Poll: Older Parents - How old is too old?

How old is too old to have children?

  • 30s

    Votes: 17 4.0%

  • 40s

    Votes: 119 28.3%

  • 50s

    Votes: 200 47.5%

  • 60s

    Votes: 40 9.5%

  • Never too old

    Votes: 15 3.6%

  • Condoms, innit

    Votes: 11 2.6%

  • Pancake!

    Votes: 19 4.5%
  • Total voters
    421
jonneymendoza said:
THIS.

once you have kids your life is over for at least 20 years afterwords
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I don't understand this way of thinking. Why would life be over? I know of a couple who take it in turns to do things they want to do if they can't do it together (such as see friends or sleep in etc).
 
lol not sure why my post was deleted ?

Gods will if you can have kids, then they are created
 
I'm 31 and I'd say 40 would be my limit. But I don't want kids so not sure my opinion matters much

I just don't get it. All I see is the drawbacks as I just don't like babies.
I doubt I'd cope with the stress tbh either as I can be quite introverted. You don't get options on things like that with kids
 
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413x said:
I'm 31 and I'd say 40 would be my limit. But I don't want kids so not sure my opinion matters much

I just don't get it. All I see is the drawbacks as I just don't like babies.
I doubt I'd cope with the stress tbh either as I can be quite introverted. You don't get options on things like that with kids
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I was the same at your age but, i changed my mind! Our daughter was planned, well, you know, we wanted a child and really wanted a girl! Best thing ever in life.
 
Tosno said:
Clearly over 45 is too old, as it's almost impossible to get pregnant naturally and to carry the baby to full term.

In saying that mother-in-law is now pregnant at 42 naturally and Mrs Tosno will have her first sibling at 25 :D
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Do I need to buy presents for your MIL as well?

Thanks Trump :mad:
 
413x said:
I'm 31 and I'd say 40 would be my limit. But I don't want kids so not sure my opinion matters much

I just don't get it. All I see is the drawbacks as I just don't like babies.
I doubt I'd cope with the stress tbh either as I can be quite introverted. You don't get options on things like that with kids
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Same here. Don't like kids/babies at all. The drawbacks tend to overwhelm it for me as well and objectively speaking, I don't see an upside. I've been in enough hospitals, hospices, age-care facilities and soup kitchens to realise that it don't necessarily guarantee gramps or nanna and foot rub on Christmas day from the grandkids.

But in the spirit of the thread, whatever age you feel too old and tired to bother with the inconvenience I guess. Late 30s?
 
I've never wanted children and I don't want them now. I think if I'd wanted them, then 21 would be the ideal age. I just couldn't handle children in my house now and it's why I won't date single mothers. I have a very "zen" home setting and don't want to disturb it.

I respect people who father children in their 40's though - that's a big commitment knowing that you're going to have to be active in your 50's and beyond. The guys I know who have done it late in life are very fit and active.
 
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Had our son when I was 35, perfect age I would say, old enough to have lived a bit but young enough to be an active dad.

Life doesn't end when you have kids, it is different but mostly a lot more rewarding.
 
Just to add to this.
I am 45 and now have a 7 months old daughter. My partner, she is 34.

I am finding it fine. I do not see age as a problem at the moment. I still feel and act younger majority of the time.
 
I'm late thirties and have a seven and nine years old. I feel sorry for the dad's on the side of the rugby pitch in their late fifties with similar age kids. They look very tired and grumpy :)
 
I'm 31, partner is 30, we had our first child a couple of months ago... I believe she was classed as an "older mother" though it does seem to be becoming more popular now.

64 does seem excessive, I guess there's always special cases but can imagine it being a lot for a 64 year old to go through!
 
I'm 46 and have a 10 yr old son, my work mate is 47 and has 4 kids, the youngest being 21. He definitely would have preferred a bit later as his first couple weren't planned, while on the other hand I wouldn't have minded a year or two earlier but sometimes things just don't go as planned. Ideally early 30's and maybe late 40's to 50 at the absolute upper end.
 
I'm 41 and my wife has just turned 41. We've been together since we were 19 and our kids are now 21, 18 and 13.

I've worked hard and been lucky work-wise so now earn a very nice salary. A decent chunk of this is from my Forces pension.

I don't think I would recommend having kids so young for my children as the odds of making it work as a family must be stacked against you but I have no regrets.

I'm very fit, I guess as I run 9 or 10 milers every week and enjoy the odd half marathon formal event!
 
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I was 25 when we had our first and 28 with the second. I'm now 30 with the eldest being 5. It's a nice feeling knowing that if I do make old age then my kids will have not been far behind me on the journey, 60 when I'm 85, etc.

My Mrs and I used to look quite fresh faced and we would get the odd comment about being too young - this was to be honest normally by older parents but my Mrs and I used to brush it off as we both fully agree it was better having them a bit younger.
 
I'm 41 now (wife just turned 30!) and had our first 18months ago. Planning our 2nd and last soon. To be honest I wish I had done it a bit sooner as a life of youthful excess is starting to catch up with me now!! Can't imagine I'll make the 3 score and 10 which makes me a bit sad, sad about the things I'll likely miss such as grand kids and such, unless our little lady starts early!! (Which she better not!!)
 
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