Life just took a divebomb - 8 Years down the pan.
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So basically, she wants to have a future you with you but she wants to go off and jump on a few other men first?
Can't have your cake and eat it dude. Obviously do it the 'right' way if that's important to you, but don't get suckered into making yourself an emotional martyr.
Put some distance between you, and start to heal.
She did this remember. She can't have it all her own way.
Can't have your cake and eat it dude. Obviously do it the 'right' way if that's important to you, but don't get suckered into making yourself an emotional martyr.
Put some distance between you, and start to heal.
She did this remember. She can't have it all her own way.
Oh my, why are you talking to a man who is having sex with your girlfriend.
As I said earlier, I think there is more to this tell than meets the eye.
She told you that this is what she told him, however:
You're not a mug mate, but you will become one if you dont see that's its time to detach and move on. As harsh as this sounds, she moved on MONTHS ago and this is why she can so easily start a new relationship.
You are now becoming her baggage in her new relationship and the niceness from her will stop soon enough if it your failure to detach doesn't come soon and it starts effecting her new life.
She's not helping the situation by trying to play the victim in all this, which she is doing because despite everything she has done, her own ego can't let you hate her she is deflecting blame onto her new bloke because you hate him anyway right now.
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She was seeing him today to explain it all... Since he's found out the truth he's refused to see her and is instead taking to me.
Seriously, its the one bit of truth in this. She needs to be alone and that's what she wanted. The guy has told me nothing is going on and she even told him she doesn't want a relationship... He was just under different impressions.
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So are you telling us that he was under the impression that you weren't together?
If he knocks her back, how long do you think before she comes running back crying that she made a mistake?
David, just to get this out of the way. What depression does she have?
If he knocks her back, how long do you think before she comes running back crying that she made a mistake?
David, just to get this out of the way. What depression does she have?
Man why even bother? This guy obviously has some serious issues
Anyone who thinks (and even suggests) its easy to simply stop loving someone, not look for every conceivable reason as to why it happened and give more attention than they deserve to every excuse presented to them from the person they love, is deluded.
What OP is doing is from a 3rd person POV stupid and irrational but dont give him a hard time over it, every last one of you would do the exact same when presented with a situation that removes the person you love from your life.
What OP is doing is from a 3rd person POV stupid and irrational but dont give him a hard time over it, every last one of you would do the exact same when presented with a situation that removes the person you love from your life.
He was under the impression our relationship was extremely bad and he was helping her escape, when I know for a fact it wasn't.. Unless she has lied about that aswell. She can be extremely irrational for short periods, hence I think a breakdown of some sort. Before it was nothing this major and I accepted her for who she is.
She has attempted suicide on many occasions, is on a number of different drugs, has been unwell since youth.. We were drawn to each other because we both have a history of mental illness so understood each other in that way.
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Oh well . This sounds like a great recipe for a train crash.
What line do you work on so I can know to avoid it.
You two are bound through guilt, fear of her committing suicide, and a deluded love built on mental illness.
Maybe she might be less suicidal if she was allowed the freedom to detach from you and find love with this other person.
You have no dignity in this. You are talking to the guy who is humping your misses like its a good thing. Fair play to the bloke for having the balls to speak to you. You should have allowed her to screw him over as an alternative to screwing you over.
What line do you work on so I can know to avoid it.
You two are bound through guilt, fear of her committing suicide, and a deluded love built on mental illness.
Maybe she might be less suicidal if she was allowed the freedom to detach from you and find love with this other person.
You have no dignity in this. You are talking to the guy who is humping your misses like its a good thing. Fair play to the bloke for having the balls to speak to you. You should have allowed her to screw him over as an alternative to screwing you over.
No they absolutely would not (myself included). Please stop sprouting such nonsense
So if your missus tells you she's off, you would just look up from your PC and say "ok dear" and carry on with you life would you ?
Please stop sprouting such nonsense