Poll: How do you feel about your life right now?
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I'm very much meh. I feel down very often but I think a lot of it is loneliness. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly two years and things are OK, but I don't have many close friends that I can just arrange plans with. I almost never go out and truly socialise and I'm at the point now that I'm so used to it, I don't really know how to go and change it.
Much happier now I have given up working for a large moronic engineering firm that places no value on the actual skills I have.
Now I run my own business, I am much happier. Took a 42K pay cut (Not paying myself till april probably), and the stress levels have increased, but I am much happier as my own boss!
Now I run my own business, I am much happier. Took a 42K pay cut (Not paying myself till april probably), and the stress levels have increased, but I am much happier as my own boss!
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Apart from suffering from a virus at the moment (I have to be careful because I have had pneumonia three times, and was hospitalized in 2008 with pneumonia in the left lung), I'm very happy. I'm actually one of those annoying people whom always see the silver lining in the downside of life. For me the glass is always half full, never half empty. Life is good, business is good, and prospects are excellent.
Having said that, I do understand the depression that some here are going thro.
I've led what some would call a 'charmed life,' really; but thro bereavements there have been times when I've hit rock bottom. Because of those events if it hadn't been for my Mother, my favorite Uncle, and the huge love and support from family and friends, I might not be here now because of depression. But on the whole, one can never look back; only forward.
I wish I could wave a magic wand, and help all of you here that are suffering from depression and other life adjustments, I truly do. It won't help anyone to say that these life struggles, obstacles and challenges have a purpose for your souls evolution, for the spirit to grow (not talking religion here); but I honestly believe that they do. If one can overcome any of these problems then it's an absolute achievement.
A friend of mine was talking to me a few months ago about how little that he felt he had grown and evolved; how much he regretted the lack of skills he felt that he didn't have, and could have learned; and how worthless he felt in himself sometimes. I was genuinely shocked, because this guy always seems so upbeat. He's jovial from the minute he wakes up until the minute he lays down to sleep; so you can imagine my consternation.
I felt that as a friend, and for the way that I saw it, that I needed to remind him of a few home truths; and especially of all of the achievements that I felt that he had accomplished in his life. I reminded him that despite many problems in his life and 30 year marriage, that he was still very much in love with his wife, and she with him. They've been thro so many struggles together. I reminded him that he had served his queen and country for nine years in the Royal Navy, working on some sort of electronics on helicopters (including the Harrier Jump Jets). I told him that many folk would give their eye teeth to have been involved in something like that. Because of that experience he can wire up anything around the house and garden. He doesn't have to call someone out to fix lighting projects and pay a fortune for it.
I reminded him that he had never been out of work since he was 16, and that despite being made redundant a few years back, that he had another job to go to before that redundancy (because that's the way he is). I reminded him that in all of his working life he had an excellent attendance record; even when sick, if he could, he went to work. He's a real 'company' man. By that I mean that he is a loyal, hard working employee, and a credit to any company he has ever worked for.
Then I reminded him of all the skills that he said that he doesn't have. He has every drivers licence that one can get (I think, those that I know of in any event). I reminded him that without the first clue of 'how to,' he had built a garage and a carport; he had fenced all around his property single handedly (no mean feat as his grounds are extensive); he did this by going to the tube and watching videos, and worked at the projects during his rest days. Then I reminded him that his unselfish and generous nature, his extensive wit, and intelligence has made people laugh and pause for thought so many times.
I reminded him that after work some years back, and at his own expense, that he had taken some sort of a college city and guilds course in IT (I'm not sure of exactly the nature of the course) just so that he could advance himself at work, and do spreadsheets at home during his rest days, for his company. They took and employed his work with the spreadsheets, yet never gave him credit or remuneration for his offerings, not even so much as a thank you; yet he didn't care. That's the kind of guy he is. I reminded him that he has driven the length and breadth of the UK. and the USA. Not many folk can make that claim.
Then I told him that I never ever wanted to hear him put himself down in such an way again, and that I would be highly offended if he did so in my presence. But it taught me a valuable lesson also. I realized that sometimes we have to acknowledge just who people really are, and not just look at the outer 'persona' that we see in them. Every time I see that guy now, I make a point to mentally look deeper; indeed it made me look deeper at any friend or acquaintance. I consider him to be an achiever. Because of his nonchalant, laid back manner, I had never before realized that he had such issues about himself. It doesn't matter how small, or how insignificant that you feel you might be, you are an achiever. We all are in our own particular way. You may not think you amount to anything, but each of us, in our own small ways, are living, growing and evolving in just the way we are meant to.
I wish for all of you here whom appear to be struggling with life and issues, all good things.
Be safe, be well, be happy...
Having said that, I do understand the depression that some here are going thro.
I've led what some would call a 'charmed life,' really; but thro bereavements there have been times when I've hit rock bottom. Because of those events if it hadn't been for my Mother, my favorite Uncle, and the huge love and support from family and friends, I might not be here now because of depression. But on the whole, one can never look back; only forward.
I wish I could wave a magic wand, and help all of you here that are suffering from depression and other life adjustments, I truly do. It won't help anyone to say that these life struggles, obstacles and challenges have a purpose for your souls evolution, for the spirit to grow (not talking religion here); but I honestly believe that they do. If one can overcome any of these problems then it's an absolute achievement.
A friend of mine was talking to me a few months ago about how little that he felt he had grown and evolved; how much he regretted the lack of skills he felt that he didn't have, and could have learned; and how worthless he felt in himself sometimes. I was genuinely shocked, because this guy always seems so upbeat. He's jovial from the minute he wakes up until the minute he lays down to sleep; so you can imagine my consternation.
