I like how you waited till after you'd bought to sit down and figure this out![]()

What?! You have me confused.
You said you have 5 times this amount spare when you were a contractor so you had 5k spare a month after rent? Why did you give that up for permanent employment that leaves you with 1k after mortgage?
What?! You have me confused.
You said you have 5 times this amount spare when you were a contractor so you had 5k spare a month after rent? Why did you give that up for permanent employment that leaves you with 1k after mortgage?
Being permanently employed means it'll be much easier to get a mortgage and the job is much more stable.

Also, you were on £5000+ take home a month and you still needed help from your parents to buy somewhere?![]()
Sorry I wasn't being clear before. When I said 5 times I meant 5 times to my current £700 disposal income (after bills), which makes it around 3.6k on a monthly basis after tax.
You could take a few months a year off and still get paid far better as a contractor on the amount you were getting!
What have you done!?
Surprisingly, I haven't achieved much. Let's see where all the money went:
- Dining out / take aways few times a week.
- Visit supermarket random times of the week with the missus buying whatever we wanted.
- Booking holidays to Europe on impulse
- Spending a hundred quit a week buying drugs
- I was getting paid on a weekly basis being contractor. It's very very easy to blow money away when you are thinking, 'oh I'm getting paid another £1000 again by Monday' coming every Friday.
Turns out these things would cost you a fortune. Money spent, gained nothing but shallow pleasure.
So to sum it up, my life was a mess for the past few years. gf sticked around, helped me get back onto my feet. That's why I've settled down and trying get my life back on track.
Use me as a bad example.
That sounds alright to me!
If you had a good time doing those things then I don't see any issue with it. The grass always seems greener on the other side if you are not happy at any point in your life but thats just because the other option is a best case fantasy in your head.
What was / is your job?