Looking for advice...

Shep_Cobain said:
Every weekday at around 4pm (while I’m still at work, usually in meetings), he calls me.

This afternoon I had a missed call, then a message about 10 minutes later saying “I’ve called you every night.” I haven’t opened it yet as I was at a family birthday this evening and hadn’t had a chance to respond. About five minutes ago, I then received another message consisting of just a “?”.
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your reply.....
hi mate - i'm not sure how i've somehow managed to get sucked into an episode of Holyoaks all because you offered to give me a hand with a bit of work me and my dad were going to do ourselves. i'm completely baffled how it's turned into this big ole drama - you didn't ask for payment prior to offering to help me and i didn't offer or agree to any form of payment - that's the beginning and the end of it and you absolutely know that despite all your weird protestations. i'm not sure what sort of issues you're encountering on your end that mean you're trying to mug me off for 120 quid when you could have just asked to borrow money if things are tight but ultimately they aren't my issues and because of how you behaved you aren't making them my issue.
with all that said and done, do me and yourself a favour, delete my number and **** off somewhere before this becomes a bigger issue for both of us. any further attempts at contacting me will be passed over to the police and logged as harrassment.

delete/block any and all methods of contact and forget about this utter bell end.
 
jaybee said:
I think 78 different people replied to this thread. I'd be up for a gofund me of £1.50 each for OP. £120 is a worthwhile price to conclude this, end the friendship and move on with your life being healthier mentally away from this person.
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I'd be up for this, accompanied by a message along the lines of "here's your money, courtesy of a bunch of random strangers from the internet who have turned out to be better "friends" than you've ever been"
 
Do you think it will get physical and, if so, how who will make the first move and when and where does it get taken?

Those are all fair questions.

If there's no real implications about the money beyond whining, ignore him.

If you think there are consequences, the ball's in your court.
 
Shep_Cobain said:
The job was originally meant to be done with my father, which had been planned weeks earlier, at no cost other than time together and lunch. He was fine and available. The only reason that plan changed was because you repeatedly pushed to do the job yourself and insisted on helping. At no point did you say you would charge a supposedly good friend, and at no point was I told there would be a cost. Being asked for money only after the fact is what upset me — not the amount, but the principle and how it was handled.
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This is the only paragraph you should keep from your original message.

The only thing your are missing is a statement to the effect of

“
I will not be paying you any money as this was not agreed beforehand.

Do not contact me or anyone in my family whether digital or in person again. Do not come to my house or the place of work of me and my wife. Do not attempt to contact my children in anyway. By proxy your wife and children are not to get in contact with my family.

Stop harassing me and my family. Any further contact will be referred to the police.
“

Then you report him to the police as soon as it is convenient for you, so that they have a record. This will make things quicker to escalate with the police if this person continues his behaviour.

Most importantly have you discussed this with your wife?
 
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Thekwango said:
your reply.....
hi mate - i'm not sure how i've somehow managed to get sucked into an episode of Holyoaks all because you offered to give me a hand with a bit of work me and my dad were going to do ourselves. i'm completely baffled how it's turned into this big ole drama - you didn't ask for payment prior to offering to help me and i didn't offer or agree to any form of payment - that's the beginning and the end of it and you absolutely know that despite all your weird protestations. i'm not sure what sort of issues you're encountering on your end that mean you're trying to mug me off for 120 quid when you could have just asked to borrow money if things are tight but ultimately they aren't my issues and because of how you behaved you aren't making them my issue.
with all that said and done, do me and yourself a favour, delete my number and **** off somewhere before this becomes a bigger issue for both of us. any further attempts at contacting me will be passed over to the police and logged as harrassment.

delete/block any and all methods of contact and forget about this utter bell end.
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Chuk_Chuk said:
This is the only paragraph you should keep from your original message.

The only thing your are missing is a statement to the effect of

“
I will not be paying you any money as this was not agreed beforehand.

Do not contact me or anyone in my family whether digital or in person again. Do not come to my house or the place of work of me and my wife. Do not attempt to contact my children in anyway. By proxy your wife and children are not to get in contact with my family.

Stop harassing me and my family. Any further contact will be referred to the police.
“

Then you report him to the police as soon as it is convenient for you, so that they have a record. This will make things quicker to escalate with the police if this person continues his behaviour.

Most importantly have you discussed this with your wife?
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Dont do either of these, long format messages aren't it. Obviously your cutting him off or paying him. If your cutting him off, theb dont reply and let him come to your door. Tell him then, or phone him up and tell him.

If you want to stay friends, submit and send over the cash.

Its that simple. Do not send massive texts, thats weird.
 
I just had 2 missed calls at work and a message saying he will come to my house.

I said the following:

I’m at work until Wednesday and can’t answer calls.

I’ve already made my position clear — I won’t be paying and I’m not discussing this, or the reasons why, any further.

Do not come to my house.

I’m not spending any more time or energy on this.

He replied saying this:

Its gone way past the money, cya Wednesday.

I replied:

If you come to my house on Christmas Eve when I am spending time with my family, I will be ringing the Police. This is the last time I will message or reply.

I feel physically poorly and im shaking with anger.
 
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