I felt that as a friend, and for the way that I saw it, that I needed to remind him of a few home truths; and especially of all of the achievements that I felt that he had accomplished in his life. I reminded him that despite many problems in his life and 30 year marriage, that he was still very much in love with his wife, and she with him. They've been thro so many struggles together. I reminded him that he had served his queen and country for nine years in the Royal Navy, working on some sort of electronics on helicopters (including the Harrier Jump Jets). I told him that many folk would give their eye teeth to have been involved in something like that. Because of that experience he can wire up anything around the house and garden. He doesn't have to call someone out to fix lighting projects and pay a fortune for it.
I reminded him that he had never been out of work since he was 16, and that despite being made redundant a few years back, that he had another job to go to before that redundancy (because that's the way he is). I reminded him that in all of his working life he had an excellent attendance record; even when sick, if he could, he went to work. He's a real 'company' man. By that I mean that he is a loyal, hard working employee, and a credit to any company he has ever worked for.
Then I reminded him of all the skills that he said that he doesn't have. He has every drivers licence that one can get (I think, those that I know of in any event). I reminded him that without the first clue of 'how to,' he had built a garage and a carport; he had fenced all around his property single handedly (no mean feat as his grounds are extensive); he did this by going to the tube and watching videos, and worked at the projects during his rest days. Then I reminded him that his unselfish and generous nature, his extensive wit, and intelligence has made people laugh and pause for thought so many times.
I reminded him that after work some years back, and at his own expense, that he had taken some sort of a college city and guilds course in IT (I'm not sure of exactly the nature of the course) just so that he could advance himself at work, and do spreadsheets at home during his rest days, for his company. They took and employed his work with the spreadsheets, yet never gave him credit or remuneration for his offerings, not even so much as a thank you; yet he didn't care. That's the kind of guy he is. I reminded him that he has driven the length and breadth of the UK. and the USA. Not many folk can make that claim.
Then I told him that I never ever wanted to hear him put himself down in such an way again, and that I would be highly offended if he did so in my presence. But it taught me a valuable lesson also. I realized that sometimes we have to acknowledge just who people really are, and not just look at the outer 'persona' that we see in them. Every time I see that guy now, I make a point to mentally look deeper; indeed it made me look deeper at any friend or acquaintance. I consider him to be an achiever. Because of his nonchalant, laid back manner, I had never before realized that he had such issues about himself. It doesn't matter how small, or how insignificant that you feel you might be, you are an achiever. We all are in our own particular way. You may not think you amount to anything, but each of us, in our own small ways, are living, growing and evolving in just the way we are meant to.
I wish for all of you here whom appear to be struggling with life and issues, all good things.
Be safe, be well, be happy...
That sounds about right. Oh, and you work in IT too...
Maybe it is the curse of IT?
Yup, in a school. The new job is good - new challenges, new environment, new people... Trouble is, as support staff, we're never really included as part of the main team. I need to find ways to change that and start interacting with the staff outside of work too.
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Well was feeling a bit down in the dumps as I lost my job before xmas but feeling ****-a-hoop just now as I believe I've got another, just waiting for confirmation. 
Being out of work feels a whole lot worse, trust me.
Being out of work feels a whole lot worse, trust me.
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Well was feeling a bit down in the dumps as I lost my job before xmas but feeling ****-a-hoop just now as I believe I've got another, just waiting for confirmation.
Being out of work feels a whole lot worse, trust me.
I don't remember it being that bad, other than the time spent looking for employment it was pretty good, lots of free time to read, learn, travel and play games.
Unfortunately it's impossible to keep it up without MONEY and I refuse to claim.
I have a fair amount saved up, maybe I should take a year off.
I used to dislike the UK, then I moved to Oslo for 18 months and it was a depressive hellhole of fake smiles, rude behavior and plastic women. However if you take a look on various internet sites they praise Norway like it's paradise. It certainly made me appreciate everything we have.
On the face of it I have everything that most people would want. Wife, two children who are both doing very well in their chosen fields. I have all the material things I could ever want. So why am I so desperately miserable. I really hate my life, it feels like the more that I have the less it seems important to me. I'm doing what is expected of me by others yet I really want to sell everything, leave everything and everyone behind (except my dog!) and go and buy a camper van and drive around Patagonia for the rest of my life.
I spent too much time chasing my career and money and not enough time living. It was "meh", not terrible but not great.
I've changed my focus a little bit (not much, still got career aspirations to hit!) and life is now pretty good but not yet great.
I've changed my focus a little bit (not much, still got career aspirations to hit!) and life is now pretty good but not yet great.
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Went Uni got 2:2, now finding it impossible to find a job a year later, don't even get replies anymore.
Could be better.
Standard 'problems' I guess, don't appear to have any direction in life, work is a drain I just don't enjoy it, yet I don't know where to take it or what to do.
Money is sadly a factor at the moment as well, which is pathetic really. I drive to work most mornings, see the sunrise and would much rather pull my car over and point my camera at it...
Best thing happening this year is I'm getting married, even that I wish I could make better though.
Standard 'problems' I guess, don't appear to have any direction in life, work is a drain I just don't enjoy it, yet I don't know where to take it or what to do.
Money is sadly a factor at the moment as well, which is pathetic really. I drive to work most mornings, see the sunrise and would much rather pull my car over and point my camera at it...
Best thing happening this year is I'm getting married, even that I wish I could make better though.
You're in London. That's actually a bonus, despite how competitive it is.
What are you looking to get into?
What are you doing to build your CV in the interim?