Guys, what do I say?

[FnG]magnolia;25837268 said:
I thought your last thread had been more optimistic and I'm very, very sorry to hear that I'd misunderstood it.
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Was just thinking the same thing.

Sorry to see that you are clearly going through a tough time. If you need to chat mate, everyone is here for you. I know its GD but there are SOME sensitive folks on here.

To the OP. If he is a friend, just be yourself. You shouldn't have to think about conversation, it will flow once you see him. Just let him know that you are there for him should he need you.
 
As has been said just be yourself. It's hard for you and him and he will know you are upset but you don't want his last days being ones of sadnes. I know I'd rather have things be as normal as possible.
 
Marine Iguana said:
Just be your usual self.
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This 100%.

A very close family friends daughter had a rare form of cancer at age 4. It was not looking great at the time but she pulled through and is now living a normal life. When she was in the middle of it all I lived very close to the hospital and used to visit every now and again and I was my normal self with her and the rest of the familiy. Years later the girls grandmother told me that my approach when I was visiting helped the girl and her family more than I could ever imagine.
 
Drinking alcohol is twice as likely to give you this type of cancer than smoking, I thought it would be the other way around.

"Smoking and drinking alcohol are two of the biggest risk factors for oesophageal cancer, particularly if both activities are combined. People who drink heavily but do not smoke are four times more likely to develop oesophageal cancer than non-drinkers, and people who smoke and do not drink alcohol are twice as likely to develop oesophageal cancer.

However, people who smoke and drink heavily (more than 30 units a week) are eight times more likely to develop oesophageal cancer than those who do not smoke or drink."
 
mcast said:
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Well, there's a cracking conversation starter for the OP. "So, how are you getting on? Oh, by the way, I read on the internet the other day that... so you really only have yourself to blame..."

For the OP, the thing is, someone in your friends situation just wants to know that there are people there for him, people that care, people that want to support. That truly means the world so just by going and being yourself you really have no idea how much good you will be doing. Unless he has totally come to terms with his situation, he will be scared ****less - perhaps not so much for himself but due to the thought of leaving others behind. Just having people around takes a bit of the edge off that.
 
I've been fortunate to look after children with cancer and my best advice is to treat people normally, have a laugh and unless they want to talk about their illness don't feel the need to get into it
 
My sister had terminal cancer and you can't help but feel awkward at times. Looking back we hardly talked about her illness at all (apart from when she needed help) until she was very near the end. Depends on personalities a lot I think so I would go with the flow rather than trying to research it too much.
 
Give him a hug, say oh **** dude and go do something if possible. Watch a movie, play a game (always good) not monopoly you will just fall out.
 
Tell him to consume concentrate cannabis oil, and lots of it.

Look up a video called 'run from the cure' a guy called rick Simpson .
 
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Feel for you but just be yourself, catch up on whats been going on swap a few stories and be ready to listen when he is ready to talk about his situation.

Its hard but don't be ashamed to say how you feel if he is as good a mate as it sounds he will feel better knowing you are both in the clear about what is to come.

Damnit I just read him not coming home and having pneumonia.

This is a situation I have been in, I don't mean to make it sound selfish but still go and see him even if he is non responsive or in pain etc you have to say whats on your mind and what he means to you

Chin up - it does get better in time
 
Been in this situation a couple of times.

Just be yourself and make sure you go round a lot. I stayed away because I didn't know what to say or do and now they've gone I regret it.
 
Going through this with a mate as we speak. :(

He was given 6 months to live about 10 months ago. I was s'posed to go round Friday & he text me letting me know he was in hospital & would text me when he got home Monday, Still not heard owt. :(

Like you I was worried about what to say the first time I saw him after I knew but he's my mate & we just carried on as normal but with a bit of a chat about cancer, death, money, his family & what I can actually do to help him & his family.
All I can say is make the first step & do it now you'll not regret it at all & things will just click, He is still your mate he is just your mate with Cancer, Good luck to You & Him.
 
DanielMMS said:
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I replied to the Op before I read your post so...

We the Members are always hear to support each other & I hope you reach out more, Thanks for opening up, I wish you & your family all the best. :)
 
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