Poll: Strips clubs - harmless fun or disrespectful of your other half?

Strip clubs?

  • Harmless fun

    Votes: 231 55.8%

  • Disrespectful to other half

    Votes: 183 44.2%
  • Total voters
    414

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I was getting a lift into work this morning, and somehow my friend (female) and I got onto the subject of strip clubs, and how we perceive them.

She says that she finds her BF going to a strip club severely disrespectful to her, and it's not too far from getting a random lass in town from putting their boobs in your face (only to her it's worse in a strip club as you're paying for a private dance). In her defense she did ask him not to and he did anyway, but that's another matter :p

She thinks that being a stripper isn't too far from being a prostitute (which I disagreed with) purely because she's still selling her body for money, which she finds immoral. To me the two are quite far apart.

I think it's just a bit of harmless fun (but then being a guy I probably would say that). My friend asked me what would my other half think and honestly I don't think she'd mind me going to one. As an example when going on a stag do it's quite likely you'll end up in a strip club, and my other half probably expects that. Whether she would mind me paying for a dance is another matter; I couldn't answer that though as I've never paid for a private dance since we've been together.

I just thought I'd share this as it seems quite a touchy subject for a lot of people. What do you guys think, and have you said to your respective other halves you've been to a gentleman's club?
 
strip club in the UK... nah it is just dances, very limited contact in general - she sounds a bit insecure really. I guess some strippers no doubt do escort too but the typical UK club would be risking it's license if they allowed anything like that to go on openly on the premises.

strip club in eastern europe on the other hand - probably more to be concerned about - they are essentially prostitutes, clubs are fairly hands on and girls offer a lot extra to people
 
Mrs Cheesyboy is ok with it. Thinks it's a bit sad/funny, really, that guys want to go to them. She's probably right.

One or two of her friends are a bit mental about it, though. Have a real problem.
 
Harmless fun. Does depend though. I have been to a few, always with a group of mates (guys) apart from once when we had a mixed group. Standing at the bar socialising and drinking chatting to a few of the dancers whilst occasionally glancing over at the one who is on stage. It's a job they have chosen to do for whatever reason so power to them.

A lot of girls percieve that every girl in the strip club wants to sleep with everyone. Couldn't be further from the truth.

If you were going by yourself sitting up the front gawking at every single dancer then maybe she would have a point...
 
dowie said:
strip club in eastern europe on the other hand - probably more to be concerned about - they are essentially prostitutes, clubs are fairly hands on and girls offer a lot extra to people
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I went to a couple in Prague. The strippers there are stunning. One of the clubs had prostitutes as well as strippers, but they were separate individuals - it didn't seem that you could hire the strippers for sex.
 
teh_captain said:
In her defense she did ask him not to and he did anyway, but that's another matter :p
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To be honest, I'd say that was an issue in itself. Is it another matter? Or perhaps the root of the problem is him not respecting her enough and deliberately doing the opposite of what she asks? If he's like this about more than just going to a strip club then I can maybe appreciate her side of things (maybe I'm reading too much into it).

Nothing wrong with them in general(well, in the UK anyway) but surely if she's not happy with him going then that's when it becomes an issue?

My OH would probably not care too much if I went to a strip club but being in a committed, long term relationship isn't about the social or moral high ground, it's about both being on the same page.
 
I think it's their choice and if they want to make a load of money dancing on a pole, then so be it. As for my girlfriend, she wouldn't mind if I went. She is also bi so would want to come with me.
 
Unless your partner is in to it/joins you, I think it's a step too personal for people in relationships, make do with porn in those instances.
 
Horses for courses. Some are bothered by it, others are not.

But every time this topic comes up the best reply is always:

How comfortable would you be with your SO paying to have another man, who incidentally will be better looking than you, shove his tally-whacker in her face?
 
I see them as a place to get ripped off by some stupid tart who's only out to get as much out of you financially as possible.. So with that said, never been to one, apart from one time in Amsterdam, but then i was with an ex-gf who was curious more than anything. If it was supposed to arouse, then it failed miserably.

If i went to one now, and my missus saw a CC bill of god knows how much fellas end up paying at these places, i'd expect a right earful.
 
Women don't like their blokes going to see strippers because they know what women are like when they go and see male strippers. You might get an eyeful watching female strippers but she'll get a mouthful watching male strippers.
 
Personally I think it's incredibly weird. As do some of my friends. I've been to a few, but never had a dance. Just seems so strange, you go in there, watch a bird strip and then .. well that's it. I think it seems so weird to me because they don't want to be there, and they certainly don't want to dance for you. It's all to do with the money you know? End of the day they just think you're dirty creeps.

And not sure what mine would think about the whole thing. Some birds go crazy if you just watch porn! :eek:
 
Hmm, I've been in this scenario before. I went to a boob club purely because the booze was cheaper than other outlets that evening, plus we had free entry cards. I used to be a regular before I met the Mrs, but then after starting to see her, I cut it out, apart from this occasion where my fellow boob club mate was in town and we decided to go out and enjoy a few beers. We both went in to the boob club, but both of us only consumed beer, not boobs.

Needless to say, she wasn't impressed, however it wasn't a sticking point because I insisted that I didn't consume any boobs.

regardless of the fact that she went into the same boob club before I did and when we were seeing each other. this is how she found out that I used to frequent said boob club, because when she said she got in for free, I spat my earl grey out as I mentioned that it normally costs a tenner in entry fee's.

Touche, other half, touche!
 
adam98150 said:
Personally I think it's incredibly weird. As do some of my friends. I've been to a few, but never had a dance. Just seems so strange, you go in there, watch a bird strip and then .. well that's it. I think it seems so weird to me because they don't want to be there, and they certainly don't want to dance for you. It's all to do with the money you know? End of the day they just think you're dirty creeps.

And not sure what mine would think about the whole thing. Some birds go crazy if you just watch porn! :eek:
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You are forgetting some of them do like to grind.... a lot... you catch my drift, Mr wet pants?
 
Mrs Cosimo thinks it's seedy and degrading. She wasn't too pleased when I told her about the lap dancer on my knee in a club we went to on one of my business trips with the team. :p
 
thedoc46 said:
I see them as a place to get ripped off by some stupid tart who's only out to get as much out of you financially as possible.. So with that said, never been to one, apart from one time in Amsterdam, but then i was with an ex-gf who was curious more than anything. If it was supposed to arouse, then it failed miserably.

If i went to one now, and my missus saw a CC bill of god knows how much fellas end up paying at these places, i'd expect a right earful.
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I find the whole thing completely pointless and incredibly false. Does nothing for me. As you say being ripped off for drinks whilst being "chatted up" by the sales staff isn't my idea of a good time.

Outside of the UK it seems like more of a shop window for "other services" (Prague in particular) whereas here it's just a scrum to see how many drunk fools they can extract the urine out of before closing time
 
If it upsets your partner then it's not harmless.

I don't care for them (you're essentially paying to get extremely frustrated), but I don't necessarily judge people that do frequent them, nor would I want to date/wife a stripper but that's just me. Mrs Cosimo is right, they are a little seedy and degrading, really. But that said, grown adults are able to do what the want providing there's no harm.

I'd go for a stag do if that's what the stag wants but I wouldn't go out of my way to go. Nor would I go if I had a partner that would be upset, just out of respect for her.

I think it more bizarre when some women complain that their partners watch porn and that's tantamount to cheating.
 
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