Would you walk away over a difference of opinion?

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I've noticed these days that people seem to generalised more, and are more intolerant of other views. It seems certain subjects, brexit, politics, 9/11, the lizard people etc are taboo, and many people walk away from friends and even family.

I'm wondering how would you react if a friend or family member held a contraversial view, would you break contact or not?

I'll reply later in the thread as I don't want to bias the question.
 
Depends on the subject matter. If they thought that WTC7 was a controlled implosion and that the Jews were behind 11/9 then I'd probably just try to explain where they're going wrong. If it was that they believed the Royal family and other world leaders were a secret cabal of inter-dimensional, shape-shifting lizards hell bent on bringing a dystopian NWO to fruition then I'd probably just mock and ridicule them.
 
A good friend and I had a pretty bitter argument 3 or 4 years ago about religion, and she ended it pretty amicably by saying "ok we agree to disagree on this topic". So we just stay away from religious topics now and we're still good friends.
 
I remember years ago I had an argument with a really good friend about how she was pushing those close to her away as she was spending a silly amount of time with her new boyfriend (literally every night and all weekend) and as much as we all liked to see her happy friendships were a 2 way street. She threw a massive hissy fit, saying nobody else felt that way, that I was obviously jealous and walked away never speaking to me again.
She now has none of her old friends and he left her a couple of years later. See her around from time to time and she just looks rough. Put on a lot of weight, never wears make up or nice clothes anymore and her hair is always a mess. The complete opposite to the person I knew.

She cut me and her other friends out over a disagreement of opinion. Does she regret it? I don't know. I know it makes me sad though.
 
Ayahuasca said:
The globalists are off to live with the inter dimensional aliens soon so who cares.
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Someone watched/listened to Alex Jones on Joe Rogan. :D

To answer the OP — I have friends with differing views about all sorts of things but nothing so extreme as to completely break contact. There’s no one in my family (or my wife’s family) with particularly radical views either.

Having said that, Facebook was a fantastic tool during my 20s for filtering out the more toxic people I used to know.
 
Pawnless Endgame said:
A good friend and I had a pretty bitter argument 3 or 4 years ago about religion, and she ended it pretty amicably by saying "ok we agree to disagree on this topic". So we just stay away from religious topics now and we're still good friends.
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^ how to deal with life as an adult :)
 
I'm glad to see we got open minded people on the thread.. so far! :)

I agree with people on here. I personally can separate someones opinion from the person giving it. I don't like generalising people based on an opinion as I've been generalised my whole life because of how I look. So I like to see why someone thinks the way they do.

I've noticed a lot of people these days take a very binary view. That if someone has an opinion that its fixed and can never change. If they join a political party that they agree with every view that party has.

In my opinion the only people who can never change their opinion, or believe everything a political party says, is an idiot of the highest order, especially if they are losing friends and family over a difference of opinion.
 
We went to America a few years back for a family wedding and met loads of people and became good friends with one of the groom's best mates and his wife.

We all keep in contact via Facebook for ages until the Brexit referendum enters play - I ended up having a lively debate with the best mates wife that if I decided to vote leave then, in her words, "I will be denying my children the right to travel and get jobs in other countries".
Taking into account that she was an American currently living and working in Hong Kong, I made a point of highlighting the fact that being a different nationality hadn't stopped her from getting a job in another country to which I got instantly unfriended by her and her husband. Although, to be fair, I think she might have been born in Canada, so maybe calling her American was an insult to far.
 
BowdonUK said:
I've noticed these days that people seem to generalised more, and are more intolerant of other views. It seems certain subjects, brexit, politics, 9/11, the lizard people etc are taboo, and many people walk away from friends and even family.

I'm wondering how would you react if a friend or family member held a contraversial view, would you break contact or not?
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No. I for one believe what I hold in common with/the history I have with friends takes precedence over their political ideas or other controversial views. As for walking away from a family member, there's no chance... well maybe if I encountered them tattooed up with swastikas and getting seriously mental, and even then I'd be pleading with them to come back to sanity before heartbreakingly cutting them off.

