I see what you're saying (I experience it too) but while you're suffering the other team probably isn't (at least not as badly). Sometimes the other team will suffer and you won't.
I still just think it's down to RNG.
hidden morale has been taken out and has been replaced by banding in order to even things out.
but the banding is completely inconsistent and sometimes it doesn't work or it works too well, etc it's all over the place.
the game is just completely borked due to the number of underlying mechanics screwing with each other.
you could be losing a game 2-0 and the game doesn't help you what so ever the game plays as normal, then you could be winning the next game 1-0 and the AI is forcing your players to play slack passes, have the ball control of a 4 year old, etc.
then there is headers, how is it possible you could put in 6 crosses to someone like adebayor and he doesn't win a single one yet they put in one to giovinco/valbuena who scores with a header?
then there is CB positioning, why when the cross is flung in by the other team why has kaboul moved out of the way of the cross instead of towards the ball attacking it? giving them a free header why does that happen sometimes?
this fifa is like playing roulette, you have to have luck on your side to stand a chance of winning if your playing divisions, otherwise you can stick to cups and get paired with noobs.