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[Six6siX]

I can choose not to go to a nudist beach. If I went and found it offensive it would be entirely my own fault.

You can also choose not to look at someone elses breasts while they are breastfeeding or at someone elses shlong at the urinal. There's nothing offensive about nudity itself, its individual perception and the associated stigma that you seem to have attached to encompass ALL nudity regardless of context.

I don't need to look at nude models; they aren't allowed in general publications such as newspapers - you have to actively seek them out.

Have you seen a page 3 girl before?

A nude statue is intrinsically different from a real person. There is no need for embarrassment. You don't need to avert your eyes or awkwardly apologise. A statue is stone.

Why is there a need for embarrassment?

Even without locks, they still have doors.

Bedrooms also have doors. Why?

Why do all these places have doors? Is it not for privacy? Please explain why you think privacy matters in the home, but not in public? Ie, so a public urinal is fine, but you'd close the door whilst in the loo at home? Isn't consistent.

It is for privacy - but only in part - and its optional - you don't have to close the door when using the loo or having a shower or sleeping. It's not a prerequisite! That's why I asked my original question: why you think it SHOULD be done behind closed doors when in actual fact, there is no requirement to do so and there is no widespread alignment with your own view on this.

What about open plan bedroom and bathrooms? No doors there.
Mezzanine living spaces?

 

[Freefaller]

Figures

Well it is a **** thread to be fair

It's where I do some of my best work.

Ditto - it's the ****.

 

[FoxEye]

It doesn't shut you out, it may make your arguments less valid in some people's eyes though.

Like if I tried to argue on mumsnet that giving birth isn't painful.

It's not just me. Are you going to disregard everyone else in the thread who had a similar opinion, because of *my* circumstances?

 

[FoxEye]

It is for privacy - but only in part - and its optional - you don't have to close the door when using the loo or having a shower or sleeping. It's not a prerequisite! That's why I asked my original question: why you think it SHOULD be done behind closed doors when in actual fact, there is no requirement to do so and there is no widespread alignment with your own view on this.

What about open plan bedroom and bathrooms? No doors there.
Mezzanine living spaces?

I always close the door when going to the loo and assumed it was normal. Likewise when I'm getting changed.

If that is not normal, in the company of strangers (ie, not just you & your wife, say a shared house) then I must reconsider. But in every place where I've lived with others (during uni), we always closed the door when using the toilet/getting changed.
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Is that not the norm?

 

[Freefaller]

It is for privacy - but only in part - and its optional - you don't have to close the door when using the loo or having a shower or sleeping. It's not a prerequisite! That's why I asked my original question: why you think it SHOULD be done behind closed doors when in actual fact, there is no requirement to do so and there is no widespread alignment with your own view on this.

What about open plan bedroom and bathrooms? No doors there.
Mezzanine living spaces?

He'd hate in in my homes... doors open when having a shower/pee, doors open in bedrooms when changing... topless sunbathing!! I even have had communal showers!

My lack of prudishness has ruined my life...

 

[tom_e]

I always close the door when going to the loo and assumed it was normal. Likewise when I'm getting changed.

If that is not normal, in the company of strangers (ie, not just you & your wife, say a shared house) then I must reconsider. But in every place where I've lived with others (during uni), we always closed the door when using the toilet/getting changed.
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Is that not the norm?

Never been the norm in my houses, pretty much an open door policy all round.

 

[FoxEye]

Never been the norm in my houses, pretty much an open door policy all round.

When living with randoms? Ie, not your spouse/kids?

Seriously? I'm not sure that's typical behaviour.

 

[adolf hamster]

It's nothing to do with a lack of wife/kids or a normal life, it's simply the fact you don't go out in public to have the experience of said situations, honestly when was the last time you were even out in public where a woman was breastfeeding?

never?

only private events did i note women openly breastfeeding, in the home of their family where everybody present knew full well they were in charge of a newborn and needed to feed said newborn.

that said, it wasn't exactly done in the vein of "show your boobs then feed the child" it was all very much the baby covering any sensitive areas.

yes there needs to be a certain level of discretion, however discretion is not the same thing as denying the legal and biological right of the mother to feed her child, just that she should do so where the people who may be observing are either hidden from view or within the circle of people you know to be aware of your circumstances and who will accomodate as such.

what's wrong with going to the bathroom, to be among women, to feed your child away from those who *may* find the act unsavoury (regardless of any logical arguments against such an act)?

legally there's nothing wrong with me walking the streets in speedo's, but i don't because i'm well aware nobody wants to see that **** so i save them the bother.

 

[tom_e]

When living with randoms? Ie, not your spouse/kids?

Seriously? I'm not sure that's typical behaviour.

Yep, they're no longer randoms if I'm living with them.

 

[FoxEye]

Yep, they're no longer randoms if I'm living with them.

Then that's slightly different. You might not be so intimate with the people in a random public toilet, or communal changing room/shower. They might be complete unknowns for the most part.

Still, that you'd leave the toilet door open just among friends is weird to me.

 

[tom_e]

Then that's slightly different. You might not be so intimate with the people in a random public toilet, or communal changing room/shower. They might be complete unknowns for the most part.

Still, that you'd leave the toilet door open just among friends is weird to me.

I have no problem with communal changes rooms either, I'm just not that bothered about people catching a glimpse of my naked body in all it's fuzzy glory to be honest.

If they want to take more than a passing glance then they better be buying me dinner.

 

[Freefaller]

When living with randoms? Ie, not your spouse/kids?

Seriously? I'm not sure that's typical behaviour.

You'd be surprised how many people are laid back like that.

 

[Ayahuasca]

Are they even your friends if you haven't seen their tackle?

 

[FoxEye]

You'd be surprised how many people are laid back like that.

I really want to make a poll thread for this now But I think it would be pushing my luck.

 

[CREATIVE!11]

Are they even your friends if you haven't seen their tackle?

Jesus we're going way too far now....

 

[FoxEye]

Are they even your friends if you haven't seen their tackle?

Is this OcUK or a swingers forum I've stumbled onto by mistake?

 

[Freefaller]

Are they even your friends if you haven't seen their tackle?

It depends if you go fishing together I guess. And how prized "it" is.

 

[V F]

Is this OcUK or a swingers forum I've stumbled onto by mistake?

People share too much information.

 

[Ayahuasca]

Jesus we're going way too far now....

That's what she said.

Is this OcUK or a swingers forum I've stumbled onto by mistake?

I've never partaken in said activities but I'm pretty sure that requires more than just viewing some goods.

It depends if you go fishing together I guess. And how prized "it" is.

Ah, I knew there was a catch.

 

[V F]

Terrible.