As a father, what are my rights?
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Completely untrue.
Only the right to apply to the court for contact
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Sounds a really tough situation to be in op, your ex is being a **** but yet, if you tell her so, or give her a piece of your mind, its only going to make things harder.
Try and stay calm, patient and seek legal advise.
Try and stay calm, patient and seek legal advise.
In what way Locky?
On what proof/experience?
My sister-in-law and brother-in-law split up recently after he decided to move out and hook up with a younger lass.
Its starting to get a little messy, however I am actually shocked by how much rights the Dad gets to be honest. Not sure if it has changed in recent years but there is much more muscle behind certain things which I thought would go 100% mum easy, even though he was the one to walk out.
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I wouldn't 100% agree with this but once you speak to a solicitor you will find it is not far wrong.
Unless the mother is a raging alcoholic, sex offender or a junkie incapable of looking after children (providing you can prove this) the courts will almost certainly rule in their favour for custody regardless of what the law says.
Been through it myself and it costed a fortune (virtually no legal aid). I saw two solicitors both were realistic about my chances and they were spot on.
You can help any legal case by making sure you pay regular maintenance, show you want to keep contact and not behave in away that could deemed to be aggressive, abusive or harrassing.
The women in most cases gets the children and the fathers get shafted.
The more awkward the women decides to be the more shafted the father gets.
The only time the father wins in any case if the women is what Third Opinion says a complete liability.
The more awkward the women decides to be the more shafted the father gets.
The only time the father wins in any case if the women is what Third Opinion says a complete liability.
I have lot's of rights with my daughter,if i want to take her out i do,she stays at mine when ever she or i want to,you just need to stick up for your self and be a parent not like some of these once a month dads.
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Which one is the "-in-law"? Because from my understanding the in-law is the one who is related through marriage. So for both of them to be in-law can not make sense. One has to be your brother, or sister. I'm guessing it's meant to read your sister and brother-in-law as your posts reads you are on her side. (which would be fair enough, it is just important to get context in posts like this).
Sorry to go off-topic slightly, OP - Get proper legal advise. Good luck.
On separation you have no right to see your child though schizo. Once you see your child you can do the things you say but if mum objects to these things and contact it withheld there is nothing you or the courts can or will do. Fact.
In the 5 years since separating she has never ever said no to my wishes.
Count yourself lucky. If she did there is nothing you could do. Neither could the court in terms of enforcement.
Family Law is the only instance where the absolute law of innocent until proven guilty is documented as being broken. It is broken regularly too.
You may have rights but the best case is to get a decent working relationship with the ex working so court doesn't have to get involved on that level. Its the only way really, much as you have rights as a father if the mother isn't playing ball she can pretty much run the game for years. Poison the kids against you, be awkward with meet up times, change plans at the last minute.. whatever.
You both need to put the needs of the kids first which will be seeing both of you regularly.
Sadly what should happen and what does happen are often distant.
You both need to put the needs of the kids first which will be seeing both of you regularly.
Sadly what should happen and what does happen are often distant.
Good luck mate I hope it all works out best for you and the kids.
Good luck - friend of mine was in court today after his ex broke the existing order for the last 10 weeks in a row. He's supposed to see his son all day saturday from 9am till 8pm.
She's basically not answered the door, been away from home etc for the last 10 weeks. He's not seen his 6 year old son for 10 weeks.
Then today - he goes back to court and the judge has just told her to stick to the previous agreement. No reprimand, no action, nothing.
It's like the female holds all the power in these situations.
Best of luck - try for the kids sake and keep it civil with your ex.
She's basically not answered the door, been away from home etc for the last 10 weeks. He's not seen his 6 year old son for 10 weeks.
Then today - he goes back to court and the judge has just told her to stick to the previous agreement. No reprimand, no action, nothing.
It's like the female holds all the power in these situations.
Best of luck - try for the kids sake and keep it civil with your ex.
Try having a court do nothing for 2yrs... I have 3 court orders saying I should see my daughter. She withheld all contact (breached every order...)... No reprimand nothing so much as a comment on the behavior...