How to make your other half feel valued/loved/appreciated/special?

Oxide™ said:
I got divorced 2 years ago after 10 years of marriage - she left me for a woman, I found out xmas eve (no I'm not Ross from friends - yes it was pretty devastating)

Since then I've met an amazing woman and we are getting married September next year.

I'm not the most romantic of guys - I thought I was but now admit I could and should do more. She appreciates anything that has had some thought put into it, doesn't have to be expensive. I'm wanting to do a spontaneous gesture to make her feel special.

I'm thinking of sending her flowers to her work but I thought I'd tap into the collective knowledge of GD and see what you guys do/suggest to make your other half feel special over the grind of every day life?
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Does this seem a bit of a bad idea yet? Rebound?

Think wisely before committing your life to someone so fast :eek:
 
CosmicClown said:
Give them an orgasm.

Probably why your first wife left for another woman too.
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EVH said:
Does this seem a bit of a bad idea yet? Rebound?

Think wisely before committing your life to someone so fast :eek:
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I didn't want to say it myself but this seems like the most important knowledge bomb in the thread.

I'm far from romantic though, I just don't get it. Though I do the opposite of romance. You haven't lived until you've done a fake proposal. I've managed one in Paris and Rome so far.

/May explain why she decided to move to Malaysia
 
Not to derail the intention of the thread, wife left me around 3 years ago, 3 months later I met the fiance who moved in 3 months after that. She's definitely the one. Divorce was finalised 2 years ago.

I cook our meals 3 times a week, share doing dishes (no space for a dishwasher), help out with the washing, tidying etc etc. I'm definitely trying to change and make this a 50/50 thing rather than being the controlling a$$ I was before.

Enough about me, any other thoughtful and non expensive gestures you guys do?

Here's another one, don't complain when she wants to spend time with her folks in Ramsgate very 2 months and just take it on the chin (actually her folks are awesome so not so bad)
 
Rilot said:
To make my partner feel appreciated I do the following:

Tell her regularly
Spend time with her
Buy her little gifts randomly
Demonstrate that her happiness is important by not complaining when she wants to do something that I don't
Be there for her whenever she needs me
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This.

It's amazing how guys think the have to give the world to keep the significant other happy. The happiest I've ever seen my OH is when I get the random surprise little gifts. It's all when and good getting something really nice when it's your birthday/Christmas/Valentine's Day/anniversary but what really shows is the spontaneous/random bits.

She was at work the other work so I went out, got some flowers, chocolate and a lush bath bomb. And had a bath run for when she got in from work. minimal effort from me and I had a great night ;)
 
Oxide™ said:
Enough about me, any other thoughtful and non expensive gestures you guys do?

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Let her catch you sniffing her knickers, will show you care!

On a serious note, theres a line between showing you care and showing you're obsessed! I've generally found being nice, not grumpy and helping around the house keeps her happy.... I then once in a while (every 2 months buy her flowers).... Tho I do don't do any of the above these days which is prob why she hates me... But who cares, I hate her too :D .
 
i have been married 23 years..If i sent flowers my missus would assume I had done something wrong !
 
Oxide™ said:
Not to derail the intention of the thread, wife left me around 3 years ago, 3 months later I met the fiance who moved in 3 months after that. She's definitely the one. Divorce was finalised 2 years ago.

I cook our meals 3 times a week, share doing dishes (no space for a dishwasher), help out with the washing, tidying etc etc. I'm definitely trying to change and make this a 50/50 thing rather than being the controlling a$$ I was before.

Enough about me, any other thoughtful and non expensive gestures you guys do?

Here's another one, don't complain when she wants to spend time with her folks in Ramsgate very 2 months and just take it on the chin (actually her folks are awesome so not so bad)
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how is that a big deal? :) my GF literally does what she wants, I do what I want too.

we make sure we spend time together, we do things together but if she wants to go and do something she's totally free so am I.

sounds like you're doing the normal/basic things every man/woman should do in relationship.. partner is there to compliment ones life not take things away.
 
The key is to keep any presents, flowers etc random, don't get into the habit of always doing the same thing at the same time.
It takes away the spontaneity and then heaven help you if you forget one time!!!

Flowers, perfume and the like are all good, but go for days out, meals or drinks.

and always give her your last Rolo (wrap it up in the gold foil for extra cheesyness!)
 
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