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Xire

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Anyone else currently house sharing? If so how do you find it?

Just had my flat mate have a go at me because apparently I never cleaned the hobs hard enough after using them. Petty things like this grind my gears.
 
Xire said:
Anyone else currently house sharing? If so how do you find it?

Just had my flat mate have a go at me because apparently I never cleaned the hobs hard enough after using them. Petty things like this grind my gears.
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Does S/He end up routinely cleaning up your mess? Do you ever have to clean up after Him/Her?

Do you have the answer to your question? ;)

(Personally I would sooner sleep in a storm drain than consider a house share, but then that's just me! :D )
 
Orionaut said:
Does S/He end up routinely cleaning up your mess? Do you ever have to clean up after Him/Her?

Do you have the answer to your question? ;)

(Personally I would sooner sleep in a storm drain than consider a house share, but then that's just me! :D )
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Nope I consider myself a very clean housemate, I often clean his dishes everynow and then with no bother.

I have house shared for sometime now and its finally starting to get on my nerves.
 
This is why i was glad to see the end to house sharing. It can be fun and if you have no friends like me it can be good to meet new people. But the biggest issues for me was the bathroom never being empty when i needed it and the kitchen never being free when i needed it. Having to wait for someone to finish cooking or have to clean their dishes, its terrible. The last thing i want to do after ive just finished eating is go and scrub a pan for the next guy.

Also people have different levels of what clean is. I clean my hob like once every few months because it does not bother me enough and its always going to get dirty. But i do like clean counter tops. But the dishes i can leave for a few days and its not the end of the world. But house sharing people are either not clean enough or they are unreasonably clean. The worst is when cleaning gets political, like you moan about them not cleaning something for example like not cleaning the frying pan. Then they start going on to you about something you do. Its stupid.
 
maccapacca said:
If it's yellow let it mellow
If it's brown wash it down
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I do follow this sometimes.

For example I will always flush a turd but if i have a few drinks or a lot of coffee at night I pee like mad, its annoying and as a result I don't bother flushing for those types of pee as its basically water coming out anyway.

I feel better for sharing.
 
In my experiences with house shares, people rarely complain unless there is actually a problem.

In the few cases I've had where people complain with no good reason I've always just got them to explain the problem then, if it is as a silly one, politely told them to do one.

I would guess that actually you probably aren't cleaning the hob well enough. Something is either clean or it isn't, people don't complain when things are actually clean.

However if your house mate is being unreasonable bloody well deal with it and stop LETTING it get on your nerves. This is my biggest problem with house shares and house mates, people who don't just deal with issues when they come up, rather than 6 months down the line when they're ready to butcher someone with a bread knife or there is fur growing in the fridge.
 
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groen said:
This is why i was glad to see the end to house sharing. It can be fun and if you have no friends like me it can be good to meet new people. But the biggest issues for me was the bathroom never being empty when i needed it and the kitchen never being free when i needed it. Having to wait for someone to finish cooking or have to clean their dishes, its terrible. The last thing i want to do after ive just finished eating is go and scrub a pan for the next guy.

Also people have different levels of what clean is. I clean my hob like once every few months because it does not bother me enough and its always going to get dirty. But i do like clean counter tops. But the dishes i can leave for a few days and its not the end of the world. But house sharing people are either not clean enough or they are unreasonably clean. The worst is when cleaning gets political, like you moan about them not cleaning something for example like not cleaning the frying pan. Then they start going on to you about something you do. Its stupid.
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Clean the hob every time you cook and dishes washed the same day, definitely not 'unreasonably clean'
 
Make sure to leave passive-aggressive post it notes lying around the house, explaining your frustration at the gross injustices being inflicted upon you. Always internalise your anger until it starts burning you up from the inside.

Never, ever, EVER, deal with these situations in an adult fashion (such as discussing it amicably and reasonably at a time which is convenient for you both, agreeing on a course of action which works for you both). This is for LOSERS.
 
rogan said:
Clean the hob every time you cook and dishes washed the same day, definitely not 'unreasonably clean'
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Every time? why that is just not necessary, I have better things to do. Dishes left over night, you know what i found out, nothing happens. Ive left dishes for a few days before, even some things for longer. nothing happens within that short amount of time. No mold, no smell, nothing. Most of the time I wash the dishes because I need to use them. I only have 2 of everything so that it does not allow for dishes to build up. ie i don't have 10 plates sitting there. Just two.
 
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Every time? why that is just not necessary, I have better things to do. Dishes left over night, you know what i found out, nothing happens. Ive left dishes for a few days before, even some things for longer. nothing happens within that short amount of time. No mold, no smell, nothing. Most of the time I wash the dishes because I need to use them. I only have 2 of everything so that it does not allow for dishes to build up. ie i don't have 10 plates sitting there. Just two.
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You have 2 plates?
Do you live alone?
Do you never have company?
 
I have more plates but I only use two. The rest are still in forever alone plastic in cupboard. Ok If i had frequent company then I would clean it more often. I do give the hob a wipe down quite a lot, i don't leave bits of bacon and pasta all over the place. Every so often i will clean it so that it is completely clean. I have lived with people that want it cleaned like that every day.

I do live a lone, but even when I was house sharing with 4 people in the house, the need to wash dishes was never for me that they had to be cleaned that day. It only needed to be cleaned so that the next person who used it did not have to wash it.
 
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House shared as one of four for two years. Made a few friends but we could never quite get 4 people who all got along at any one time. And the cleaning and recycling always caused arguments.

This one time this girl moved in and on day 1 she kept knocking on my bedroom door and coming in ( not a looker before you get any ideas ) and I'm no good at confrontation so I kind of let her even though in house share terms closed bedroom door is the international symbol for p*** off and leave me alone. This is not a communal area. Anyway it was all very weird and her whole moving in seemed to be some kind of. rebellion even though she was 25 or something. Her dad sat outside the flat for hours in His beamer while she kept asking me what she should do. Eventually close to midnight I started taking her bags out myself. Longest 24 hours of my life.
 
Ok so this has now turned in to a full blown argument. I was a bit annoyed at his sly comments, ended up not helping the situation.

I pay for the broadband and the two other flat mates pay me back, he hadn't paid me for a few months but I let it slide as I knew he was good for it.

Basically his dig at me was "if you would clean the hob properly cooking wouldn't take aslong" so I responded with "if you paid your bills properly maybe I would" so now were both not talking to each other. Feels so childish.
 
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