My dad tried to kill himself last night

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My dad took a bus to Niagara falls and tried to jump last night. Somebody stopped him and now he's in the psychiatric ward at a hospital 200Km away. He has 35 cents to his name and one change of clothes. He got evicted from his apartment after not paying his rent for 7 months. I can't take him in because I live with my mother and she hates him and there's no way for him to get back to Toronto (he's broke) when he gets out and no way for him to get his stuff, including his clothes, from his apartment because in Ontario once you get evicted you can't get your stuff back.

I'm very sad and need some E-hugs.
 
honestly i read through that expecting a punch line. wow, what a run of events. does canada not have any kind of social housing or help for people who are effectively homeless?
 
Though sounds a bit late now have you tried getting in contact with the landlord in regard to his stuff? IIRC there is a "duty to accommodate" obligation in Canada in cases of mental illness, etc. (as in leeway for dealing with eviction and property, etc. not an expectation of housing them).

Horrible situation to have to deal with.
 
Terrible news. All you can do now is be there for your dad. He is clearly a troubled man, but he is one of the reasons you are here and now it's time to pay back the help he gave you growing up.
Be patient and try to understand his problems. It can seem very selfish when people try to commit suicide, but remember they were living in a very dark place and could see no way out.
Be that way out.
 
Glad someone was there in the right place at the right time. Canada doesn't sound like it has the welfare I imagined!
 
Fml i wasnt expecting this. I saw the thread title expecting a serious thread... saw the first line and expected a bait title joke thread.. read 2nd line.. felt really bad and realised it was serious.

Im glad someone managed to stop him and hes safe for now. Try getting in touch with the landlord and explain the situation to see if you can help to get his stuff. Theres has to be some provision in canada for supporting someone in this position surely, its not as if canadian healthcare is backwards.


My thoughts are with you and your family in this difficult time.
 
Sorry to hear this dude. On the bright side at least he is still here.

Tell him he cant go anywhere just yet as you're miss him.

He probably just need an anchor to know that he's actions will have consequences and he has obligations as a father to you.

Gonna get your self over there assuming your in the UK?
 
sorry to hear that, why not pay for his trip back to Canada, even better go get him. Also contact some homeless and mental health charities they should be able to at least tell you where to seek help if not more.
 
Christ that's crap fella. What's the situation? Hold old is he? How old are you? Are you able to help him at all? Is he hitting the bottle? I only ask these questions to determine how best to offer advice as I've got a lot more experience in this than anyone should have sadly.

Luckily someone was there, and this is your chance to help someone who clearly thought he was out of options. Drop me a trust if you want, I'm more than happy to chat and offer what support I can. Or post it on here and throw out a larger net, entirely up to you.

All the best mate, just remember that where he is in life, the only way is up.
 
Holy **** mate, sending you e-hugs can't imagine what you're going through but hope you can find enough strength for both you and your dad.
 
I think money and clothes is the last of his worries if doesn't want to be here anymore.

I know exactly how it feels to be in that situation though so my sympathy goes out to you.
 
yikes, sorry to hear that, might still be worth getting in touch with his landlord regardless of legal requirements you can always just ask if you can pop by and grab his things

presumably there is some sort of social services you can call too - I guess you can hopefully cover his bus fair or train fair etc.. to get back to wherever he needs to get to
 
dowie said:
yikes, sorry to hear that, might still be worth getting in touch with his landlord regardless of legal requirements you can always just ask if you can pop by and grab his things

presumably there is some sort of social services you can call too - I guess you can hopefully cover his bus fair or train fair etc.. to get back to wherever he needs to get to
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I thought post eviction retention was so the landlord could recover some or all of the costs of the seven months of unpaid rent?

Awful situation for you OP.
Have an e-hug.
There certainly is no easy way to sort what you have stated.
Are there any other family members?
 
Canadians are a loving and caring lot are they not? Also, won't the state support him?

Regardless, dealing with family members who are trying to end their life is not an easy situation to be in. I've been through the same before so know how you must be feeling right now.

Hold strong and support your father as best you can, he will need a family member or two around him in addition to a medical team to help him out his current situation. On that note you can have a very big hug from me and a real one if you can make it to London (the UK one not the Canadian one).

PS. If you want to talk get in touch!
 
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