I see it from both sides.
Borrowing the max is a risk. Sometimes it's required.
But Sometimes it's a choice.
It was a choice for me. I could have been risk adverse and got a cheap flat. And it would have been a terrible decision.
I wouldn't expect a hand out to save me from this decision. But also wouldn't want to be belittled for it.
But then I don't really care what people on Internet say. I mean, if you cared about that and it hurt your feelings, Internet forums etc are probably not the place for you.
You just have to be comfortable with your decision, and the ramifications that come with it.
I expect this is one of those few times (ie inflation issue) people who didn't borrow the max can look smug. However most likely it wasn't the best decision. And they probably know it, as thier friend down the road who did borrow the max is sitting on a lot more wealth.
But if its the right decision for them, that's what matters.