Does your partner approve of your hobbies?

Still seeing a trend of partners not liking the PC, or the amount of time spent on the PCI, or the money spent on the PC.

I reckon it's the amount of time. It's really easy to spend more time on a hobby than you think and that can annoy a partner. Still I've seen some mates with partners who get irrationally mad at the PC.

adam98150 said:
Knew a friend whos girl withheld sex if he went out with us. If that's not the definition of controlling I don't know what is.
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Wow, that's a healthy relationship. Not.

Haggisman said:
Have you ever been shopping or tried to have a 5 minute sit down at lunch with an obstreperous 3 year old? :p
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One toddler is hard enough. Two is far harder, you can't switch off for a moment. My average day at work is easier than a day looking after the little one.

Mother and father need "me" time and time with the children isn't "me" time.
 
I stopped playing WoW for mine. I have no regrets as in retrospect it was a huge time sink. She's happy with regular gaming though she approved when I invested in good headphones.
 
I dont mind my partners hobby (pc building and gaming too) but I dont like the amount of money that goes into the pc builds and the amount of them we sometimes have because he likes to take them apart and then get another one etc. I am perfectly happy with one or 2 but at one point I think we had 5 just lying around and all of it was usually left out on the lounge for few days. That was when it was getting a bit silly really.
Dont mind the gaming at all as I like to play something or watch tv and he is on his pc or on the other tv.

My hobbies... He doesnt mind me baking cakes/bread etc at all :D or anything else really.
 
pinkowl said:
I dont mind my partners hobby (pc building and gaming too) but I dont like the amount of money that goes into the pc builds and the amount of them we sometimes have.
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Question. Is the issue with what they spend on his computers because it leaves you both short or is it because they don't spend money on you?

There's been a theme of the amount spent on hobbies, especially computers, in this thread and it would be nice to get a view from the other side.

oulton said:
Tell me about it!

We are expats too so we can't ship our little darling off to granny or granddads for the evening either!
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As OCUK Forums Offical Youngest Grandfather™ (probably) I know how useful grandparents are. My lad and daughter-in-law would struggle for both "me" time and couple time without mine and Mrs. Splodge's help. I feel for people like you who haven't got grandparents to help out.
 
LordSplodge said:
As OCUK Forums Offical Youngest Grandfather™ (probably) I know how useful grandparents are. My lad and daughter-in-law would struggle for both "me" time and couple time without mine and Mrs. Splodge's help. I feel for people like you who haven't got grandparents to help out.
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Yeah it can be a bit hectic! Hopefully when my mrs' parents retire in a couple of years we can arrange something. Having grandparents around the corner would be :D:D:D
 
My wife used to get irritated with my gaming but I just didn't want to watch cr4p on TV .. so she took up photography, which became a complete obsession and ended up with her on her Mac every single night (I hate flickr with a vengance)... combine that with 2 nights a week I play badminton... relationship fail :-(

Wish I'd watched the cr4p TV now
 
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My wife does't get my hobbies of flying a quadcopter, computers and motorcyles, just because she is not interested in them and thinks I spend way to much money on them.

Yet we live in a decent flat, I work and she 'looks after' the flat, does laundry, cooking etc. and won't let me share those chores so she can get a real job.

But hey if she is willing to spend 25k a year being a house wife then I can buy fun stuff I like.

/rant off
 
LordSplodge said:
Question. Is the issue with what they spend on his computers because it leaves you both short or is it because they don't spend money on you?

There's been a theme of the amount spent on hobbies, especially computers, in this thread and it would be nice to get a view from the other side.
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Its not that it leaves us short (he would never spent too much to not leave enough for bills and food) or that I would want him to spent on me (I spent enough on me with my own money). I dont know how much he spents as he doesnt really tell me what he buys. I just see the parcels and computers on the desk. I think its mainly the mess that annoys me but then again the money could be saved and spent on something bit more usefull for him (all these computers end up in the back of the cubboard not used). I know its fun for him to take them apart and see whats there and if he could improve it by getting another part or something but I just hate the mess it leaves and the fact it takes him days to clear it up and I dont wanna break anything so I dont touch it. If it was completely mess free it wouldnt annoy me that much I dont think.

He hasnt done this for a while though as I said no when we moved cos I didnt want that mess as well as moving boxes. I can feel it coming along though now that we have everything sorted... Maybe he reads this and decided to buy another one :D

// edit I actually got him one of those RC helicopters hoping it would be a nice new hobby (quite expensive actually so that was a bit of a fail) but he got bored I think.
 
