Life just took a divebomb - 8 Years down the pan.

Damm i hate these threads. To think he might of been in the house would have me hopping. Could it of been her dad? You know what is worse though this was all pre-planned behind your back.


You can be sure he and her friends knew probably and conspired behind your back the evil *******s. To be honest though you only want em back because of a crappy chemical reaction called love. Look at it in context and get really mad and then remove the number, pull out the landline and block anyone and everyone you suspect of being in cahoots.


And then proceed to find someone else but next time try to find out how thier last relationship finnished or get a judge of thier character. It happened to me many moons ago and hurt me immensely with almost the same kind of situation. When a new fella comes along kiss goodbye to them because the chances are in the midst of a new whirlwind romance unless you are prepared to shred your dignity and chase and bully him away you can pretty much kiss them goodbye because only failure will make them return. I realised you can never build a marriage or relationship on the foundations of having to chase and bully people away. I sometimes wonder about these fellas though you have to be pretty desperate to move in on someone elses bird no?
 
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Chin up - move on. Don't get dragged down by any potential situation that might/might not end up with you 2 back together. It won't work.

You've a good job - focus on that, get on with life.

Good luck
 
As has been said, if this is her way of acting after 8 years you are now in a better place than you were prior to finding the note. Time will heal, get over it and move on. Now is the time you get some serious riding in :D
 
Something similar happened to me a while back. You need to get the upper hand back by avoiding chasing her to speak to her, and focus on the other pillars of life (work, friends, family etc).

More you chase someone who left in such a situation the more it will mess your mind and slow down recovery.

Something was wrong in your relationship for her to leave to someone else, so she was not meant for you

Life goes on (and gets better)
 
You say she was nuts?

Been there done that for ~10 years. She left leaving a similar note about needing space or whatever.
It cut me about pretty badly at the time and it took a while to come to realise that although I might get a little lonely sometimes now, I don't have to put up with her bs any longer which is a real plus.

In many ways it was a relief; dealing with her mental health problems sucked the life out of me. It's all very well and good with the nut-jobs having 24 hour crisis teams on standby and councillors who they can blab to, but who's there for the rest of us who have to deal with the fallout from such behaviour day in day out?
No-one.

If she couldn't say goodbye to your face then she was never the person you thought she was.

It's funny, you think you know people after all that time of being together, but the reality is you probably don't know them at all when push comes to shove.

You will feel bad now, but after a while you will regain some perspective on the matter and realise you are better off washing your hands of people who bring nothing positive to your life. Don't waste your time any further on a lost cause.
More importantly, don't **** yourself up because of what she did, or might be doing now.
 
It may have been said but regarding the title I never get this mentality "8 years down the pan" or how because you split up all that time was wasted.
you presentably had 8 years of at least reasonably good times to have stayed together for that long. so the way I look at it is you have gained that time and those memories.

the fact she has done this to you means the relationship is over end of really. As excruciating as it is DO not contact her. she has done a terrible thing and you need time to work things out, constant contact is the worst thing possible for this as you never get a chance to move on.
 
Tell this dudes workmate that she's cheated on you loads of times, this will filter back to him and the seed will be planted, everytime she goes out he will have that nagging doubt :)
 
Put it in her new bf's bum then poo on her chest after that have a relationship with her dad then break up with him with a note left on the doorstep by a fresh poo.

When this is all done, take up the boxing stance and go fishing.
 
I love women, they get mad & expect us to read their mind. We don't know why you feel ___ if you don't tell us. The hypocrisy, ok you tell me the truth or there will be a big blow up, I mean why should a man be expected to talk it out when we hear nothing about how they feel... Sorry for the rant...
 
The new guy is a mug anyway, she just ended an 8 year relationship for him and he's probably sitting at home all smug about it but in reality he's probably going to get the same treatment.
 
Guy I know shot dead another guy who was dicking his bird. He'd have probably got less (if any) jail time if he'd just kicked the guys ass.
 
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Tell this dudes workmate that she's cheated on you loads of times, this will filter back to him and the seed will be planted, everytime she goes out he will have that nagging doubt :)
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Yup you had a blazing row over her giving you an STD, Tell her parents too ofc! Then when his doubt sets in, Make a move to get her back. And then claim that she cheated on you again and leave her with no one once the new guy dissapears.


No one will ever suspect you of being evil enough to lie twice. Which is why you WILL get away with it. Although i do not condone shattering someone mentally who is already crazy. Pretending to be evil and venting is all good though! :D
 
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The only way that would work is if he is dressed as a Queen wasp, on a treadmill otherwise its just stupid.
 
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Yeah, it would probably make things a million times worse, but it might be worth it as it might well make him feel better. You cannot possibly judge how an individual might feel after gaining some form of retribution, no matter how superficial it might be or the consequences therein.
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I think it's quite clear where you would be right now if it was you and not the OP. Flooring it around the lake district :D
 
Dude, things could be worse. What if you got married, and then she did this? Better to get it over with and move on with things? You'll feel very different in a couple of weeks.
 
Anyone who just leaves a note after 8 years is just simply a spineless cretin.

I know it feels like nothing makes sense, and that "only if you could talk to her" it would make things ok. Well unfortunately it won't, she's made her mind up and if you try chase her all your gonna do is prolong your own agony, there ain't no coming back from running off like that, even if she's not with some other guy that's something that is really hard to come back from. Don't waste any more time on her, time to move on and get through this crappy period in your life. Once you come through it you will be a better person.

Forget about her and count yourself lucky there are no kids.

How do you do that though when all you can think of is her?

Get down the gym,
Take up a new hobby,
Work lots of over time.

Fill your dead time up, or your gonna torture yourself. Use your time to better yourself as a person and eventually get back on the wagon.


Last thing I'll say is: the brain likes to play ****** tricks on you. You will remember all the good aspects while forgetting the bad (of her and the relationship) you will miss her and want her back. Don't fall for the trick, it's just you subconsciously craving the "stability" and familiarity that a relationship brings. You don't need her, your gonna be fine on your own.


Best of luck, tis a ****** situation.
 
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