How many of you still live with your parents 30+?

Gilly said:
My kids, once earning, won't be living like kids. They'll either be contributing or will be living elsewhere :)

I won't charge them a lot so will help them financially, but they'll need to put in as well as just taking out.

I didn't rush out of my parent's house but did pay my own way.
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Like it. First sentence sums it up perfectly.
 
My sister is 39 & her boyfriend is 38, they both still live at home. :rolleyes:

They've been together for 15 years but have no plans of ever living together from what I can tell.
TBH he's a complete waste of space in my opinion but she doesn't seem to see it.
 
I'm 30+ and lived back with my Mum at the start of the year for a few months so I could rent my existing house and renovate my new one with the missus.

Haven't lived with my Mum since I was 12 and I enjoyed it to be honest. Parents are getting on so was probably the last time I ever will again, which is quite sad when you think of it.....outlook in life changes as you get old.
 
If you get on well enough with your parents to continue living with them into your thirties then good for you. For me even family visits almost always end up in rows, having a crazy mother an a precious narcissistic older sister who has everything given to her on a silver platter doesn't help either.
 
Only major downside when I was living with parents was many women found it really unattractive, even when you're in your early 20's and some of them live with parents as well :confused:
 
Lived with my parents untill 21 then moved out for uni / own place untill 24. Then moved home for 5 years and helped with family business. Bought my own place this year at 29. I had chances to move out prior to that with ex girlfriend but she wasn't sorting her life out and i felt id just end been taking for a mug or not enjoying it. (she has since proved me right)

Saved up loads of money over that 5 years and have a decent portfolio of Shares / Gold / Premium bonds as well as my own place and a new Audi on order so i didn't waste it.

Still pay some money to my mum to help her out even though i have my own place as i have done well out of the business and she helps me out with stuff.

Me and my dad have a better relationship for it as well
 
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I could move out and spend 3/4 of my wage on a tiny terraced house in rent and bills, but my parents wanted me to stay and save up/enjoy life as they have room to spare. It was easier to find work here than it was where I went to uni. It's been 5 years and while I haven't quite saved enough for a deposit (I need £30,000 to get anything local) I've had opportunities to change career, opportunities to work for myself (which is starting to pay off) and able to go on holiday/trips/meals out without having to worry if I can afford it.

Best I could afford locally for a mortgage is a 1 bed flat where I'd probably have worse neighbours (thin walls), further away from work (currently a 5min walk) and the same amout of space that I have access to now, yet I'd have no disposable income.

We're all happy and that's all that matters.
 
Steeps said:
I could move out and spend 3/4 of my wage on a tiny terraced house in rent and bills, but my parents wanted me to stay and save up/enjoy life as they have room to spare. It was easier to find work here than it was where I went to uni. It's been 5 years and while I haven't quite saved enough for a deposit (I need £30,000 to get anything local) I've had opportunities to change career, opportunities to work for myself (which is starting to pay off) and able to go on holiday/trips/meals out without having to worry if I can afford it.

Best I could afford locally for a mortgage is a 1 bed flat where I'd probably have worse neighbours (thin walls), further away from work (currently a 5min walk) and the same amout of space that I have access to now, yet I'd have no disposable income.

We're all happy and that's all that matters.
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You could look into shared ownership if theres any in your area.
 
I moved out at 28 ... and the only way I was really able to then was because my work situation changed and I end up moving up here where housing was a lot cheaper.

I can't say I overly enjoyed living at home that long and I enjoy having my space now but where I was working before then was too expensive to get anywhere reasonable due to its ease of commuting into London (my sister moved out around the same time and was on a lot more than me and could just about afford a tiny, ****, two bed mid terrace).

I did pay rent to my parents and helped them out in various ways.
 
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AndyT said:
What happens to people >30 who live with (perhaps; off?) their parents when the parents inevitably die. It will be a massive shock to the system. Financially and emotionally they will have to support themselves, and probably practically too (cleaning, cooking, washing). Not a position I particularly envy.
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I suppose it depends on the financial situation of the deceased parents and if the person living with them is an only child. They could end up inheriting the house and learn the rest as they go. (Not saying this is a good thing just saying its most likely what happens)
 
Moved out at 22 I think (or maybe 23) because I couldn't stand living with my parents anymore - despite paying rent and working full time I would still get treated like a child and constantly had the feeling I needed to go, so I did. Couldn't go back.

Would have probably either stayed at home saving up and gone back to uni or saved up enough to put down a huge deposit on a house if I could have put up with another few years there!

Almost went back last year to pursue my dream career, which would have taken a good 7-8 years in education, but again it comes back to not feeling like I'm really wanted there and not wanting to be there.
 
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Went away to uni at 19 and been away most of the time since although I did end up back at home for a few months here and there. Had to move back in with Mum last year aged 31 after needing to do a year longer on my PhD than I'd expected (funding had run out a year previously). Still got debts around my neck, working for minimum wage and trying to change fields which means I'm probably going to be stuck here another year. Not brilliant but really hoping it pays off in the long term.
 
42 this November just gone..
Still at home.
I never really moved out, I did stay at gf's houses more often than I stayed at home but never took my stuff and left as by the time I got to that stage with GF I was sick to the back teeth of her anyway :D .
There are no upsides what-so-ever for me to move out currently.
Massive house
Loads of land
Garage
Company
Space
Countryside
Masses of garden produce to the point of hardly needing a supermarket

And yes, cooking, washing, elec and gas are covered by my parent (singular)

I should be minted by now, utterly utterly minted, but I ain't...

Roughly 17 years of at least £300 a week disposable income...... wasted.

I wish I hadn't just worked that out either... £265 grand. :o
 
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30 next year. I graduated in 2008 into the recession and have been living with my parents since. I've always paid rent. I didn't want to come back at all (I seriously hate it and I prefer being independent) but had no choice and have been stuck due to rubbish jobs, poor housing options and dealing with pretty bad depression (which parents were unaware of).

For three years I was stuck on 25 hours per week (~£7.5k pa). The last two years I finally got FT hours and was essentially on the NLW (~15k pa). I had no idea what to do and ended up saving up to go travelling. I got back in August and I'm trying very hard to find a new job and career. The plan is to hopefully be out by my 30th in Easter but it's looking more and more unlikely. I'm pretty angry at myself I'm still here. I feel like I've been robbed of my 20s. The idea of being here a day into my 30s makes me feel sick.

I've found living with my parents a massive hindrance. You have less rights than you would if you were renting with a landlord "our house our rules", have to deal with associated double-standards and it seriously impacts on your ability to have a romantic life. In my case, it's played havoc on my mental well-being too -- there's a very good reason why I didn't want to come back. I could have technically moved out about four years ago but it would have meant being absolutely broke with next to no disposable money; it felt like cutting off my nose to spite my face. The rental market in my town is also atrocious (ridiculous rents, rubbish landlords and mould everywhere) and being that I hate the town as it is and have no desire to be here, it became a toss up between paying my parents' mortgage or someone elses. I've always been holding out hoping that something was just around the corner (i.e. better job so I could move out). In an ideal world, I'd have graduated, got a decent wage and moved out and enjoyed my 20s. Instead, it's been the opposite and I'm pretty angry about it. Living at home has made me utterly miserable.
 
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Good friend of mine (43 yrs old) lives at home, despite his two siblings having moved out.
Reasons are:

1/. Mother is quadriplegic.
2/. Father was quadriplegic too, but he recently passed away, so mother is now alone.
3/. He works for local government and still cannot afford a mortgage.
4/. He refuses to waste money on renting.
 
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