Not wanting kids and dating

triggerthat

triggerthat

triggerthat

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I'm 28, I have a good job and I'm happy with how things are. I've started dating and most women I come across (seeing profiles on online dating) want kids.

The concern I have is that I just don't want kids. I am not sure if that will change in 5 or 10 years but I've got no desire to have them. I get the impression that me not wanting kids is a huge turn off. I did a search online and the number of women who don't want kids is extremely low. The idea of meeting someone who is ambitious, down to earth and doesn't want babies is extremely hard to fine.

Any thoughts?
 
triggerthat said:
I'm 28, I have a good job and I'm happy with how things are. I've started dating and most women I come across (seeing profiles on online dating) want kids.

The concern I have is that I just don't want kids. I am not sure if that will change in 5 or 10 years but I've got no desire to have them. I get the impression that me not wanting kids is a huge turn off. I did a search online and the number of women who don't want kids is extremely low. The idea of meeting someone who is ambitious, down to earth and doesn't want babies is extremely hard to fine.

Any thoughts?
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Get the snip, don't tell her, problem solved ;)
 
If it ever doesn't pan out with my bf...;)

I don't want kids and I've always made that clear. I think honesty is best but you will always have the person that will try to change your mind.
 
Don't ever lie about that kind of thing or you are wasting the life of someone else. Be open and honest about it. You have to ram it down their throats that you don't want kids, but this is just dating.
 
triggerthat said:
I'm 28, I have a good job and I'm happy with how things are. I've started dating and most women I come across (seeing profiles on online dating) want kids.

The concern I have is that I just don't want kids. I am not sure if that will change in 5 or 10 years but I've got no desire to have them. I get the impression that me not wanting kids is a huge turn off. I did a search online and the number of women who don't want kids is extremely low. The idea of meeting someone who is ambitious, down to earth and doesn't want babies is extremely hard to fine.

Any thoughts?
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Exact same position here.

Not actively searching though - sick of being lied to, so my opinion of the fairer sex is somewhat jaded.
 
Women's clocks start ticking around 30 mate. It's to be expected.

That said, the small of her back is there for a reason...
 
Once upon a time I had the same attitude then a 'mistake' happened. Have to say its the best thing to have happened to me. Gives your life a new purpose.
 
This might be a different debate, but what about guys who can't have kids and therefore don't have the choice? I've got Stickler's syndrome which causes low vision (can't drive), shorter bones (5' 4" height), and I've always been in low-paid (~£13k) jobs due to mild learning disability it causes. The thread bugs me because women can be choosers and I'm stuck with the above undesirable traits, and yet it's through no choice or fault of my own. Not sure exactly what I'm asking for here, maybe just a self-rant more than anything else. Social services perhaps?
 
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