Those who find this awful or unnecessary, what would be your suggestions? What could you do better?
I'm not asking for a debate/fight, I'm genuinely interested in hearing what you don't like about the rules/charter that you think is unreasonable?
Afterall we want to make this a fun and inclusive place. Generally it is, and actually I love the banter here it's one of the best forums for it IMO. Most of the time I don't even post with my admin hat on and just enjoy getting into the thick of a debate or discussion or joke.
The problem is people push things too far - and yes possibly in the past, and maybe from time to time, a personal morality boundary gets blurred with moderator responsibility, but in general and I'd say the moderators get it right. The exception to the rule being when perhaps something was not actioned, or was actioned that should / should not have been.
That said we also have a responsibility to keep this place civil, with acceptable content, and people abuse that trust and benefit of doubt we give to you. It's not fair on other members and it is not fair to have a go at us for trying to keep this place a fun, safe and friendly place.
With such a large user base there is bound to be personality conflicts. You cannot get on with everyone all of the time, but as long as we can ensure that most people get on most of the time then we're winning.
The last thing we want to do is censorship (we're not suggesting that at all) and if ever that is brought in I can promise you now I would step down as a member of the admin/moderation team. However, we also cannot allow vitriolic, and hateful posting or posting that has the potential to discriminate or offend a large group of people. We want to remain inclusive.
I know we haven't always got it right, and we are often damned if we do and damned if we don't. There is no magic bullet, or perfect formula to managing a forum of this size. That is why we have a diverse moderating team which has grown recently. We want to make sure that we get more opinions and perspectives.
We've increased the tolerance on swearing in some situations (see the announcement), we've also introduced a space where you can direct but informal discussions with the moderating team to air your concerns. As a result of that new forum, it has helped us reflect a bit, and we have resolved issues that people have had. In fact in a way it has triggered us to try and be more open and fair with our rules.