Sorry guys for not coming back sooner and updating you all on the meeting etc. I'm getting it from all angles at the moment with new problems at work, I'm in dire need of a new job but don't know where to start, to add to everything else.
One plus however, the police have been in touch and it's No Further Action.
The safeguarding conference was extremely distressing! My lad is an absolute mess, so much so they're suggesting that this is causing him to develop additional needs and these will now impact on his ability to form and maintain interpersonal relationships in the future... Yeah well no ****! My Daughter has now come out and accused the boyfriend of smacking her, there is also evidence of emotional abuse from him now, making the kids feel guilty for missing me, telling them they're betraying mummy etc. The problem, they still no absolutely nothing about this guy, only his first name.
I have written evidence now of what the kids have said to the district nurse, which is worlds apart from what the kids told social services only a few days earlier. The difference is the ex was informed by the social worker about the accusations my daughter has now made about the boyfriend. A few days after they saw the nurse, something very telling in that report though is the statement from my little girl "Mummy says to say she's not telling us what to say".
Social services have given the ex 4 weeks to provide details of the boyfriend and if not they will be going to see their legal team.
Interestingly the ex contacted me via text the following day, asking me to meet her on the Saturday, I'd spoken to social services who advised he'd gone to see her after the conference as she'd failed to attend. He'd suggested trying to set up a meeting to which she'd initially agreed, but then advised she would contact me directly and without social services being present. Me and the social worker agreed any meeting would benefit from an independent witness being present. I replied saying I'd be happy to meet only with the social worker being present and have so far had no reply. So much for that.
Hopefully hear very soon from my solicitor as to legal aid.
As for the suggestion about doing a diary for my kids or something I'm going to look into maybe a private account on youtube and do some video diaries for them or something.