[DOD]Asprilla;11953670 said:
Family and friends come a distant second. For instance, I wouldn't let a friendship or family relationship stop me from moving to the otherside of the world for a job. In fact i wouldn't even consider them as influencing factors in the decision. I love my mates and family, but I haven't chosen to spend the rest of my life with them.
This I always find interesting - what people value the most? Family, Friends or Partner.
I suppose your partner IS your friend, and they're essentially family if you have kids together (of course one could argue where the line is).
Of course this revolves heavily around different factors:
- time you spend with each in a typical day / week / month / year;
- how they become a part of your life to begin with.
The first factor is obviously important but can be changed depending on your circumstances. I see my colleagues as friends, subsequently I spend more time with my friends than I would with a partner certainly if I was in a relationship.
On the other hand I might live with my family still and spend more portion of the time with them than friends / partner etc.
Of course time spent together could have an inverse effect on how much you care for them depending on the nature of the relationship.
This isn't even taken into account how long you've been with each category growing up. For me, family actually comes very low time wise since I grew up in a single parent family with no siblings.
The second factor I find also fascinating in that - you obviously don't choose your family because you're born with them. Many point out that you choose your friends - but I'd argue that you don't always choose them because you meet a lot of them through school, work and other friends. I certainly am not close to any of my school friends anymore since I went to uni.
Then with your partner, assuming you weren't married into an arranged marriage, I'd say it's very much your own choice. But then again, you could have met them through your friends / family / work, though you certainly are the one who makes the ultimate decision on sticking together.
The downer on that is of course - you can't really blame yourself for the family you're "stuck" with; and you can't totally blame having friends you might not like because they've simply been around all these years. Whilst with your partner, a bad relationship is pretty much all from your own direct decision, and it probably has a bigger impact if it falls apart than anything else.
I think I've long lost my train of thought and have started rambling...