaps even buy a print from you.
You say you like cars, we all see nice cars everyday on the street, if you live or work in an affluent area then you won't even blink twice upon seeing an Aston Martin, so if one of your friends owns a BMW 3 series or something, it's just "another car". To make the average person who isn't interested in cars to take an interest, you need something special, different and not something you see everyday. Go get a Ferrari Enzo, then I bet all your friends will take an interest in your "hobby".
You say you like PC gaming…I wouldn't bother, all they are hearing is that you are good with computers and you will be their unpaid, all hours, IT support.
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Never.. well maybe once..I tried it on my son .. pushing him to become the next of a family line of a Spurs supporters. It backfired as he's a Gooner.
Pretty much sums up how I operate.
Pretty much sums up how I operate.
Good lad.
PC's, games, technology, ethics, politics, sociology/biology, ancient Greek history, cosmology & philosophy here (so I'm used to the same).
I can talk to a grand total of zero of my friends about 99% of my hobbies (which is one great thing about this forum, a larger pool of people to talk about shared interests than you get in real life).