I'm in my 4th year of retirement and I'm 53 now so I have a certain amount of experience for this thread. I have been nodding my head at many comments and shaking my head at many others , as you do with most threads ofc
For me I paid my mortgage off before I turned 39 and then just saved whatever was left at the end of each month. Add to that my wife worked full time with the odd break of a few years here and there. I will point out I wasn't a higher rate tax payer and neither was/is she so we aren't talking big wages by any means. She gave up work 3 months ago to take a break after working solidly through covid and being put on to do more and more work until she finally said enough is enough (with me prompting her to come and enjoy the summer with me) too tempting a proposition to turn down admittedly
It really boils down to how much you value your time as you near the end of your working life/life. No one but you can put a value on what this is worth , however we all got to pay those bills. We live a simple life with no desire to spend money for spendings sake. Not interested in overtly showing off to anyone what we can or cannot afford to buy. We just go along in our little world doing what we want to do. We dont do foreign holidays, buy flashy cars, eat at top restaurants, wear labeled clothes or have the latest phones etc etc. What we do give each other is time together without pressures of work or family bearing down on us. Time is the key to having a peaceful and harmonious relationship. Time to talk and enjoy each others company and to make sure we are both moving towards the same goal in life.
You really dont need a lot in this life , people choose to make it complicated by thinking that 'luxuries' are 'essentials'