brothers wedding dilema

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So my brother gets married in a few weeks abroad, and he's asked me to be his best man which is great.
However ive just had a newborn baby in the last couple of weeks meaning the wife and kids can't fly out obviously.
Now the wife has said its my decision to go or not, but I can tell she's really not happy with the thought of me going and so is the mother-in-law.

The parents/brother etc are obviously gutted and have even looked at just coming out for the a few days just for the wedding and returning, all my side of the family will be there.

What would you do?
 
"Now the wife has said its my decision to go or not" To me says not to go lol , if she wanted you to go she would have told you to get your self out there
 
I would go and really your wife should not make you feel guilty for it. See if the mother-in-law can come and help out, or if your wife can go to their place for a few days.

Really, we live in a country with enough support, where even if family is not around to help, she should be fine with the little one for a few nights.
 
First of all, congrats on your newborn :).

How long would you be gone for? I'm sure your brother would understand if you couldn't go, but that's definitely a tough call.

I would be more inclined to go, but phrase it diplomatically to your wife.

I'm sure if she was in your situation you'd let her go?
 
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You do not say how far away the wedding is.

For me though if you can fly out do the wedding and come straight back so 3 days tops then you should do so.

Assuming of course the baby is fine and your wife has support at home of some sort.
 
MooMoo444 said:
Bro's before Ho's.
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What? Even with a newborn baby involved? Seriously, having a newborn is a very busy time and your wife will feel apprehensive about being left alone with the baby whilst you're out of the country. Put yourself in her shoes. If you were the one staying at home looking after the baby, would you be happy to do that by yourself? How much help would your wife have if you were to go? If you're already reading that she isn't happy, are you really ok to do it anyway and then suffer the repercussions? Remember that your wife has just been through a majorly tough experience and she'll be feeling rather emotional now. She needs your help with the baby and quite rightly wouldn't want you to be away from the both of them during this time.
 
welshboy said:
Now the wife has said its my decision to go or not
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Go do it for the min days you can and come home, yes new-born's are hard work but the wife & mother in law should be able to cope easy for a long weekend
 
CHokKA said:
What? Even with a newborn baby involved? Seriously, having a newborn is a very busy time and your wife will feel apprehensive about being left alone with the baby whilst you're out of the country. Put yourself in her shoes. If you were the one staying at home looking after the baby, would you be happy to do that by yourself? How much help would your wife have if you were to go? If you're already reading that she isn't happy, are you really ok to do it anyway and then suffer the repercussions? Remember that your wife has just been through a majorly tough experience and she'll be feeling rather emotional now. She needs your help with the baby and quite rightly wouldn't want you to be away from the both of them during this time.
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Your closest sibling is asking for your support on one of the, if not the most, important days of his life. It's not something to be missed.
 
D18241 said:
"Now the wife has said its my decision to go or not" To me says not to go lol , if she wanted you to go she would have told you to get your self out there
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See if she had said "go on, its your brothers wedding" id feel more like she's ok with it, but she really isnt.
 
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