OcUK Dadsnet thread

My daughter is almost 14 months old.

She goes to bed around 7pm (set routine) but often wakes up around 5am, screaming and crying wanting milk/food / nappy change and so we often have to get up. Does anyone have any tips so she can last till 6am?

Also she has started nursery we get the 30 hours free child care and have just discovered the tax free chidcare account which we haven’t used (we were not aware of this until the nursery sent a memo out regarding payments being returned this week). From my understanding they pay in up to 20%, up to a maximum of £500 every 3 months (£2,000 per year) the name of the benefit doesn’t quite fit for me and hasn’t been well advertised by the gov. I watched a YouTube video in which Martin Lewis basically said around 500k parents pay nursery fees this way and that their should be around 1m.

Has anyone used the tax free child account and is it easy to use / setup/ navigate ?
 
Last edited:
We've used the tax free account since our daughter started at the childminders/nursery at 11 months. My wife deals with it which means it must be pretty straightforward as she's generally terrible at dealing with anything involving paperwork :cry:
 
Bounce said:
My daughter is almost 14 months old.

She goes to bed around 7pm (set routine) but often wakes up around 5am, screaming and crying wanting milk/food / nappy change and so we often have to get up. Does anyone have any tips so she can last till 6am?

Also she has started nursery we get the 30 hours free child care and have just discovered the tax free chidcare account which we haven’t used (we were not aware of this until the nursery sent a memo out regarding payments being returned this week). From my understanding they pay in up to 20%, up to a maximum of £500 every 3 months (£2,000 per year) the name of the benefit doesn’t quite fit for me and hasn’t been well advertised by the gov. I watched a YouTube video in which Martin Lewis basically said around 500k parents pay nursery fees this way and that their should be around 1m.

Has anyone used the tax free child account and is it easy to use / setup/ navigate ?
Click to expand...

Ours gets up at 6 AM. Preemptive feed could work - do it in the middle of the night.

Thanks for the heads up on the tax free childcare account! Edit: the portal reads to me like as long as you're putting in your funds, you get them topped up anyway.
 
Last edited:
TommyV said:
Oh boy - Me nor my partner were able to sleep until 4am as our 1yo is a little under the weather following her first week at nursery, up just before 7am.

Attempting to get tweaked on coffee ASAP and have my first quarterly review for new role within the hour. Going to be fun! :-D
Click to expand...
Have been there , just wait till you start getting the nursery bugs then the fun begins.
 
Fringe said:
Have been there , just wait till you start getting the nursery bugs then the fun begins.
Click to expand...
We are hoping that her older sister (who also goes nursery) has slowly exposed her to some of these bugs over the last year so that this won’t be too much of a nightmare. Wishful thinking perhaps :-D

Said older sister had a real hard time for the first 2 months when she started, with it slowly getting better over the next 4 months or so

Thank goodness for the timings we have fortunately fallen into for nursery funding and free hours, when our eldest started we were touching £1200~ month for 4 days/week

Now we’re looking about roughly the same cost for 2 children to go at £600~ per child for the same hours
 
Last edited:
TommyV said:
We are hoping that her older sister (who also goes nursery) has slowly exposed her to some of these bugs over the last year so that this won’t be too much of a nightmare. Wishful thinking perhaps :-D

Said older sister had a real hard time for the first 2 months when she started, with it slowly getting better over the next 4 months or so

Thank goodness for the timings we have fortunately fallen into for nursery funding and free hours, when our eldest started we were touching £1200~ month for 4 days/week

Now we’re looking about roughly the same cost for 2 children to go at £600~ per child for the same hours
Click to expand...

We were fortunate with the timing aswell regarding the 30 hours of childcare.

Our bill is around £580 a month, with the tax free account that will drop to around £460.

Note my daughter only goes to nursey 4 days a week.
 
Last edited:
The bills for nursery are pure extorsion to start with and all you get for free are the sickness bugs , when our little one was in there it was the most i had been ill for years
 
Bounce said:
We were fortunate with the timing aswell regarding the 30 hours of childcare.

Our bill is around £580 a month, with the tax free account that will drop to around £460.

Note my daughter only goes to nursey 4 days a week.
Click to expand...
Yeah good shout, I was thinking nursery bills but we also pay them via the gov accounts, it’s such a huge help overall.
 
Samueltastic said:
We're lucky our 14 month old gets 30 hours free from September so we timed that well. He's been 2 days a week and first week he's gone back with a stinking cold :cry:
Click to expand...

