Kids swearing

[Stolly]

My Mrs has a 7 year old child. This child swears, and has recently taken to chalking the F word, with another four letter word for Urine about the place outside the house (her house)


We are considering moving in. I said last night that my ground rules are

Kids don’t swear in front of me
Her kids don’t swear in front of my kids
She doesn’t swear in front of my kids.

She’s being “I don’t care if kids swear so why should I change who I am around you ?” Basically making it seem I’m the one with the problem.

Kids swearing, yes or no ?

 

[Rich1988]

Young Kids should not be swearing, it shows a lack of control/restraint on the part of the parents

 

[JBuk]

It’s a no from me and your missus sounds lovely lol

 

[Zefan]

With an attitude like that, I'd reconsider the entire relationship to be honest with you. Lack of willingness to even consider compromise when you're showing that level of commitment is a massive red flag in my opinion.

 

[SpeedFreak]

“I care if kids swear so why should I change who I am around you ?”

In all honesty, is someone who is happy for a 7 year old to be swearing really a person you want around your kids?

 

[The_Abyss]

Why is this only an issue now you're considering moving in?

 

[Kenai]

Sounds like a lovely environment

 

[Diddums]

Sounds like a classy woman.


Also, pics. She must be a 12 given your tolerance of that attitude.

 

[Stolly]

Why is this only an issue now you're considering moving in?

She’s only started doing it recently. Is an issue because in my home I have certain expectations. If she’s living in her own place, with her kids, she can do what the hell she likes. I’m not exactly a control freak.

 

[Em3bbs]

You're not going to change someone who has an attitude like that I'm afraid.

 

[Steampunk]

To quote George Carlin:

Respect is taught at home, if your kid is a disrespectful little ****, it's your fault. Not society's. Not music. Not video games. Yours.

 

[explicit4u]

What's the context of the swearing?


I don't think I'd mind if my hypothetical kids swore but it's very dependant on the context.

 

[Dyson]

I have three children, and would not allow them to swear in front of me.

I'm 41, and don't swear in front of my parents either, it's a respect thing in my opinion.

 

[CaptainRAVE]

Kids do whatever they want now. Parents don’t care. Try teaching the kids. Forget it.

 

[sigma]

Parentingfail.com

 

[Boycey0211]

Kids swearing? No.

This relationship? I'd be asking serious questions. She will apply the same parenting standard to your kid/s too.

 

[Stolly]

What's the context of the swearing?


I don't think I'd mind if my hypothetical kids swore but it's very dependant on the context.

It’s during the course of normal conversation. She’ll be talking about some other kid and drop the F bomb. For context, my Mrs swears a lot. Her father had a stroke when she was 9 and has brain damage. He has about a dozen words left and one of them is the F word which he uses ALL the time. So her kids, his grandkids, have been exposed since babies like she has since 9.

All of which I have sympathy for, however, I do not have brain damage. My children were not brought up around someone with brain damage.

 

[jsmoke]

I can't even fathom how you can be near somebody like that. It's a pretty big deal kids swearing imo. Totally indoctrinated at such a young age. Does it not make you ill?

 

[Kenai]

This just screams out as being a situation not to get any more involved in imo

 

[Ree]

I'm 41, and don't swear in front of my parents either, it's a respect thing in my opinion.

am 38 and still don't swear in front of my mam(i swear like a trooper normally btw), can also put me in my place with just 'the look' lol. i totally agree it is a respect thing.