Lunch with the opposite sex

Rifte · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:22

No issue with this, and in most professional environments its a necessary aspect of any business in my opinion.

Its only inappropriate if either the male or the female has designs on the other because the 'meeting' is moving outside the parameters of its purpose.

In short if it is appropriate or not depends on the intentions of the parties involved.

Raz · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:23

Might have missed this here but wasn't one of the points raised that people weren't comfortable with their spouses having lunch with someone from the opposite sex and so wouldn't do it themselves. Presumably all the guys here saying it's not an issue are happy with their partners to have lunch alone with another guy?

In any case, what does it matter? Can't force someone to be friends/have lunch with anyone, let alone with a member of the opposite sex.

MikeTheNative · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:24

There is still a bit of context needed though. Going for a drink/lunch with a friend/ work colleague etc would be fine. But asking a person to dinner you have just met is probably too far.

Rifte · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:27

Raz said:
Might have missed this here but wasn't one of the points raised that people weren't comfortable with their spouses having lunch with someone from the opposite sex and so wouldn't do it themselves. Presumably all the guys here saying it's not an issue are happy with their partners to have lunch alone with another guy?

I would only have an issue with this if I knew for certain that the 'guy' had ulterior motives for meeting my wife and wanted to the move the purpose of the lunch engagement to something else.

Realistically I would never be able to find this out though.

SPG · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:30

America is broken.

Been broken since the cold war ended as the idiots have nothing else to do, its all our fault tbh, we should have sunk the ships with the religious nut-jobs on when they left in the first place.

Nasher · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:31

Personally I don't see it like that

SPG said:
America is broken.

Been broken since the cold war ended as the idiots have nothing else to do, its all our fault tbh, we should have sunk the ships with the religious nut-jobs on when they left in the first place.

Naa they have loads to do. Most of the middle east is still there.

enkoda · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:31

Isn't the obvious answer that Pence, being an evangelical Creationist, is worried about coveting another man's wife and/or limiting any possibility of political scandal?

joey1211 said:
You're sayin' lunch don't mean nothing, and I'm sayin' it does. I've lunched with a million ladies and they all meant somethin'. We act like they don't, but they do. That's what's so cool about 'em. This sensual thing's goin' on that nobody's talkin about, but you know it and she knows it.

Have you got a lunch date with Mia?
Better hope her hubby doesn't find out....

dirtychinchilla · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:31

I probably wouldn't go for a meal with a lady that wasn't my fiancé or a member of my family, but since settling down I don't really have many female friends any more! There are probably a couple, but I'd see them with their boyfriends because in the first instance the chances are their boyfriend is my friend.

Would I have an issue with it? Probably not, but then I still probably wouldn't go for a meal with them anyway.

foster grant · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:32

I can just imagine what my wife would say if I told her I'm going to have lunch with another woman lol

glenimp617 · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:36

so what about other threads on here (or posts in the relationship thread) when people say their girlfriend has been found having lunch with other men. The comments which follow certainly don't reflect the comments on this thread.

Raz · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:38

SPG said:
America is broken.

Been broken since the cold war ended as the idiots have nothing else to do, its all our fault tbh, we should have sunk the ships with the religious nut-jobs on when they left in the first place.

It's a bit of a stretch to think this is a 'problem' with America. I imagine a lot of people feel the same way in other places, though admittedly perhaps not as many (in the West).

Posters here say they've no issues, but would their partners be 100% ok?

Captain · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:41

People react to this discussion like 2 people are having a candle lit dinner with romantic music when in reality it's more of a quick lunch in a noisy pub or bar.

Married or not, people can have friends of the opposite sex and not cheat, is there no trust anymore?

hornetstinger · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:42

foster grant said:
I can just imagine what my wife would say if I told her I'm going to have lunch with another woman lol

"Just enjoying dinner with this lady"

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CLK8INNWcAABEyB.jpg:large

Raz · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:43

Clov!s said:
People react to this discussion like 2 people are having a candle lit dinner with romantic music when in reality it's more of a quick lunch in a noisy pub or bar.

Married or not, people can have friends of the opposite sex and not cheat, is there no trust anymore?

Are you married?

dl8860 · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:45

Just can't believe 38% of women would think it inappropriate to get a lift with a male. That is some middle eastern ****

Kronos · 4 Jul 2017 at 09:48

Tone1979 said:
How, in this day and age can this be considered odd?!

It is not, it is the Americans that are odd.

Puzzled · 4 Jul 2017 at 10:02

dl8860 said:
Just can't believe 38% of women would think it inappropriate to get a lift with a male. That is some middle eastern ****

Probably more that at least 38% of women believe a bloke will only do something nice because ultimately they want to get laid. Tbf that seems about right

moogle · 4 Jul 2017 at 10:08

Freefaller said:
Er. no. I do it often. What a stupid assertion he's making (he's implying that men and women can't be friends basically).

To be fair he wasn't saying anyone can't spend time alone with someone other than their partner, he's just saying he wouldn't.

MonkeyMan said:
Probably more that at least 38% of women believe a bloke will only do something nice because ultimately they want to get laid. Tbf that seems about right

Exactly! You can see the pattern of more % of females saying it's inappropriate vs the % of men.

Captain · 4 Jul 2017 at 10:10

Raz said:
Are you married?

No, why does that matter?

I've been in long term relationships and wouldn't be bothered at all if she'd have had lunch or a meal with another guy.

It's a different situation if it's a home cooked meal for e.g. but a public place? Honestly who cares? No trust then you should be single.

Roar87 · 4 Jul 2017 at 10:10

SPG said:
America is broken.

Been broken since the cold war ended as the idiots have nothing else to do, its all our fault tbh, we should have sunk the ships with the religious nut-jobs on when they left in the first place.

Funny, they're saying the same about Europe and our particular brand of religious nut