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My hobbies are bouldering, cycling and photography. The only one my gf of 5 years has ever had any issue with is bouldering as "it's really dangerous". She now comes to the climbing gym with me and is hooked herself. :p
 
LordSplodge said:
Still seeing a trend of partners not liking the PC, or the amount of time spent on the PCI, or the money spent on the PC.
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That's because sitting at the PC isn't really a hobby. Sure if you're doing something productive on the PC I'd consider that a hobby, or perhaps building/tinkering with a PC. Looking at forums and what not is just as bad as watching the TV on the sofa. :p
 
My other half is awesome with my hobbies, and I likewise reciprocate with hers.

I like gaming, she also likes gaming (more console, but I will let her off for that). I also (try to) play guitar, and she actually bought herself one to learn as well. Pretty cool :)

She does a lot of horse riding, so I often give her my free time to help muck out/look after the horse etc. It's all good!
 
pinkowl said:
Its not that it leaves us short (he would never spent too much to not leave enough for bills and food) or that I would want him to spent on me (I spent enough on me with my own money). I dont know how much he spents as he doesnt really tell me what he buys. I just see the parcels and computers on the desk. I think its mainly the mess that annoys me but then again the money could be saved and spent on something bit more usefull for him (all these computers end up in the back of the cubboard not used). I know its fun for him to take them apart and see whats there and if he could improve it by getting another part or something but I just hate the mess it leaves and the fact it takes him days to clear it up and I dont wanna break anything so I dont touch it. If it was completely mess free it wouldnt annoy me that much I dont think.

He hasnt done this for a while though as I said no when we moved cos I didnt want that mess as well as moving boxes. I can feel it coming along though now that we have everything sorted... Maybe he reads this and decided to buy another one :D

// edit I actually got him one of those RC helicopters hoping it would be a nice new hobby (quite expensive actually so that was a bit of a fail) but he got bored I think.
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Nah boxes of computer bits are cool our house is full of them. Including a built in brewery and library.
 
Just by skimming over the comments in this thread and also my own experiences with past GF's (and to some degree my current GF).....A LOT, if not most women dont like anything that takes attention away from them.

I guess if you manage to find a woman that embraces your hobbies, she's a keeper!
 
pinkowl said:
Its not that it leaves us short ..l I dont know how much he spents as he doesnt really tell me what he buys. I just see the parcels and computers on the desk. I think its mainly the mess that annoys me but then again the money could be saved and spent on something...
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Hmm, you say money isn't the issue but still mention it. I'm with you on the clutter as I hate clutter.

adam98150 said:
That's because sitting at the PC isn't really a hobby. Sure if you're doing something productive on the PC I'd consider that a hobby, or perhaps building/tinkering with a PC.
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I use a computer as a tool for my hobbies, but some people, especially on these forums have an actual hobby of building and tweaking a computer. That's a valid hobby.

Browsing the web isn't a hobby but that's what iPads are designed for. You can sit with the partner and browse the web. Win win.

Mrs Seabiscuit said:
Nah boxes of computer bits are cool our house is full of them. Including a built in brewery and library.
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Nah, clutter is never good. I like the idea of a brewery (& I have a library) but clutter is horrible.

My primary indoor hobby of board gaming leads to lots of boxes, nice boxes but still storing them is an issue.
 
My gf is happy for me to get on with whatever but I tend not to push it too much, she even bought a bike to go for a few rides but tend to just want to stick to the flat stuff.

She doesn't quite get the appeal of gaming so much, mostly WoW, I don't play that much at the moment but when I do she doesn't moan (she even tried it once, got to lvl 3, bless her :p)

and she doesn't get the getting up at 5am to go for a jog, but it doesn't affect her so she doesn't mind it :)
 
francky said:
Just by skimming over the comments in this thread and also my own experiences with past GF's (and to some degree my current GF).....A LOT, if not most women dont like anything that takes attention away from them.

I guess if you manage to find a woman that embraces your hobbies, she's a keeper!
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The solution to that is quite simple...make sure she's not feeling neglected. Then she won't mind what you spend the rest of your time doing.

I don't mind my partners hobbies. I built my own gaming PC which beats his :p

I have a reptile habit. He tolerates it, but doesn't love them as much as I do. He has just come home early to help me take one of the poorly rescues to the vet, though, so he can't mind too much!
 
I've introduced a lot of new hobbies into my GF's life and likewise she has done the same for me, we now tend to share most of our hobbies together, that being said I still like to have 'my' hobby time, I think it's healthy to do your own thing to.

The main thing is she doesn't moan when I spend £500 on a GFX card etc, and she is buying me some high end headphones for Christmas!!

It is a balance though, I think for example if you've agreed to save up for a holiday together and your blowing cash on your hobbies instead then of course your partner has the right to complain.
 
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