Hasnt there been lots of research shown that women dress up and look good for other women and not men?
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Hasnt there been lots of research shown that women dress up and look good for other women and not men?
Yes it was inappropriate to make comments on linkedin but not inappropraite on facebook. I think people understand that distinction. The issue really is that she said the comment was sexist and misogynist. If that is the case (i dont for a minute believe his comment was sexist or misogynist or her comments on facebook are sexist or misogynist) then they are sexist or misogynist irrespective of which platform was used to make said comments. She just shot herself in the foot.
if she feels so strongly about it then why post a profile picture (where she's taken the time to get her hair and makeup nice etc..) in the first place... it isn't facebook after all and her appearance has nothing to do with business connections etc..
A profile picture has everything to do with business connections. Looking, as well as acting, professional is important in a lot of fields, including law.
What's your problem? The world is no place for your kind of logic!
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They're both silly in my opinion.
He should know better and it wasn't very professional, it is linkedin after all which is supposed to be a professional networking tool.
However, she seems to be a bitter cow who takes herself far too seriously and should have just accepted the compliment and just get on with her life.
He should know better and it wasn't very professional, it is linkedin after all which is supposed to be a professional networking tool.
However, she seems to be a bitter cow who takes herself far too seriously and should have just accepted the compliment and just get on with her life.
I think it's obvious she had an agenda behind going public, and probably thought of this as her meal ticket to gain self promotion.
I mean she's been on the radio before and also writes for various places.
She saw an opportunity and took it.
Her action of repsonding how she did (she used some very strong over the top words in my opinion) was probably enough for him to think about what he had done, then she reports it to the solicitor regulation authority and his company? Wow, talk about going in on the guy.
This is a real indictment of political correctness and the victim mentality that is becoming more and more prevalent in a lot of people's mindsets.
Perhaps the message wasn't necessarily appropriate or professional, but what world are we living in when you can't give a passing compliment to someone of the opposite sex? It wasn't overtly sexual or sleazy; in my mind it's the kind of comment you could say to a friend. What if it had been another woman saying it was a "stunning" picture? I think it would have been better to have taken the comment at face value - as a compliment - and even if it was unprofessional to say you found it so and move on. She is gaining nothing from having this conversation in public, except we are now discovering that it actually appears like she has a chip on her shoulder towards men in general.
Perhaps the message wasn't necessarily appropriate or professional, but what world are we living in when you can't give a passing compliment to someone of the opposite sex? It wasn't overtly sexual or sleazy; in my mind it's the kind of comment you could say to a friend. What if it had been another woman saying it was a "stunning" picture? I think it would have been better to have taken the comment at face value - as a compliment - and even if it was unprofessional to say you found it so and move on. She is gaining nothing from having this conversation in public, except we are now discovering that it actually appears like she has a chip on her shoulder towards men in general.
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It's a shame she had to be so publicly indignant where if she truly was offended, a private message saying so would have been far more effective.
Now I'm not saying that women should be treated as objects (and neither should men for that matter, I'm sure a lot of us have been on the receiving end of female sexist comments - I know I have) and thus seen as a sexual "thing", but at the same time, human beings are human beings, and there was no seedy malice in his email to her. Sure it wasn't "professional" (but heck some of the things we say at work would mean we'd have been lynched a long time ago!), but it really was OTT her reaction.
Why do people have to be so aggressive all the time towards people they do not know? It saddens me.
Well said, agreed 100%.
If anything if people recognise her, from the polls on the internet (the source of all truths of course
) it seems that most people disagree with her, so she may have tarred herself with a negative brush.
She looks like the kind of woman you'd see in years to come on a "serial killer on the run" headline. Look at that face. Emotionless, empty.
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Think she's been listening to Laurie Penny...
There you go, always a skeleton or two floating around to bite you but he should have been professional and kept his mouth shut.
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Do you think that a guy would have given the same comment to another guy or that a female would have given a comment such as this to a guy?
Whilst I think that her reaction was way OTT, I do think there is a point here. Firstly, this is on linkedIn which is a site where you are supposed to be acting in a professional manner. Comments such as this aren't appropriate here. Whilst the intention may be benign, people should be focusing on professional skills and experience, not looks.
I don't think it matters what way around it is, even if you say the comment was sexual, being sexually attracted to someone isn't sexism. It might be unprofessional, it might be inappropriate. But it's not sexism.
Sure - she can send her private reply back to him saying she found it unprofessional and the rest of what she said. I'm sure had she not Tweeted everything out he would have simply replied with "Sorry, no offence intended". And everyone could have got on with their lives!
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Wow, she was so mad at his message she was incapable of a reply for almost 2 months!
That must be record levels of angry!
Additionally, I am not convinced he was the initiator of the conversation.
His comments were not wise but neither were they what I would consider sleazy in and of themselves (IMO). However, an older married guy coming onto a younger (single?) woman in this way is sleazy, particularly when we incorporate the notion of "career opportunities".
Her reaction - well she is welcome to it and we can see where it gets her in life. Whilst I can understand her initial frustration and agree her initial reply was fair enough, her sustained public attack following the comments speaks volumes about her agenda.
That must be record levels of angry!
Additionally, I am not convinced he was the initiator of the conversation.
His comments were not wise but neither were they what I would consider sleazy in and of themselves (IMO). However, an older married guy coming onto a younger (single?) woman in this way is sleazy, particularly when we incorporate the notion of "career opportunities".
Her reaction - well she is welcome to it and we can see where it gets her in life. Whilst I can understand her initial frustration and agree her initial reply was fair enough, her sustained public attack following the comments speaks volumes about her agenda.
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Wow, she was so mad at his message she was incapable of a reply for almost 2 months!
That must be record levels of angry!
Additionally, I am not convinced he was the initiator of the conversation.
His comments were not wise but neither were they what I would consider sleazy in and of themselves (IMO). However, an older married guy coming onto a younger (single?) woman in this way is sleazy, particularly when we incorporate the notion of "career opportunities".
Her reaction - well she is welcome to it and we can see where it gets her in life. Whilst I can understand her initial frustration and agree her initial reply was fair enough, her sustained public attack following the comments speaks volumes about her agenda.
Looking at my Linkedin messages it appears the date is in US format.
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Love a bit of double standards
That's not on a professional site such as linkedIn though. It also depends on the relationship she has with people on Facebook. I would accept certain comments from friends I wouldn't accept from strangers.
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