People can be nervous or shy when they first meet. A first date that's hard work doesn't necessarily mean that it's going to get worse.
Dating multiple women - morality
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People can be nervous or shy when they first meet. A first date that's hard work doesn't necessarily mean that it's going to get worse.
To us men its seen as politeness but many women wont date a man or give them a second date if they have to folk out any money on the date. To me that is the woman expecting too much.
That's like a man buying a girl a drink and expecting them to sleep with him because he got her that one drink. When in reality that's a bad way of seeing things.
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I have never dated multiple women at the same time. Just feels wrong to me. I decide quickly if I'm interested and move on if I'm not.
I've never dated a woman who hasn't at least offered to go halves on dinner. I guess I do tend to go for feminists SJW types though.
There was an "interesting" article posted a few days ago that unfortunately I can't find the link for now. Its argument was that women spend so much on getting ready for a date (make-up, hair, clothes) that it would actually be unfair for them to then contribute towards the cost of the dinner.
I've never dated a woman who hasn't at least offered to go halves on dinner. I guess I do tend to go for feminists SJW types though.
There was an "interesting" article posted a few days ago that unfortunately I can't find the link for now. Its argument was that women spend so much on getting ready for a date (make-up, hair, clothes) that it would actually be unfair for them to then contribute towards the cost of the dinner.
So... if a guy buys a £2k suit and an £8k watch to wear on a date then the woman is obligated to pay?
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Go for it OP, you're single so play the game.
I've had several mates who had what they called '0878 numbers' but eventually ended up with only one.
I've had several mates who had what they called '0878 numbers' but eventually ended up with only one.
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I don't think the OP is actually dating is he? Just going on numerous dates, like everyone over on the internet dating thread.
I've never dated a woman who hasn't at least offered to go halves on dinner. I guess I do tend to go for feminists SJW types though.
You are lucky, this time last year I was seeing someone. We went on 6 dates before we became an official couple. Looking back on it now, I spent £250 on those 6 dates........never again.
This Serbian girl I am now seeing has been a lot more cheaper my pocket so far
Hard work for me is breaking rocks in high temperatures, a date should be fun even if you are the nervous type, there should be some excitement, but where does playing games as well fit into all of this? Hard work and playing her crazy games is putting it on a pedestal and being a chump.
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Serious question how old are you? sounds like you are 12 or something! No it's just wrong get a grip!
Why get so serious so quickly though? Are you ready to get into yet another relationship, only 4 months after separation?
Sow some oats, do all three and have a bit of fun for a bit?
edit: or gain legendary OcUK status by convincing all three to do it with you in a group session?
Found it better when I wasn't looking.
Myself, not really interested in sleeping around, never had been. If he's ready after 4 months he's ready
Options sounds like he's done nothing at all wrong
Not declared exclusivity,
The girls may be doing same or more,
No one can blame anyone for anything imo
When you have decided on one (or none) that's when to go exclusive.
Oh, I agree, if it's hard at start, it's probably only going to get worse
It took me a while to find dating 'fun' as I hadn't done it before.
I did find it quite tiring especially if the person wasn't fluid themselves
I figured this wasn't a bad thing, sometimes the ones I was more nervous about meant I was more 'keen'
But I am now a firm believer in that dating sites rarely work.
Went on probably 7 dates in person via Pof but wasn't until I dated a friend that I realised how crap all the PoF dates were.
There was only one first PoF date I felt relaxed and had good time
Usually it was relaxing as I didn't take to them, or stressy cause I did!
If I read it correctly, sounds like op is deciding between ones where none are ideal.
I think if you have found one you think is worth taking it further with you know and just drop any others.
If your analysing, you're picking best of a "not right" bunch and probably shouldn't be looking for long term
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It's not fun because you are over-invested, it would be like putting £1000 of your own money on Romania to beat France tonight, very unlikely you will enjoy watching it and very likely you will be in tears at the end. Whereas if you just have 50p on it, who cares if Romania loses.
