Do you like parties?

Lysander

Lysander

Lysander

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I always used to go to parties as a teenager, but I never really enjoyed them, in fact I would dread a lot of them. Too many people, too much social pressure, too much forced jollity, too much noise and nowhere to escape to. I got to my early 20s and then I realised that I just didn't like them, and it was OK to not like them.

As a result I haven't been to any large party for years and will avoid most social gatherings. We had an Xmas party at work this year which I also avoided.

So how about people here, are you the "life and soul", are you indifferent or do you generally run from them like the wind?
 
I'm generally not bothered but often end up enjoying them far more than I thought I would. It helps if there are people there I know, but I can force myself to "network" when required.
 
[FnG]magnolia;25552549 said:
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I think that's a bit harsh.

I find parties hard actually. I think it's the "pressure" to have fun.
 
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I used to love big house parties, but now I don't drink I get a bit bored. If it's a large group of friends I know, then I'll enjoy it, but if I don't know anyone then it really depends on whether I can break into existing groups of people or not.
 
Mid-teens, my parties were all just with my little group of friends. Late teens it was raves and different people every week. Uni would be parties a few times a week in various flats, then I calmed down a little after graduation. Now I manage one of the two biggest party bars in the city, so I'm basically forced in to having them several nights a week :p Hard life.

I used to be a little bit shy, but by sixth form I started to really enjoy being out all the time and meeting different people, which helped massively with packing up everything and going abroad. I have bad days, where I don't really want to see people, and I wouldn't describe myself as the life and soul, but I do love being out, or in, and am perfectly happy dropping in to a big party where I only know one or two people.
 
[FnG]magnolia;25552567 said:
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Well, there's no 'problem' as such. Some people like certain things, some people dislike certain things. As a result, we tend to do the things we like, and not the things we dislike.

The issues arise when we are pressured to do the things we dislike when we don't need to do them, and the only reason we are advised to do them is because we should, and if we don't people will think we're weird. But it's fine not to like social gatherings. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, as long as you don't offend anyone in your refusal [e.g. "I'm not going because X is a ****, Y is an self-centred bitch and Z is a borderline paedo"].

[FnG]magnolia;25552588 said:
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Don't worry, there's still room for Netflix.
 
[FnG]magnolia;25552610 said:
Why do you think being invited to something fun is a pressure?
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In itself, it's not a pressure.

"X, come to partay"
"nthxk, but thanks for the offer. I'd like to be at home, I actually don't like to partay/I'm doing summat else"
"Ah OK X, no probs, enjoy it then"

But that's not what happens, is it? It always goes:

"X come to partay"
"nthxk, but thanks for the offer. I'd like to be at home, I actually don't like to partay/I'm doing summat else"
"really? But it's Xmas/so and so's birthday/my dog's wedding anniversary/Rosa Parks appreciation day"
"yeah I know, but all the same thanks, really I mean it"
"Are you sure???"
"yeah"
"but it'll be fun!"
.......................
"what's wrong with X? What a weirdo"

Or "what the ****'s wrong with you you ****ing poof?! Don't be so gay!"

Repeat for another ten people who ask you.
 
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All ways down for it however depends what company I'm with.

Night on the town isn't my thing but a group of mates, decent weather, BBQ and a few crates of beer with some rock/softcore metal tunes and I'm down.
Common practice around the summer months really even better as then no looming deadlines or exams.
 
Lysander said:
In itself, it's not a pressure.

"X, come to partay"
"nthxk, but thanks for the offer. I'd like to be at home, I actually don't like to partay/I'm doing summat else"
"Ah OK X, no probs, enjoy it then"

But that's not what happens, is it? It always goes:

"X come to partay"
"nthxk, but thanks for the offer. I'd like to be at home, I actually don't like to partay/I'm doing summat else"
"really? But it's Xmas/so and so's birthday/my dog's wedding anniversary/Rosa Parks appreciation day"
"yeah I know, but all the same thanks, really I mean it"
"Are you sure???"
"yeah"
"but it'll be fun!"
.......................
"what's wrong with X? What a weirdo"

Or "what the ****'s wrong with you you ****ing poof?! Don't be so gay!"

Repeat for another ten people who ask you.
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You have terrible friends who don't know you or the things you like to do.

mrbell1984 said:
Anxiety. A lot of people don't realise they suffer from this. Different situations cause this to increase causing pressure that you don't even realise.

People like different things just accept it.
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That's a fair point.
 
[FnG]magnolia;25552549 said:
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