Confrontation Yes/No?

Neil79

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Neil79

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I'm one of those people that will stand up for my self when needed and will stand up for myself if my family is in danger, however I do have a habbit of avoiding verbal confrontation and that I find annoying. I'll go over the event in my head " I should've said this or that " etc.

Here's an example, today I was walking through the shops in an ok mood, I walked out of a charity shop and this bloke walks past me, looks at me, didn't bump into me or was in each others way and as he walked through the doors behind me said " Watch where your going ". There was nobody else behind me so clearly it was aimed at me.

In my head I just said to myself Just leave it, Don't rise to it. But what would you have done in this situation?

1) Felt it was not worth the agro
2) Faced him and said a few words back?
3) Hit him
 
Depends on my mood at the time really. Since you hadn't done anything wrong I'd either,
Think nothing of it as the person doesn't effect my life in any way so he can say what he wants.

Or if I'm not in the best of moods I'd probably have asked him what he meant by it and see if he can come up with a valid reason, and having took this approach a few times it's always amusing to hear what they have to say.
 
I don't tend to lower myself to confrontation but I might have let out an audible laugh if I was in the mood. Most of the time though my brain doesn't move fast enough and they're gone before I react.
 
The guy is a plank clearly, not responding was the right choice. If he physically assaulted you, go kung-fu by all means but it isn't worth it otherwise
 
1. Not worth it. If you're looking for an argument or a fight go with 2 or 3 but frankly most people have better things to do. Besides is "watch where you're going" really that offensive? If he'd called you a ******** or something you might have a right to get offended but that? He might have genuinely thought you weren't looking where you were going rather than looking for a fight. I think you're overthinking this.
 
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Some people always have to feel superior and he sounds just like one of them. If you had said something he'd probably have had to have the last word and escalated things. Ultimately there's little to be gained in that situation. Confrontation is only worth while when there's a definite benefit to be had.
 
Neil79 said:
I'm one of those people that will stand up for my self when needed and will stand up for myself if my family is in danger, however I do have a habbit of avoiding verbal confrontation and that I find annoying. I'll go over the event in my head " I should've said this or that " etc.

Here's an example, today I was walking through the shops in an ok mood, I walked out of a charity shop and this bloke walks past me, looks at me, didn't bump into me or was in each others way and as he walked through the doors behind me said " Watch where your going ". There was nobody else behind me so clearly it was aimed at me.

In my head I just said to myself Just leave it, Don't rise to it. But what would you have done in this situation?

1) Felt it was not worth the agro
2) Faced him and said a few words back?
3) Hit him
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I would have said something back but i have a short fuse and although always try to avoid confrontation I never back down if someone else initiates it. I usually have to consciously make an effort to stop from getting physical in a lot of cases.

Actually had a great example last week on the tube. I got onto a tube that was relatively empty and headed to the seat closest to me right next to door I entered from. A couple of blokes entered through the next doors down, one of them charged along the carriage ignoring several empty seats, barged me out of the way and sat right in front of me. Needless to say some choice words were exchanged and I had to remove myself from the situation before I battered him.
 
I don't look for it but if someone starts some verbal I find it very hard not to push back just as hard or just try to wind them up.
 
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