Exactly.
Most remainders thing the UK is already still a great country. Made even greater by being a part of the strongest trading blocks in the world, with significant influence within and as a part of that block.
To put it another way we were one of the main captains of a huge ship. The stubborn one admittedly, and fairly regularly the one suggesting a different course to the other 3 most powerful captains, but still navigating the ship. Still on the bridge watching the world go by. Now we are going to be relegated to the passenger that blagged their way into third class, along for the ride and stuck going wherever the captains decide.
Well done everyone. That was a great idea.
It has been proven time and time again the Britain has very little influence in Europe. The fact that Cameron negotiated a new deal that was pretty much the same as the old one is testament to that. So your analogy of us being on the bridge and watching the world go by is exactly right - we sit and watch where the EU leads us with very little ability to change course.
For many leave voters, the migration question was not really the main issue. The issue was the waning influence the UK had in Brussels and the fact that we are are often being overruled because of QMV. Granted, our own politicians and successive governments have been part of this process, but the overall feeling amongst many who chose to leave seems to be that the UK is sinking ever deeper into a situation where we have very little influence and we are easily outvoted by larger member states.
I think the crux of it is that many leave voters would happily stay in the EU but it would need huge reform, something that in 43 years of membership has been agonisingly slow and all the time the UK suffers the negative impacts of a one size fits all approach.
Fundamentally this is why the EU is doomed to fail. All superstates throughout history have done so. It is precisely because of the diversity of ideas, culture, politics and outlook of sovereign states that the EU is on a slippery slope. Making decisions with so many member states and affecting real change and progress is always going to be nigh on impossible to achieve because each country is different and has different needs.
The UK has been overruled on several issues in recent years where European courts have held sway over the UK. To some degree I think there is some security in that for the British people as it hold our government to account to a higher power as it were, but where do you draw the line? We are in a situation where EU decisions for 'the greater good' are not for the good of the UK at all. I think it is all too easy to point the finger and blame the EU for all of our ailments when in fact there are definite benefits, but it is becoming increasingly clear that the EU is desperate for reform which is something it seems to persistently resist. I also note that the mood in the EU is somewhat threatening and I always feel that in a team play situation, if another person chooses to move on then you shake hands and wish them well. Obviously there is a lot more to it when an entire nation chooses to leave but I feel that sentiment should remain. The EU espouses freedom and democracy, yet as the UK chooses to move on I get the distinct sense that if the EU could stop us, it would and I find that a very worrying concept and one which I can see eventually coming to pass with continued membership.
You can espouse all the rhetoric you like about being one nation and loving our neighbours, about being inclusive and having a one world vision but it does not change the fact that a supportive and close relationship relies on balance. When a tipping point is reached where one side is benefitting more than the other, has more control and more power - then the relationship is no longer healthy. Indeed if you look at the way that Junckers is behaving, along with some other heads of state it does seem to be that the UK is the battered wife and the EU is the threatening partner. A poor analogy, I know, but you get the drift. In fact I think, in part, that the threats of the remain campaign and all of the people they drafted in to make the electorate scared of leaving the EU is perhaps why so many people did vote leave. Getting Obama to swan in and make threats was perhaps the last straw for many, but of course that is just speculation on my part.
Overall, the EU's insistence on conformity to a standardised ideal is removing a lot of the variety that it purports to encourage.