Same happened with ours. A friend of mine told me to keep our little one topped up with vitamins , to ensure there immune system is tip top, so now my daughter is off formula we provide her with multivitamin drops, there is a milk aswell which is made by arla which also has vitamins in it, think it’s called big milk.
 
Last edited:
Bounce said:
Same happened with ours. A friend of mine told me to keep our little one topped up with vitamins , to ensure there immune system is tip top, so now my daughter is off formula we provide her with multivitamin drops, there is a milk aswell which is made by arla which also has vitamins in it, think it’s called big milk.
Click to expand...
That's a good point while ours isn't fully off he's only having formula before bed and if he wakes in the night so will probably be good idea to give him some drops too
 
TommyV said:
Just wait until you first lay your eyes on your little one as they enter the world for the first time, if you’re anything like I was, you’ll be a blubbering mess which I’m not ashamed to admit, experiencing emotions you didn’t know existed :-D


…and then the wild ride begins and doesn’t stop :-D
Click to expand...

Agree with you on this mate, When we had our little boy I was getting upset seeing my wife in loads of pain :( but was so happy when he arrived... My daughter on the other hand wasn't with us when she came out and she was taken straight for CPR, Everything around us was like a blur and it was tunnel vision and peoples voices didn't really sound like voices if you get what I mean! All ended well though and now she's 7 going on 17 :p
 
Samueltastic said:
That's a good point while ours isn't fully off he's only having formula before bed and if he wakes in the night so will probably be good idea to give him some drops too
Click to expand...

Yea we were pretty quick with taking our little one off formula due to the cost. Luckily she took to cows milk pretty well.

Just make sure you don’t give yours too much vitamins as that can be dangerous.
 
Bounce said:
Yea we were pretty quick with taking our little one off formula due to the cost. Luckily she took to cows milk pretty well.

Just make sure you don’t give yours too much vitamins as that can be dangerous.
Click to expand...
Yeah I know what you mean that stuff is like powdered gold in price. Thanks for the tip I'll be in the look out for dinner for vitamin drops.
 
Morning dads!

Just been reading the last few pages, so funny comments I must say!

I’m a dad of four ages are 8 (Boy), 11 (Girl) 18 (Boy) and 19(Boy)

2 dogs, 1 cat and a loving wife! Been through the mill last few weeks, had a grade two glioma (Brain tumour) resected 10 years back and annul MRI scans, it’s crossed the base of my brain so they can’t operate, put me on a trial medication Vorasidnib but wasn’t effective enough so now having a 6 week Proton Beam radiation therapy at UCLH London (2 weeks and 3 days so far, 3 wees and 2 days left) I was 50 the day after I started my treatment, I feel fit as a fiddle, run 50k the week prior and 45k the week before that, I’m fine with the treadmill in pro beam London it’s just seeing the poor children with no hair or in wheelchairs ….. breaks my heart as I have children, I’ve got radiation burn on the front left of my head and my hair started falling out in clumps yesterday, never felt like a cancer patient don’t like people fussing round me but what a slap in the face! …..anyways whilst of work I’m going to learn photography (been wanting to do this but never had the time) my point for a this is live life and enjoy your family, friends, life in general, you never know what’s round the corner!!!!!

Work have been amazing, I’m a data centre manager for TKMaxx so my managers are all over the globe!! I guess working for a good well valued employer is beneficial……
 
We've just had our first weekend away without the baby since she was born so 2.5 years.

We've been back for a few hours and I've just realised I'm exhausted even though we've done nothing today in comparison to the last couple.

I've come to the conclusion it's the little one that just zaps my energy because she never stops, always need to keep an eye on what she's getting into. My wife's just told me I'm being mean.
 
Because of half term the kids have a few of their friends come round. My god other kids are annoying! :cry:

I mean ours aren't perfect, but at least they eat everything, literally nothing is off the table, they also love vegetables and don't really like junk food. Their friends... "oh I don't like this, I don't eat that, etc..." and wasted a lot of food that we prepare for them :(

I don't understand how parents tolerate fussy eaters...

I'm sure this is a "me" problem.
 
Freefaller said:
Because of half term the kids have a few of their friends come round. My god other kids are annoying! :cry:

I mean ours aren't perfect, but at least they eat everything, literally nothing is off the table, they also love vegetables and don't really like junk food. Their friends... "oh I don't like this, I don't eat that, etc..." and wasted a lot of food that we prepare for them :(

I don't understand how parents tolerate fussy eaters...

I'm sure this is a "me" problem.
Click to expand...
Do your kids actually eat everything, or have adjusted the meals in your household to fit what your kids like to eat :D
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom