Dating multiple women - morality

Nodiggidy123

Nodiggidy123

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afternoon all.

ive now been separated 4 or so months. been out on a few dates but not met anyone i can see a long term future with.

im in the rare position where i am dating 3 different women. i have kissed 2 of them and there is the possibilty of taking things further with one of them.

the issue i have is am i doing something wrong? none of them have shown any interest in being exclusive but the whole thing just feel a bit strange to me.

am i doing a bad thing here?
 
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Yes. Jesus... :p

Ask yourself if they would be happy if they all found out about each other...

Exclusivity is sort of implied when you date someone... Nobody asks "So, are you only dating me, or dating 20 other people too?"
 
Nodiggidy123 said:
afternoon all.

ive now been separated 4 or so months. been out on a few dates but not meant anyone i can see a long term future with.

im in the rare position where i am dating 3 different women. i have kissed 2 of them and there is the possibilty of taking things further with one of them.

the issue i have is am i doing something wrong? none of them have shown any interest in being exclusive but the whole thing just feel a bit strange to me.

am i doing a bad thing here?
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If you were seeing one girl you liked and found out she was dating 3 different guys, how would you feel?
 
Would you be happy to tell them? If it is something you feel the need to hide from them...

Personally I wouldn't see more than one person at a time.
 
im a little confused with the whole expereince

i have amazing chemistry with one of them and ive outright asked her out. apparently she isnt ready yet but assures me there is nobody else.

do i hang around and wait for her to decide or just get on with it?
 
It's fine - you're trying people out in a one-on-one setting. When you get to relationship stage, then you cut the deadwood and commit to seeing one.

That's how dating is supposed to work. It's absurd to think you should go monogamous with someone you're not even in a relationship with.
 
VincentHanna said:
If you were seeing one girl you liked and found out she was dating 3 different guys, how would you feel?
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This is about where I stand on it. I couldn't do it personally as I wouldn't like it being done to me, but if you're a Joey from Friends and don't care, go for it. :p
 
This has the makings of a good soap opera, subscribed. :D

Bet you wouldn't like it if they did the same. Don't go breaking multiple hearts and only do it one at a time..
 
Secondly where do you get the time to date 3 women!? Do you have a job? Will I see you on Jeremy Kyle? :D

Nodiggidy123 said:
ill be honest i wont lie to any of them.

if things progress the way id like to with one of them then id happily commit. but until she says shes ready.. should i cut my nose off to spite my face?
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You are what's called 'playing the field'. Personally I don't but I've been single for years so I'm just jealous.... Lol
 
Absolutely not, likely hood is that 2/3 will be doing the same to you, and that 1/3 won't work out anyway. So, hedge your bets and get what you can while it lasts.
Frankly after being married I would be trying to play the field alpha style.
 
I don't just go and buy a car.. I test drive a few.. A few even may get a right good going over to see if they are exactly what I want..

Women are much the same, doing nothing wrong.
 
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