One of the disagreements along these lines in my family is between myself and my Dad; he's of a cold war era mindset and despises the Russians as the cause of all ills (as per the mainstream media), whereas I'm much more sympathetic regarding them. Also my brother voted remain, I voted leave - we have a difference of opinion there, but we have a vast history of friendship and 'brothership' (for a lack of a better word). We don't take issue with each other regarding that difference of opinion.
 
Dis86 said:
I remember years ago I had an argument with a really good friend about how she was pushing those close to her away as she was spending a silly amount of time with her new boyfriend (literally every night and all weekend) and as much as we all liked to see her happy friendships were a 2 way street. She threw a massive hissy fit, saying nobody else felt that way, that I was obviously jealous and walked away never speaking to me again.
She now has none of her old friends and he left her a couple of years later. See her around from time to time and she just looks rough. Put on a lot of weight, never wears make up or nice clothes anymore and her hair is always a mess. The complete opposite to the person I knew.

She cut me and her other friends out over a disagreement of opinion. Does she regret it? I don't know. I know it makes me sad though.
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Sounds like you were jealous
 
It depends

I worked with a girl and we got on really well, as in could have dated well. She was mixed race and interested in veganism etc.

When Trump was running for office she made statement in the office saying he was a racist. I countered that I wasn't sure he was as he hadn't said anything racist in public and was courting the black vote. She instantly got angry and said I had insulted her. I didn't bite as I could see what way that conversation was going.

It happened again over Brexit. On the day of the result she stormed in the office in a fury saying that any leave voter should disappear and die as they were all low IQ racists. I asked her why it was wrong to vote leave with your conscious if you simply if disagreed with the creation on the EU superstate. She didn't answer and nothing more was said.

We then had another lively debate where she admitted she was a creationist and didn't believe in evolution. It didn't get bitter but she absolutely refused to acknowledge any validity in the opposing arguement or consider any point of view.

We kept friendly but it definitely took a shine off things whilst I was still working there.
 
Thecaferacer said:
It depends

I worked with a girl and we got on really well, as in could have dated well. She was mixed race and interested in veganism etc.

When Trump was running for office she made statement in the office saying he was a racist. I countered that I wasn't sure he was as he hadn't said anything racist in public and was courting the black vote. She instantly got angry and said I had insulted her. I didn't bite as I could see what way that conversation was going.

It happened again over Brexit. On the day of the result she stormed in the office in a fury saying that any leave voter should disappear and die as they were all low IQ racists. I asked her why it was wrong to vote leave with your conscious if you simply if disagreed with the creation on the EU superstate. She didn't answer and nothing more was said.

We then had another lively debate where she admitted she was a creationist and didn't believe in evolution. It didn't get bitter but she absolutely refused to acknowledge any validity in the opposing arguement or consider any point of view.

We kept friendly but it definitely took a shine off things whilst I was still working there.
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Did she let you bang her though?
 
Thecaferacer said:
It depends

I worked with a girl and we got on really well, as in could have dated well. She was mixed race and interested in veganism etc.

When Trump was running for office she made statement in the office saying he was a racist. I countered that I wasn't sure he was as he hadn't said anything racist in public and was courting the black vote. She instantly got angry and said I had insulted her. I didn't bite as I could see what way that conversation was going.

It happened again over Brexit. On the day of the result she stormed in the office in a fury saying that any leave voter should disappear and die as they were all low IQ racists. I asked her why it was wrong to vote leave with your conscious if you simply if disagreed with the creation on the EU superstate. She didn't answer and nothing more was said.

We then had another lively debate where she admitted she was a creationist and didn't believe in evolution. It didn't get bitter but she absolutely refused to acknowledge any validity in the opposing arguement or consider any point of view.

We kept friendly but it definitely took a shine off things whilst I was still working there.
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And her name............. Albert Einstein :p
 
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